Just need to get some reassurance and to vent. I have had a rough couple of months. I lost my best childhood friend due to accidental drug overdose. My other best friend suffered a stroke and is not doing well. My other childhood friend lost her brother to cancer. I am stressed about my work. Money is very tight and my husband just went through a really bad situation at work. I am so anxious about everything. I feel like everything is out of control. Of course the constant news about Covid doesn't help. Are these emotions normal?
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Phillies Phan
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Absolutely, Missy. Over the past few years I’ve lost 2 childhood friends to incurable cancers. A woman who I had a crush on back when we were only about 14 is presently trying to rehab from a stroke and COVID that she likely caught in the hospital. Money issues are very common, especially with those whose livelihoods have been affected by the pandemic. Add in the good news/hope and then the dashing of those hopes regarding COVID news, and it’s no wonder we’re all so stressed.
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You're trying to breathe while there's more and more things rising around you trying to choke you. It's hell!
I honestly don't know the best way to make things feel a bit better, but sometimes I find that just simply writing about it can help you to compartmentalise each thing in your head so it feels less like an onslaught of horrible things at once. I use an online journal, but have also recently found this place to also be really helpful.
I honestly don't know the best way to make things feel a bit better, but sometimes I find that just simply writing about it can help you to compartmentalise each thing in your head so it feels less like an onslaught of horrible things at once. I use an online journal, but have also recently found this place to also be really helpful.
Yes, we all get upset over things in life. The only difference is that the anxiety makes things feel so much worse for those of us who are very sensitized. We just don’t have enough self confidence and knowledge to deal with these life happenings more effectively. There is no room for self blame or being hard on ourselves for our inabilities to cope. The true answer is to learn how to believe in ourselves and learn effective coping skills.
I’m sorry for your losses. Good friends are such treasures in our lives. Of course you are sad. Anyone would be. Don’t fight your feelings. Be sad. But after a few days/weeks then count your blessings and go on with your life. You won’t forget your wonderful friends but getting back into a normal routine is comforting.
Did your friends have family? Keep in touch with them and write letters saying how much your friend meant to you. If other people are also grieving then get together with them and talk about the people who have died. It’s good to be around other people who are also grieving.
The times we are going thru now are unprecedented. Give yourself some grace. We all are experiencing this Covid pandemic and will talk about it our whole lives.
Did your friends have family? Keep in touch with them and write letters saying how much your friend meant to you. If other people are also grieving then get together with them and talk about the people who have died. It’s good to be around other people who are also grieving.
The times we are going thru now are unprecedented. Give yourself some grace. We all are experiencing this Covid pandemic and will talk about it our whole lives.
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I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. I know it’s really hard to process the death of a loved one. Rest assured this too shall pass and they are in a Better Place now.
I can definitely sympathize with work being a source of stress and frustration. It’s totally normal to feel pressured due to tight money and uncertainty on the job. I know I feel like I do my best and it’s still not “good enough” at my work, and it leaves me feeling anxious and frustrated.
Just remember to be kind to yourself and reach out to family and friends for support. I know this is easier said than done, but it really helps. Speak to yourself as if you are speaking to a dear friend and reassure yourself it’s okay to be upset and stressed. You aren’t doing anything wrong. Be sure to get plenty of sleep and eat well to feel better and more able to cope with your situations during the day.
I hope this helps. Take care and God bless
-Camden
I can definitely sympathize with work being a source of stress and frustration. It’s totally normal to feel pressured due to tight money and uncertainty on the job. I know I feel like I do my best and it’s still not “good enough” at my work, and it leaves me feeling anxious and frustrated.
Just remember to be kind to yourself and reach out to family and friends for support. I know this is easier said than done, but it really helps. Speak to yourself as if you are speaking to a dear friend and reassure yourself it’s okay to be upset and stressed. You aren’t doing anything wrong. Be sure to get plenty of sleep and eat well to feel better and more able to cope with your situations during the day.
I hope this helps. Take care and God bless
-Camden
