Can’t stop anxiety over a recent mistake that I made. I know God can fix anything even if it feels impossible but triggers involve a recent move. Finances, job stress and long commute. I can’t stop thinking I can’t make needed changes cuz I am stuck in the anxiety
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janemariesayed
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You have recently experienced a lot of changes in your life and it is normal to worry subconsciously if it will all go pear shaped or if it will go well. Embrace your move and the changes. Enjoy that commute by taking in the scenery along the way. Relax in your job, you can only get better at it the longer you are there. Changes will come without you thinking about it. When you feel anxious, take a deep breath and tell yourself that it is all okay really.
Thank you for trying to encourage me. I let so many things go too far and can’t snap out of this. I keep having to help my adult child financially because of their bad choices and it will suck me dry. Can’t not help cuz grandkids are involved but I am getting no respect and hate myself for not setting things straight long ago.
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Is your adult child capable of working? Even if it is just a job washing dishes in a restaurant it would help. You need to say something if it will end up sucking you dry. Help where you can but don't let it ruin you. Especially as your help isn't appreciated. If you took away that help, your child would have to work to help themselves. What will they do when you can no longer help them?
They work full time but has I believe compulsive shopping and other issues are at hand. I have come to realize I have completely enabled. Now it seems too late to do anything that doesn't end up putting myself at peril as well. We live together now trapped in a lease that doesn't end for another 10 months. I don't bring home enough to pay rent on my own so for several months have been bleeding out of my retirement savings. God bless everyone trying to help and encourage me and I love the Lord dearly but without some kind of miracle soon...I'm all but done.
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Whenever I get overwhelmed, I just accept the circumstances and brainstorm on how and if I can fix the situation. Sometimes, you can't control and uncontrollable situation and that's a tough pill to swallow. You're going to be just fine!!
Thank you Jonathan. I do need to accept and swallow that tough pill. Because I tried to help someone else but just enabled them. I put all of my own life (emotional, financial, place to live, etc.) at peril. I did it regardless of how I feel/know I was manipulated. I made the choice. Praying for miracles to fix the mess I made and for self-compassion because I have not totally forgiven myself yet. Thank you so much again for replies and the support of this forum.