Hi all, I’m new to the forum!
I wanted to share a part of my social anxiety and ask for some advise and also some general questions. I am super socially anxious but mask it somewhat well, coming across as quiet and possibly stuck up at times (though my passiveness in conversations is just because of my anxiety). I am a planner my nature (in everything I do), but especially when it comes to social scenarios and what I am going to say. However, as we all know, conversations can change frequently and you really can’t plan everything (or even most) of what you are going to say. As a result, I get super anxious when speaking and sometimes speak without thinking. For example, I think I sometimes say something that could be interpreted as rude or presumptuous out of context. I can never tell if when I’ve made a ‘blunder’ others a) agree that it was inappropriate and or came across as inappropriate and/or b) will remember what I said after the conversation. From my personal experience, I remember a ton of details about things people say to me, particularly if I dont know the person well. So after I commit a ‘blunder,’ I obsessively think about it and experience tightening in my chest, stomach aches, and my heart absolutely races for hours. I was wondering how much you remember of conversations you all have with others, if this happens to you, and how you know if you’ve crossed a line or it’s all in your head? For a bit of context, people would generally describe me as someone who is siper careful with what they say and polite (but I’m wondering if that makes my blunders stand out all the more).
I wanted to share a part of my social anxiety and ask for some advise and also some general questions. I am super socially anxious but mask it somewhat well, coming across as quiet and possibly stuck up at times (though my passiveness in conversations is just because of my anxiety). I am a planner my nature (in everything I do), but especially when it comes to social scenarios and what I am going to say. However, as we all know, conversations can change frequently and you really can’t plan everything (or even most) of what you are going to say. As a result, I get super anxious when speaking and sometimes speak without thinking. For example, I think I sometimes say something that could be interpreted as rude or presumptuous out of context. I can never tell if when I’ve made a ‘blunder’ others a) agree that it was inappropriate and or came across as inappropriate and/or b) will remember what I said after the conversation. From my personal experience, I remember a ton of details about things people say to me, particularly if I dont know the person well. So after I commit a ‘blunder,’ I obsessively think about it and experience tightening in my chest, stomach aches, and my heart absolutely races for hours. I was wondering how much you remember of conversations you all have with others, if this happens to you, and how you know if you’ve crossed a line or it’s all in your head? For a bit of context, people would generally describe me as someone who is siper careful with what they say and polite (but I’m wondering if that makes my blunders stand out all the more).
