College social anxiety

[Sociallyawkwardem]

Hi I am new to this forum and online communication in general but this is kinda my last resort for help. I'm a freshman in college and my social anxiety is crippling. Tonight was one of the worst nights I've had in a while. I planned on going to a party which I don't normally do and I got excited because it was something new but the one person i thought I was going with (my roommate) ended up going with a different group of friends because she is pretty popular. So I was left to find other people to go with and I basically ended up pacing my dorm hallways for 2 hours trying to find a group I could uber with. I was too afraid to even ask, so now I am here in bed about to watch Netflix and sleep and try to forget this night happened. Does anyone else feel this way? Like too afraid to even ask a simple question to someone. Or like everyone else in college found their group so fast yet your all alone and no one talks to you. That's basically me. And the problem is I love socializing and I have close friends but the close friends I had took 6 years to become close. I never open up to people which is why people don't really start conversation with me, but I don't know how to change. Sorry for this long post I feel so alone. Any advice?

 

[Rinka]

I totally know where you are coming from. I had similar issues at Uni. It might be a good idea to check for groups, clubs on campus that share the same interests. You then already have a common ground to start talking about.
I have to admit I’m a bit of a loner and if I was not able to find anyone going with me, I would stay at home or go on my own. The good thing with going on your own is, that you don’t have to wait for anyone and do what you want to do.