Emotionally Dumping

[Panic57]

I'm always afraid to emotionally dump my baggage on people and burden them with my problems. I do have a couple people who I can partially spill out my emotions but I always leave some in check instinctively. I grew up with the expectations that I'm not allowed to be excessively emotional and that I'm responsible for my emotions and problems, therefor I need to fix them by myself. My mom on the other hand, emotionally dumps all over me when she's stressed out but she doesn't actually want my opinion, she just wants some ears. Which is fine but I was wondering if you have people who emotionally dump on you or do you usually emotionally dump on them? Do you hold back or do let it all go and get it off your chest?

 

[Quirah]

I think I have a lot of people in my life who emotionally dump on me, but it's fine because I can do the same to them. Like my best friend for one, she has a baby and she's always telling me her worries and things. In return, I tell her about my depression and anxiety. I also always emotionally dump on my grandmother. I think I do it more to her than anyone, because she listens and sometimes that's all I want and need.

 

[kelden]

Japanese people for the same reason, is a cultural tradition to not let your emotions out, at least not with strangers. They don't want to burden other people with their problems. So don't worry much about it, you can emotionally contain yourself with moderation, but not too much or you will develop frustration. My mother and brother also like to emotionally dump each other, and sometimes me, things can get pretty loud and somewhat aggressive sometimes. But I think It's their way to relieve themselves from tension and stress.

 

[pwarbi]

I'm English and I think over here e are also renowned for keeping that stiff upper lip and not telling anyone about any issues and problems that we might have. I myself was always a very strong person and if I ever had any issues then I wouldn't ask for help or pour out my emotions to anybody. In fact I was the person that other people came to for help and advice, so along with my own troubles I also had other people's to contend and try and help with as well.


I'm not saying that's the reason why I myself suffered from depression, but as the saying goes, depression isn't a sign of a person being weak, it's a sign that a person as been strong for too long and eventually it's always going to catch up with you I think if you bottle things up.

 

[thecorinthian]

You should have someone who loves and supports you, someone who won't mind listening to your problems because that's what being a friend is all about. If someone doesn't listen to you they might not care what you think and not really worthy of your time. Don't dump on people you love all the time though there are some problems we can deal with ourselves and some problems that are supposed to be shared. Take care my friend.

 

[pwarbi]

You should have someone who loves and supports you' date=' someone who won't mind listening to your problems because that's what being a friend is all about. If someone doesn't listen to you they might not care what you think and not really worthy of your time. Don't dump on people you love all the time though there are some problems we can deal with ourselves and some problems that are supposed to be shared. Take care my friend.[/quote']
The term emotionally dumping doesn't help a situation either though I feel, as that tends to suggest that you are only showing your emotions and feelings to a person, and that person isn't really interested anyway. If you are going to share your thoughts and feelings, choose wisely and only let a person be there for you if you are, or have in the past also been there for them.


You don't wan to 'dump' your issues onto somebody ho doesn't want to help and sometimes I feel that we are all too keen to think that a person is there for us, when really it's the last thing they are and we can sometimes mistake a friend for a person that is a good friend, and believe me there is often a massive difference.

 

[joshposh]

I have actually never had someone that I could dump my feelings on. It usually non responsive talks with my dog after long walks. For me it was embarrassing to dump that on others, so I started using my dog as a source of confiding. As weird as it sounds, it works. He doesn't give me hindsight responses, and never gives me any lip.

 

[pwarbi]

A lot of people will often turn to their pets I think, and if you don't have anybody else to turn to, then your pet is a good substitute. Depending what's going on in a persons life, sometimes they don't even need advice about things, they just want to let off steam and have that outlet, somebody (or something) to talk to and that's when a pet can be more help than I think a lot of people will realise. it probably also helps that in talking to your dog, you know for a fact that they aren't going to go and then spill all your secrets to somebody else like a lot of people will, and then gives you that sense of security in knowing that while you are pouring out your troubles, they aren't going to go any further.