Dying anxiety

Cuchculan · Nov 21, 2020

Nothing is the point of view of a person who believes in nothing. Why not study up on what other cultures believe in? Catholics have a heaven. Buddhists have reincarnation. Really depends on what you believe in life. In Buddhism they teach you about death from an early age. Because they see this life as just a learning platform for the next life. i like their view a lot. That life and death live side by side. Some people worry about death so much that they forget to live this life. Explore other cultures and how they view death. You might just embrace one of them.

Bobnnat · Nov 21, 2020

Building on what Cuch said, if you are fortunate to truly believe/have faith, in any religion that teaches there is an afterlife, then you can bring your mind around to that when you start fearing death. As I’ve stated previously, I believe that you either have such faith, or do not. It’s hard, at least for me, to allow myself to all out believe, if I’m forcing myself to do so. Other than true faith, all we can do is try to live each day in a healthy manner, and try to take pleasure in what’s occurring in the moment. Not easy, I know.

Sometimes I do admit, when I’m in the midst of a bad HA episode, I sort of wish for that exit ramp. When that happens though, I don’t allow my mind to dwell there.

My dad found comfort in an old poetic line; I have no idea why or even what it was meant to convey..maybe this makes sense to someone: “Oh death, where is thy sting; oh grave, where is thy victory”.

Cuchculan · Nov 26, 2020

Maybe the fear of dying is depression and a symptom of depression is hunger. Comfort eating. I can't imagine dying would make you feel happy. Thus I would look at depression. Let's face it, there is a lot of dying going on at the moment with Covid. Turn on the news you will hear of death a lot. Easy for such a thing to sink into your mind.

bin_tenn · Nov 26, 2020

Phil10 said:
I have been suffering more symptoms again like when I worry about dying I get the hunger symptom? I have become consumed about the fear of dying every day it rules my life. Perhaps more cbt would help? I always go through spells of anxiety or ocd about different themes and this is my latest one?

CBT is helpful, yes. It's really up to you to practice the techniques you learn through CBT and otherwise. You're the only person who can get you past the fear and anxiety, but it takes time and effort.

Bobnnat · Nov 28, 2020

Phil, a day doesn’t go by that I don’t think about my getting older, and the inevitable end result of the game of life. The best I can do is distract myself with work, chores around the house, and things that give me at least some temporary pleasure.

suzzeeb · Nov 28, 2020

Phil10 said:
I have been googling this again. I worry about it and worry there is nothing I can do. I had a breakdown in 2016 and went to hospital and had no control over things then.

I worry what happens when you die nothing it an after life? It makes me very anxious often being human makes me anxious too. Can anyone relax my fears have you suffered this type of anxiety and got over it? I guess it’s not good to be worrying over this stuff?

Is the key to live life and not worry about this I mean being an anxious person it’s hard as I would rather live forever. I worry when you die it will be a boring place unless reincarnation exists and you can come back again?

I am a Christian so while it's not like I look forward to death, I don't think anyone does, I truly believe what the Bible says - absent from the body, present with the Lord. I really do believe that, so while death is still something that is sad for us and the fear of the unknown is scary for anyone, I do find comfort knowing this is not all there is. Maybe even just talking to a pastor about your fears would make you feel better.

I guess if I'm wrong I will never know, but believing and having faith takes a lot of the fear out of it, and I know not everyone believes the same thing, but to me christianity is the only thing that makes sense as far as how everything works in the world and how everything got here. Just my opinion.

Izthewiz · Nov 28, 2020

Id not worry so much about dying as anxiety pretty much has robbed you of any real joy of the life that inside you and around you.
Do you remember the week before you were born?
I don't!!!
We all die I am a Christian and believe to be separated from the body is to be at home with the Lord.
Stop thinking about the what ifs??
You could write a giant book based off those.
Just understand you will die one day.
But not now, and enjoy your life.

mollyfin · Nov 28, 2020

Phil10 said:
I live in hope they find surrogates like the movie where you upload your mind to an android device.

Have you ever seen the show Black Mirror, specifically the episode "San Junipero?" That's what I'd like to be real. And maybe someday it will be, but probably not in my lifetime.

I'd like to believe there's more to this life. But at the end of the day I really do think our "self" is contained within our brain, and when we die, we simply cease to be.

Nonexistence scares me, but I also know that once I get there, if I'm right, well...it won't really matter.

Weirdly, the thing that makes me feel better about death is knowing that I've been preceded in it by several people I care about. Weirdly, not being the "first" one to go makes it seem less scary somehow. It makes no sense, I know. Maybe it's just seeing that the world hasn't spun off its axis; that while sad for those of us left behind, death isn't that "big."

My main issue is not wanting to know it's coming. Though I suppose I would appreciate having time to get my affairs in order, I'd rather just drop off one day without seeing it coming. Luckily for me that seems to be how deaths happen on both sides of my family.

suzzeeb · Nov 29, 2020

mollyfin said:
Have you ever seen the show Black Mirror, specifically the episode "San Junipero?" That's what I'd like to be real. And maybe someday it will be, but probably not in my lifetime.

I'd like to believe there's more to this life. But at the end of the day I really do think our "self" is contained within our brain, and when we die, we simply cease to be.

Nonexistence scares me, but I also know that once I get there, if I'm right, well...it won't really matter.

Weirdly, the thing that makes me feel better about death is knowing that I've been preceded in it by several people I care about. Weirdly, not being the "first" one to go makes it seem less scary somehow. It makes no sense, I know. Maybe it's just seeing that the world hasn't spun off its axis; that while sad for those of us left behind, death isn't that "big."

My main issue is not wanting to know it's coming. Though I suppose I would appreciate having time to get my affairs in order, I'd rather just drop off one day without seeing it coming. Luckily for me that seems to be how deaths happen on both sides of my family.

Don't completely rule out that God exists even though it seems difficult to believe. I can't believe the world and everything/everyone in it just happened out of no where. I know it's hard to imagine but it's probably worth spending some time looking into at least. Not trying to preach to anyone just don't want anyone to make a decision that big without thinking a lot about it.

mollyfin · Nov 29, 2020

Yeah I know it's possible - I'm not a scientist or anything like that so my understanding of everything is pretty low level. I'll find out when I get there, I guess. I've tried to be a Christian many times in my life, but I've never been able to make myself truly believe.

Mcarva · Nov 30, 2020

Phil10 said:
I have been suffering more symptoms again like when I worry about dying I get the hunger symptom? I have become consumed about the fear of dying every day it rules my life. Perhaps more cbt would help? I always go through spells of anxiety or ocd about different themes and this is my latest one?

I am so sorry you are going through this but know you are not alone. I have feared death since I was 10 years old, I’m now 62. Not a day goes by that I don’t think today could be the day. I am afraid to go to sleep at night for fear of not waking up. I just want to live before I die and I honestly don’t know if that will ever be. Been in therapy for multiple things a good part of my life. I hope you find the peace you are looking for

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