confused and feeling lonely

[XmasCarol52]

I do not know what to think while I am afraid of being around people yet at the same time I feel so lonely.Does that make any sense?I know there are some days when I dont want to be around anyone then like today nobody was around ,however I did talk to my next door neighbor for about five minutes,HOw confused is this I hate being alone yet I hate being around people.Does that make any sense ? I know there is some days I just do not want to be around anyone but today I needed someone to talk to,that is one of the reasons why I am here.I love you all and may God Bless you,

 

[Concernedgal]

My question to you is ... Why are you so insecure? Why do you have low self -esteem? Are you uncomfortable around people because your afraid they will judge you or afraid that they will harm you? Or maybe it's a form of social anxiety. Either way. . The fact that you still get lonely tells me that you probably suffer from a social anxiety. It just comes with the territory. Either way though... we are here and you don't have to be lonely anymore. And love you 2 carol... and God bless you.

 

[janemariesayed]

If it wasn't for my two dogs I would feel lonely too. Years ago I felt terribly lonely but I only had one dog. One wasn't enough so now I have two.

I get woken up in the mornings with waggy tails and licks and Carl clambering all over me while Loopy walks a circle on my bed. Then I never get to pee alone. I can't get a coffee until I've let them out into the garden and given them breakfast.

I can't go out unless I tell them to be good and I can't enter my home without waggy tails and licks. I can't sit on my PC, well, I don't actually sit on my PC, I sit in front of my PC, but I can't even do that for half an hour without the two of them demanding something. I have to think to feed them 3 times a day and keep their water dish filled.

It is such a shame that you're not allowed pets, Carol. If I lived near you I would make the effort to come and visit. It would be lovely to share a cuppa with you and put the world to rights while we had a chat. But as it is, I am thousands of miles away in Olde England so it will have to be on here that we chat. That is why I am so grateful for this forum. We have all made some wonderful friends here. I love you too Carol, I may be long far away, but my heart is right beside you.

 

[XmasCarol52]

My question to you is ... Why are you so insecure? Why do you have low self -esteem? Are you uncomfortable around people because your afraid they will judge you or afraid that they will harm you? Or maybe it's a form of social anxiety. Either way. . The fact that you still get lonely tells me that you probably suffer from a social anxiety. It just comes with the territory. Either way though... we are here and you don't have to be lonely anymore. And love you 2 carol... and God bless you.

All my life my mother has put me down and she still does,she has told me i would tell me I would never have any friends,as far as being around people yes I am so afraid they are looking at me thinking terrible thoughts.Maybe even laugh at me,one time I was taking on the phone to my bank the woman snickered iat me i i told her dont u laugh at me she said she wasnt but I aint stupid I know a laugh when I hear one.JUst because sometimes I have a problems with getting my words out some people think it is funny to laugh at me.Thank u I love you to and will always be here for you.

 

[XmasCarol52]

If it wasn't for my two dogs I would feel lonely too. Years ago I felt terribly lonely but I only had one dog. One wasn't enough so now I have two.

I get woken up in the mornings with waggy tails and licks and Carl clambering all over me while Loopy walks a circle on my bed. Then I never get to pee alone. I can't get a coffee until I've let them out into the garden and given them breakfast.

I can't go out unless I tell them to be good and I can't enter my home without waggy tails and licks. I can't sit on my PC, well, I don't actually sit on my PC, I sit in front of my PC, but I can't even do that for half an hour without the two of them demanding something. I have to think to feed them 3 times a day and keep their water dish filled.

It is such a shame that you're not allowed pets, Carol. If I lived near you I would make the effort to come and visit. It would be lovely to share a cuppa with you and put the world to rights while we had a chat. But as it is, I am thousands of miles away in Olde England so it will have to be on here that we chat. That is why I am so grateful for this forum. We have all made some wonderful friends here. I love you too Carol, I may be long far away, but my heart is right beside you.

Thank you I love you to and I am always here for you.Today I got three people coming ugh,Once two of them leave I will be okay,they wont even be here for a minute but still.Why do people have to laugh at me ? Is it because I am insecure?I cannot help it.

 

[Concernedgal]

All my life my mother has put me down and she still does,she has told me i would tell me I would never have any friends,as far as being around people yes I am so afraid they are looking at me thinking terrible thoughts.Maybe even laugh at me,one time I was taking on the phone to my bank the woman snickered iat me i i told her dont u laugh at me she said she wasnt but I aint stupid I know a laugh when I hear one.JUst because sometimes I have a problems with getting my words out some people think it is funny to laugh at me.Thank u I love you to and will always be here for you.

As hard as this is to do... you hAve to learn to love yourself. Growing up. . your mother didn't love herself so she took it out on you and i'm sorry for that. A part of all of our problems here is living the past. Like my father that used to come home drunk and beat us merciless after spending his time drinking and cheating on my mother. My father hated us I believe. I had the Benefitof an apology from my father a while back during his near death experience and I still couldn't let it go. So I k ow from personal experience that letting it go isn't an option but, you have a life and it's all yours and it's up to you how you live it. There are bad people in this world and nothing can be done about it. I just wish that good people (meaning you)would just realize that and see what the rest of us do. If I was at your place right now we would sit and have a nice chat and i'm pretty sure that we wouldhave a nice visit and to be honest.. if I met you some place else besides here... i'm pretty sure that we would of still became fast friends. And i'm picky about my friends . Lol

 

[XmasCarol52]

Thank you it is so hard to let go especially when my mom still does it.she treats me like I am two years old.Can you believe this woman she tells me I have to warm up my food,duh as if I didn t know that.She was talking about how she wishes God would take her already I get so sick of hearing that I almost told her to knock it off already.Nobody in the family wants to keep hearing that it isnt just me she says it to ,my kids and a friend too,You should see there faces when I told them a bout how mom keeps asking God to take her.I know she lost her husband almost a year ago but for crying out loud i get sick of hearing how she wants to go.
I think if we met we would get along really well.I could have some nice ice tea around.Maybe even a float.Hey we could order a pizza or a grinder something to eat .lol That would be so nice,I am so glad that I met you,