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Doctor appointment tomorrow and scared to go.

bigjetplane6

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I suffer from health anxiety. Severe health anxiety actually. I posted a post about a couple of changing moles I had. And how I freaked out I am about them.
Got the appointment moved up sooner to tomorrow and now i’m literally scared to death of even going to the doctor tomorrow and i’m thinking of not showing up.
I’m scared of getting bad news. I’m terrified to my stomach actually.
I have other health concerns that I told myself i would bring up the doctor but now with the appointment being tomorrow i’m chickening out.
Anyone ever get like this right before a doctor appointment and you actually don’t even go to it even though you were eager to even get an appointment before?
Please, what do I do?
Talk me into showing up to my appointment. :(
 

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I always worry too! But you have to think of it differently.
1. You go. You find out if anything is even wrong. If not, your fine! You can be put at ease. If not, it can ve fixed.
2. You don't go and continue to sit and worry all day.

I say go with option one. I say knowing is much better than worrying in the dark. Also I suggest if you tend to forget things, write it down and bring it with you. So you don't miss anything.
 

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Yes, please do go to the appointment. Not because I think there's a chance that something is wrong, but so you can see that it really isn't so bad. I recommend speaking to the doctor about this intense anxiety as well. They should be able to give you a few options for addressing it.
 

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I suggest you go really. Think about the relief you are going to get when you get good news. Ask every single question in your mind. Even if, slim chance, you have an ailment then you treat it early.
 

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Grace, Belize and Bin are all spot on. You can’t not go. You’ll beat yourself up afterwards if you don’t. One of my go to sayings helps me at times like this...”We do these things not because they are easy, but because they are hard” (JFK). There’s nothing to it, but to do it. (Damn Yankees).
 

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I suffer from health anxiety. Severe health anxiety actually. I posted a post about a couple of changing moles I had. And how I freaked out I am about them.
Got the appointment moved up sooner to tomorrow and now i’m literally scared to death of even going to the doctor tomorrow and i’m thinking of not showing up.
I’m scared of getting bad news. I’m terrified to my stomach actually.
I have other health concerns that I told myself i would bring up the doctor but now with the appointment being tomorrow i’m chickening out.
Anyone ever get like this right before a doctor appointment and you actually don’t even go to it even though you were eager to even get an appointment before?
Please, what do I do?
Talk me into showing up to my appointment. :(
Thats common for us. I ussually just go with all my anxiety and manage to get in the door. Be honest with them. It helps alot.
 

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Please go. Like many of us here, I get son worked up before every appointment, like I’m walking to the guillotine to get beheaded. Mammogram appts are the worst for me because there’s always some drama (more pics needed, etc) but I talk myself through it. The vast majority of the time we are fine and if there’s something that needs to be be addressed you’ll handle it. Better to get that peace of mind. Please, please go. And yes, ask the dr all your questions! Let us know how it goes. :)
 

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UPDATE:
Woke up, feeling more anxious. Have a new huge bruise on my arm that wasn’t there yesterday and I don’t remember hitting myself in that spot. It would be a massive hit because the bruise is pretty big. Now I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole..... I’m resisting going to Google and looking up the “L” word... God, when is this going to get better.....
I have never brought up my anxiety to any doctor. I’m terrified they’ll think i’m crazy and try to break up my family. I know i’m not crazy. i just over think everything... Man......
Update #2
tomorrow i have another appointment regarding the female problem/scare i am going through.
got it moved up from October to tomorrow. that’s super quick all of a sudden, which has me more anxious.
That one i’m dreading...
 
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It's very common to have bruises and not have a clue how we even got them. Yes, that includes large bruises as well. It doesn't take an undeniable impact to leave a bruise, it can happen rather easily, even if perfectly healthy folks.

Let us know how the appointment goes tomorrow. I think you'll be fine. Seeing a doctor is always best when you have a persistent issue, because it allows you to address the issue. Then you'll feel better.
 

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It's very common to have bruises and not have a clue how we even got them. Yes, that includes large bruises as well. It doesn't take an undeniable impact to leave a bruise, it can happen rather easily, even if perfectly healthy folks.

Let us know how the appointment goes tomorrow. I think you'll be fine. Seeing a doctor is always best when you have a persistent issue, because it allows you to address the issue. Then you'll feel better.
Sitting in the office. So far, high pulse and vitals. The nurse said, whoa that’s high.
Thanks. Never say that to a hypochondriac.
 

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Well, what else did they expect for someone who's severely anxious? Geez. Do they know how bad your anxiety is?
 

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What a strange thing to say to a patient. White coat hypertension and nervousness are common even in people without severe anxiety. I make sure I tell everyone how anxious I am so they will be more low key and comforting to me! I tell them I'm terrified whenever I have anything done or even when I just have a concern. I'm sure everything is fine and you will breathe much easier having gone.
 

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What a strange thing to say to a patient. White coat hypertension and nervousness are common even in people without severe anxiety. I make sure I tell everyone how anxious I am so they will be more low key and comforting to me! I tell them I'm terrified whenever I have anything done or even when I just have a concern. I'm sure everything is fine and you will breathe much easier having gone.
Some medical professionals still don't accept white coat hypertension / syndrome, sadly. It's very much real. I can get good BP readings all day long, and as soon as I go to the doctor it will be high, around 145/95. Same with pulse, it could be 75 at home and 98 at the office.
 

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Some medical professionals still don't accept white coat hypertension / syndrome, sadly. It's very much real. I can get good BP readings all day long, and as soon as I go to the doctor it will be high, around 145/95. Same with pulse, it could be 75 at home and 98 at the office.
Oh yeah definitely, me too.
 

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I suffer from health anxiety. Severe health anxiety actually. I posted a post about a couple of changing moles I had. And how I freaked out I am about them.
Got the appointment moved up sooner to tomorrow and now i’m literally scared to death of even going to the doctor tomorrow and i’m thinking of not showing up.
I’m scared of getting bad news. I’m terrified to my stomach actually.
I have other health concerns that I told myself i would bring up the doctor but now with the appointment being tomorrow i’m chickening out.
Anyone ever get like this right before a doctor appointment and you actually don’t even go to it even though you were eager to even get an appointment before?
Please, what do I do?
Talk me into showing up to my appointment. :(
Omdays im with you I’m sat in the GP surgery right now and feel like I’m going to be sick ! I’ve got to have full bloods done but then I will have this terrible feeling until the GP calls me with the results which I’ve already decided will be bad and I will have something horrible or worse! I found this forum at 4am as I was unable to sleep, feeling very helpless right now x
UPDATE:
Woke up, feeling more anxious. Have a new huge bruise on my arm that wasn’t there yesterday and I don’t remember hitting myself in that spot. It would be a massive hit because the bruise is pretty big. Now I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole..... I’m resisting going to Google and looking up the “L” word... God, when is this going to get better.....
I have never brought up my anxiety to any doctor. I’m terrified they’ll think i’m crazy and try to break up my family. I know i’m not crazy. i just over think everything... Man......
Update #2
tomorrow i have another appointment regarding the female problem/scare i am going through.
got it moved up from October to tomorrow. that’s super quick all of a sudden, which has me more anxious.
That one i’m dreading...
How did it go ? Hope you’re ok x
 

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Omdays im with you I’m sat in the GP surgery right now and feel like I’m going to be sick ! I’ve got to have full bloods done but then I will have this terrible feeling until the GP calls me with the results which I’ve already decided will be bad and I will have something horrible or worse! I found this forum at 4am as I was unable to sleep, feeling very helpless right now x

How did it go ? Hope you’re ok x
First appointment went ok.... But they got me concerned about my blood pressure.
Second appointment today went bad.... OBGYN issue. I’m terrified of vulvar cancer. Doctor said watch and wait approach or biopsy. I left a wreck.
 

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Oh no I know that's scary but please try not to be too concerned yet. I have seen many things that seem like they are bad and turn out to be nothing. A few years ago I had an abnormal Pap and then they did another test and the cells were very abnormal, and I was devastated. The physician's assistant was telling me things about checking lymph nodes and all kinds of stuff, and I cried all the way home. I worried myself sick for weeks until I finally got a biopsy. Then the doctor called and said there wasn't even one abnormal cell on the biopsy. I also saw doctors tell my parents all kinds of things over the years that were very scary, and everything always turned out normal. I know it's hard, but seriously, just because they want to keep an eye on something doesn't mean there is anything seriously wrong.
 

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First appointment went ok.... But they got me concerned about my blood pressure.
Second appointment today went bad.... OBGYN issue. I’m terrified of vulvar cancer. Doctor said watch and wait approach or biopsy. I left a wreck.
Did the doctor specifically mention malignancy as a possibility, or no? Asking because biopsy is not synonymous with malignancy / suspected malignancy. A biopsy is simply taking a tissue sample and analyzing it, looking for signs of *anything* which sometimes is malignant.
 

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Yeah I was wondering also if the dr specifically suspected malignancy?
I usually openly ask if they suspect. Some are willing to answer some remain silent as they can never be sure before tests so they don't want to say anything.
I agree with Bin, biopsy doesn't always mean that the dr is suspecting malignancy. They want to see probably if it's another skin condition. Actually more likely, considering how moist that area is and a residence to many bacterias. Can be a type of infection, anything.
Vulvar cancer is quite rare, as far as I know.

I like when drs talk and give information really. They never understand how an anxious person waits there with fear.
 

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I like when drs talk and give information really. They never understand how an anxious person waits there with fear.
Me, too! I recently switched primary doctors. The provider I used to see left the practice, and the new provider I was seeing there - while she's a great doctor - felt like she was rushing me through appointments. I couldn't ask questions, or I would at least not get solid answers. I'm a very inquisitive person when it comes to doctors, dentists, etc, because I want to be as informed as possible.
 
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