Feel like I won't amount to anything in life

[Zoeb23]

I feel like I'll never get a job or get married and have kids. Right now my life seems okay but I feel in the future I'll be sad and lonely and just wishing to die...

 

[triceps]

Hi Zoeb23. Well that's no way to think about your life. I've had anxiety disorder since my early teens. I have no idea how old you are but maybe you'll have a better chance of accomplishing your goals if you gain a bit of confidence by concentrating on your strengths and what you can do. I somehow managed to start my own business, found a wonderful wife (completely aware of my anxiety), have helped to raise two knucklehead but genuinely kind kids. Basically I experienced some of the goals you feel are out of reach. I'm now 66 and on disability from my anxiety but have grown comfotable with my anxiety-ridden self. I'm confident that you'll write down your goals and figure out what changes it will take for you to accomplish them.

 

[Youssef]

I feel like I'll never get a job or get married and have kids. Right now my life seems okay but I feel in the future I'll be sad and lonely and just wishing to die...

Hi i feel the same too but i refused despair in my life, i dont know why but i guess something beautifull will coming up in the future... By the way my name is youssef 38 years old single never married.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Zoeb, just because you haven't gotten a job, gotten married, and haven't had kids at this point doesn't mean those things won't happen for you in the future.

 

[ladybj]

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I feel like I'll never get a job or get married and have kids. Right now my life seems okay but I feel in the future I'll be sad and lonely and just wishing to die...
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One thing about the Future..we don't know what it holds for us; however we get what we put out in the Universe. If you want to be happily married with kids and a job, you have to speak those things into existence. Your life will be what you think it will be.

 

[Youssef]

I feel like I'll never get a job or get married and have kids. Right now my life seems okay but I feel in the future I'll be sad and lonely and just wishing to die...

I feel the same way

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

The fact that I'm not married yet and don't have kids doesn't bother me and doesn't make me feel like I haven't amounted to anything. The reason is because I have other goals.

 

[smilingsoul]

There are many ways to have a successful life, the only specific thing to recommend having kids is passing your genes on to the future; but if you have siblings that might not solely be up to you! You do get to write your story - its not all in your hands of course, but the way you react to opportunities or challenges is one thing that is in your control. You don't have to do it all at once. You can make each little victory something to be proud of and build on.

 

[Hurt&Hopeful]

I think everyone that has severe anxiety and/or depression deals with these feelings a little bit. I know I have. I had this big vision of what my life was supposed to be like, and that's not how it has turned out in most cases. I AM married, but it's no fairy tale. We have our ups and downs, like most people, and I've made lots of mistakes in my marriage that I wish I could take back. I have a child, but my anxiety frequently makes me not the best mother like I wish I could be - some days I feel like I'm barely making it. But as I get older, I realize that most people around me feel exactly the same way. NOBODY has it together. NOBODY has the life that you think they do looking from the outside. Every type of "successful life" comes with it's own failures and pain - and every step or "milestone" we reach, there is another one there that we haven't made it to yet, and that feeling of inadequacy because of it.

My point is this: You are enough. You are enough as you are. Maybe you will get married, maybe you won't. Maybe you will have the job you imagined, and maybe it will be something completely different. But either way, you're enough - you have permission to take your life one day at a time, and if anxiety is the burden you have to bear, it's awful, but it's yours. Make it worth something and make it count. Use it to bless others that are going through it as well. There are more of us than you might think - today, I barely made it out of bed. My kid needed a "funny Christmas sweater" for school today, and I forgot about it, so I safety pinned some Christmas ornaments onto him and sent him off happy - it just has to be enough because this is what I've got right now - maybe tomorrow will be different, and maybe it won't. And maybe today your "enough" is something small like taking a shower, or going outside for a walk, or some small victory that seems way too big to handle today. But it's YOUR victory, and nobody else's. You got this.

 

[Husband/Father of 3]

Hi all, for a long time I have lived my life by the motto, "I'll be happy when (I have/I do/I get, etc.)" It was marriage, children, a job, a promotion, a nicer car, new house, etc. All of those things are great, but only give you temporary satisfaction and should not be the idols that we pin our satisfaction and purpose on. There are great things happening in all of our lives at the present time, it can be challenging to see it, but it is certainly there.

 

[smilingsoul]

That's very true HFO3. We can't live other peoples' lives, and while it can be tempting to look at what's going on "over there", we miss the opportunities in front of us if we do.

 

[Ghostdog21]

You’re way too pretty to think like that.

 

[lenamouse18]

Just because you are not at that point now, does not mean you will not get there soon. Everyone has different normative points in life where they get married, have kids, get careers, get promoted, etc. Everyone is different, and you will get there soon too, just don't lose hope, and keep your head up, it will happen. Some great things usually happen when we are least expecting them. Just don't lose hope, and great things will come your way