Excessive crying From Anxiety? (Has anyone Else experienced that???)

[Tempast]

A couple days ago my Mom and me had a harsh altercation (Screaming, crying, Name calling- All from her), to the point she would yell at me for being around her days after. Naturally I was pretty anxious being around the house, even being in the kitchen with her for too long, with the drawn out silence, would have me blinking back tears. Why was I doing that? Am I okay?

 

[FinneousRex]

Sounds to me that you’re holding back emotion. If I excessively cry it’s because 1. I’ve been holding everything in for a while or 2. I am hurting so badly and I have no one around me to support or understand how I’m feeling. Kind of a rock bottom feeling. No, there’s probably not anything wrong with you. Maybe take some time to yourself, even if you can’t leave your house, maybe dim the lights in your room. Put some quiet music on or a calming show in the background, maybe like a candle or use an incense, surround yourself with things that make you comfortable (favorite blanket, pillow, stuffed animal, perfume, maybe an object someone special got you) and dedicate a few hours to just living in your feelings. Not worrying about what anyone else thinks or feels. Just taking YOU time. And sometimes “you” time may not be pretty. But allowing yourself to feel whatever pain can help you work through what’s bothering you and let you heal.

I know I went through something traumatic one time in my life, and literally for 4 months straight (no exaggeration) I cried from the moment I got up, to the moment I went to sleep. The only time I could keep it together was at work, but occasionally would go in the bathroom to let a few tears out during my shift. The whole drive home id cry. The attacks got so bad that I loss feeling in half my face and I started getting pain throughout my arms and chest (mimicking heart attack symptoms) from all the panic. It took a LONG time to heal from that. I’m still not quite the same, and that was 4-5 years ago. If after a couple weeks, you don’t find things are getting better, definitely get help. But try working through it on your own if you can’t get help right away. There are lots of resources online and through community health centers to get help if you have a tough time financially, etc. also, don’t overthink it. No matter what was said to you or blamed on you (unsure what your situation was with your mom), but just let yourself be you and feel your feelings. The tough thing about family is that they don’t know how much damage they are causing us. And it’s hard to make them understand. And you understanding that helps. I’m still working on trying to understand “stop blaming myself, they’re taking out their problems on me - it’s not my problem”.

Take it slow, take it easy, take some you time, and if you need it, get help.

 

[ScaredyKat]

I've found crying a good way to release anxiety tension in my body, however, doing physical things helps even better and has been less embarrassing for me. I started with a bush in my garden that enjoys being pruned (well - it always comes back!). I would go out and hack it to pieces and with every chop think about what was upseting me. But now I do physical training - I do weights and push ups and walk and run. This helps with my anxiety way quicker. Its like my thoughts cause my body to tighten up and then I feel more and more anxious; but if I can release that tension then I feel better and can think about what I am doing/need to do.

 

[JustBeHappyG]

Completely agree. Physical exercise helps me more as well.