changing fingernails

[snoogleface]

Hi everybody!

I've been suffering from health anxiety for almost 4 years. And 2 years ago it go so bad that my boyfriend broke up me because it was too much for him, I bothered him with so many questions about health and told him about many symptoms that he just couldn't take it anymore. So I tried and stopped thinking about my healht and he came back to me a few months later. But a few weeks ago I entered in that spiral again, of seeing and feeling things and search them on the internet and the health axniety came back. I try not to talk to my boyfriend about it but he knows that I'm hiding something. I don't want to lose him again, he's the love of my life.

The symptom I'm obssessed with now is some changes on my nails, they have some white/red bands on them and under them I feel some pressure, pain and pulsating feelings. I also have that feeling on my fingertips. I just want to know if there is someone with nails like mine so I can stop thinking that I have some disease that it's gonna kill me..

Also, I am vegan, have fibromaylgia and might have gluten intolerance.

 

[triceps]

Hi and welcome snoogleface. I'm sorry I don't have any fingernail experience but I do have a bit of relationship advice. You need to be able to share your health anxiety worries with your boyfriend or things will not last in the long run. You have an anxiety disorder which produces many irrational thoughts about what the real state of your health is. My suggestion is that you share those irrational fears as they come up with the caveat that you know they're irrationional but that they feel very real right now. I know he left you previously because of of your health complaints but maybe if you express that you know deep down that most often they turn out to be false symptoms and that he just has to be understanding of, but not responsible to fix any current symptoms, it might make it easier for him. You must have many attributes that he likes or he wouldn't have come back. However, you'll both be uncomfortable if you're not honest with him and the relationship will fail eventually.