Boyfriend doesn't understand

[Penguin2809]

Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 15 yrs. I have been diagnosed with anxiety for 5 of those years but probably had it longer. I've been trying so hard to understand and change by my self, I did see someone to speak to but that was a temp thing. He did however told me to try and tell my boyfriend everything starting with my diagnosis. He was already aware even before. A few weeks/months maybe even a yr ago I asked him to do his own research etc because we argue and for me everything is more heightened. He still hasn't done it. He calls me not normal, overreacting and crazy. I sent him 2 links the other day, one says things that he shouldn't say and the other says things he should. Apparently he read them but I don't know, I don't know he cares enough to try and help or anything

 

[Cuchculan]

You have to experience anxiety to fully understand anxiety. This is obvious something he has never done. Most probably thinks it is just a bit of nervousness and that is all. Which is ignorant of him. Can be very hard to get through to a person who doesn't want to really know. He has shown what he thinks of it already. he is one of those people who will tell you to cop on and just get over it. There are a lot of them about. No idea how you change his mind. He has his own ignorant views on what he thinks you are going through. There you are suffering much worse and unable to get the person who loves you to even take any interest in what you are trying to share with them. If it does any good let him read my words. So he can see how ignorant I think he is been about what people with anxiety really go through. If he really loved you as much as a person should after 15 years together he should want to listen and want to be there for you and help you out. If it was as easy as just copping on and getting over it, we would all be really happy and have no need for forums like this. It can be a tough battle. Sad you have to go through it alone.

 

[8888]

I'm sorry to hear your boyfriend doesn't understand. Since you mention you have a diagnosis I think he should know this if he doesn't already. Having an anxiety disorder is very different from a normal person getting a little anxious. As Cuchculan said he will likely never fully understand but hopefully in time he will come to understand a little better and be supportive. If you are comfortable doing so I think you should ask him if he has any questions about anxiety so that way you can explain or find a resource to explain it, as communication is important in relationships.