fear of making a mistake

[misst]

Hi
I am new here and I apologise in advance if I am rambling but I am at the end of my teether. For clarity I want to say I am over 40, happily married and have great kids. People say I am really confident (an actress of exceptional skill) and have great social skills. Now here is the problem Does anyone here suffer from severe terror of making a mistake especially at work. I have left one job because of this and have a job now that I really like but I have already feel the need to leave. What happens is I am shown how to do something and then I am too uncomfortable to ask for help and then if I make a mistake I panic. The hairs on the back of my neck stand up and I go cold. I know this sounds ridiculous but after too many mistakes I feel like I am being laughed at and the centre of attention which is not where I want to be. I don't know if this is too do with being bullied badly when I was a child but it is causing me big problems. I feel so alone and so pathetic.
Thanks for listening

ps I am also nervous about pressing post in case I have don't something wrong and people will laugh at me.

 

[Chris]

Don’t be nervous we are nice here. Welcome

 

[triceps]

Except for Chris. This forum has been very understanding of me and I feel like nobody judges you here. I agree with Chris, there's no need to be nervous.

 

[Hurt&Hopeful]

Welcome! Many people that struggle with anxiety are high performers, perfectionists, afraid of failing, etc. You're in good company and will NOT be laughed at here. I don't feel afraid making mistakes, but when I DO make one, it's like the world is ending. Also around 40ish, working mom, happily married, etc. So many things going on at once...of COURSE we make mistakes sometimes...

 

[JCP]

Hi misst. I think that many people have a fear of making mistakes. If you don't mind me asking, what type of job do you do?

 

[misst]

Thank you for the warm welcome everyone!

Hi misst. I think that many people have a fear of making mistakes. If you don't mind me asking, what type of job do you do?

Hi
I work in the police/court system and yes I agree that all people fear making errors but my fear is irrational. I feel all the panic symptoms and then because I work part time I worry constantly about the reaction I will get when I return to work. The I just want to leave the job because I am sure everyone is laughing at me where in reality no one had given it a second thought, It is ridiculous and I tell myself that but it makes no difference. It is hard to explain and I was interested to know if anyone else experiences this type of thing and has any insight.

thanks MissT

 

[triceps]

Thank you for the warm welcome everyone!


Hi
I work in the police/court system and yes I agree that all people fear making errors but my fear is irrational. I feel all the panic symptoms and then because I work part time I worry constantly about the reaction I will get when I return to work. The I just want to leave the job because I am sure everyone is laughing at me where in reality no one had given it a second thought, It is ridiculous and I tell myself that but it makes no difference. It is hard to explain and I was interested to know if anyone else experiences this type of thing and has any insight.

thanks MissT

I've got an anxiety disorder (GAD) that doesn't make me worry about making mistakes does make me overly care about reactions from people which in turn makes me stay away from gatherings, generally fear leaving the house unless absolutely necessary. I sure hope that you can hang in there at the job you like. I'll be working on not caring what others think of me, just concentrate on feeling better about myself.