Are there any like emotional first aid ?

[diaz212]

After watch Guy Winch at TED about Emotional First Aid I got really pump up and it's look good for me, So I decided to create content about It. Hope you like it.


So what it emotional first aid come for ?


Imagine you are in park, observing a group of children playing around on the playground. Apparently, the taller of the two are pissed off because the shorter keeps following him around. Then he pushes the other, causing the latter to fall and scrape his knee. Three other kids stop playing. One runs to her home and come back carrying a first aid kid.


Everybody is familiar with first aid kid, the little white box with a red cross on its front surface. The kid with first aid kid put a band aid over the fallen kid’s knees, and they’re back to playing. In a glance, it’s all sunshine and rainbow again for those children. But are they really?


Everybody worry about the fallen kid’s knee, but it’s been treated and it will be okay. It will heal. But, who worry about the fallen kid’s heart? His feeling is very hurt, and it doesn’t show but from that time the younger kid is afraid to approach older boy.


But there is no such first aid kit for the boy’s heart. No band aid to heal his hurt feeling and to recover his trauma.


But, you see, just because it doesn’t visible to eyes, doesn’t mean emotional injury doesn’t need band aid.


Because human knows the risk of leaving physical wound or illness untreated, they make first aid kid: a box full of easy to reach medication and health tools. Yet despite knowing the risk of untreated injury, people seem wonderfully indifferent toward emotional injury.


But how about leaving emotional injury ?


So, what do we need to do to make this emotional first aid? According to the book, the treatment will be different according to each type of the emotional injuries: rejection, loneliness, loss and trauma, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self esteem.


Let's discuss one by one


Loneliness


Loneliness isn’t a ‘door shut on your face’ type of hurt like rejection. It comes slowly, creeping between your day and night, even when you’re surrounded with people.


Loneliness makes you sad, constantly on guard and tends to mistrust other people. Often because of that it drives people away, so you’re going to be even lonelier.


how about the first aid for loneliness ?


Stop bullying yourself !!!


We frown upon bullying when we see one, yet we often bully our own selves. We often blame ourself for everything that goes wrong, even when those things are just coincident. In our head, we often call ourselves ugly, stupid, and other demeaning words. When we succeed, we seldom praise ourselves.


In fact, bullying ourselves will just add negative thinking into our head. When we’re too deep in negative thinking, we may regard everything in life with negative lens, including connecting to people. That makes us even lonelier.


Borrow other people’s eyes


Are you afraid you won’t meet other people’s expectation when you’re interacting with them? Let me ask you something. Are you afraid other people won’t meet your expectation when they’re interacting with you?


No, right? You don’t expect something from others when you’re casually interacting with them, except basic manner of course. So, remember that that’s what exactly other people think of you in conversation: they don’t expect anything from you. Knowing this will help you relax in conversation.


For rejection, loss and trauma, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self esteem, I will continue it If this is post get a good respond :throb:


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[kgord]

Yes, most of us give and get emotional wounds without thinking twice about it. Because it is on the inside where people can't see, most are not aware of them when we create them in others. I wonder if people would change their behavior if they could see the damage they were doing to others? I think they might think twice about their actions if they could actually see the damage they were doing to others.

 

[kelden]

For that reason sometimes governments and businesses pay for mental therapy after a person went through a traumatic event or a messy accident. Like a household or building fire, earthquakes, heist, survival situations, etc. Physical wounds may cripple for a time, but mental wounds would never heal if it leave it untreated. Think about all these famous people on our humanity's history; that ended up insane because of different reasons. Now think how It can be prevented.

 

[brdwlk]

If a reliable emotional first aid kit could be developed, it would truly change the world! As you pointed out, emotional injuries often go unseen, undiagnosed and untreated. Furthermore, many undiagnosed emotional issue manifest themselves in physical ailments or disorders.

 

[rz3300a]

Well this is the exact reason why I love those TED Talks videos, because they always have interesting ideas like this. Emotional first aid is probably something that we could use a little more of, or at least could use the recognition of its existence, so well done on that part. I know that there are a lot of times when I could probably use the loneliness first aid, and in my line of work I do face a lot of rejection so handling that is always a struggle for me. This is really interesting to think about and a neat idea, so thank you for sharing.

 

[Sue]

I have to agree I think people would be more careful with how they treated people if they seen the inside scars. People would chose their words more carefully and be kinder. Emotional scars take a lot longer to heal then physical ones.

 

[Aree Wongwanlee]

Emotional first aid? I like it. It has a nice sound to it. Used to be, we have something called "a shoulder to cry on". However, that means the party which needs to do the crying has to take the initiative. To put it as emotional first aid makes it more pro-active. The emotional first aider needs to take action to stop the emotional pain. I think one of the first things which is necessary to apply effective emotional first aid is to have a strong sense of empathy. Empathy is different from sympathy. When we sympathize, we just feel sorry for the person who is suffering. When we empathize, we project ourselves and feel how the other person suffers. This is important if we want to be able to apply emotional first aid effectively. To understand and feel helps us to choose the right words to say and the right actions to take.

 

[justsayyes]

This is really interesting thread. What would really be nice is an emotional first aid that deletes the negative emotions altogether and deletes our memory of having all these negative psychological feelings so we can really start fresh. I hope someone develops this kind of drug, it's going to be lifesaver! lol

 

[djordjem87]

I am reading about mental help or aid, whatever you want to call it and basically the best thing I managed to find was auto-suggestion or conscious suggestion. I really tried it and so far it is doing miracles for me. I say so far because it has been only several days but the results are visible after first application. To be more precise I read a book by Emile Coue and I think I already wrote about this somewhere here but anyway it is good to make a reminder for those who would like to give it a try. I am still waiting to see how it will affect my general state and being but as I said it is all good so far. For some examples that you gave here, especially for the kids, I think that feeling emotions and having to deal with them is a valuable lesson and it will make a person out of them. I was never pampered as a little kid and I feel that I am pretty much okay.

 

[theduck7]

I really enjoyed reading this post. I like how you used a first aid kit to show how we take care of our bodies but not necessarily our minds. Loneliness is a hard thing to cope with sometimes and I liked your suggestions for dealing with it. Keep on posting. It would be good to read more.

 

[janemariesayed]

In my early childhood, I had a lot of emotional injuries and never had any band aid put on my heart. The wounds were never seen and they got left and ignored. In time they festered and turned septic. The result is a constant pain that never leaves. Even when I find something to laugh about the emotional pain is always there in the background.

We should be more understanding and watchful what happens to children. Perhaps teaching about mental health in schools and teaching children to be kind to each other.