Anxiety Update + New Fear

[Liv]

Recently, my anxiety has increased when it comes to my relationship. My anxiety has made me more insecure towards my bf and I constantly get unwanted thoughts that he doesn't love me anymore or that he'll find someone better in college and it scares me. I hate it because I know it's my anxiety but I can't help myself from listening. He understands my situation and definitely helps out when I need support but obviously only those affected by anxiety can really relate. I don't know what to do about this and it's been impacting my mood and I don't want to take this out on him. Please help!

(btw didn't spell check so sorry for any typos!)

 

[janemariesayed]

Hello! I've posted before about my anxiety and I'm here to update you all on what's been going on. So I've been super anxious being in indoor places and every week for 2/3 weeks, I've been to the movie theater, 3 Dodger games, and several other eating places where I've had to sit indoors. I'm very proud of myself because I honestly thought I'd stay indoors for who knows how long. I think my meds (zoloft/propranolol) are at their peak so they're working to their best ability and I definitely give credit to them.

Recently, my anxiety has increased when it comes to my relationship. My anxiety has made me more insecure towards my bf and I constantly get unwanted thoughts that he doesn't love me anymore or that he'll find someone better in college and it scares me. I hate it because I know it's my anxiety but I can't help myself from listening. He understands my situation and definitely helps out when I need support but obviously only those affected by anxiety can really relate. I don't know what to do about this and it's been impacting my mood and I don't want to take this out on him. Please help!

(btw didn't spell check so sorry for any typos!)

Hi Liv. Firstly I'm glad that you've been able to get the benefits from the meds. What I think you are doing though is looking for somewhere to channel your anxiety. You think that there must always be something to worry about. That is how the anxious subconscious mind works. So the trick is to tell yourself that and remind yourself that it is not true.

Stop yourself when you feel that you are going to take it out on your partner. Walk away instead. Go and get yourself a glass of water and drink it quietly in your bedroom. That way you will calm down and not take things out on him once you emerge from your room. Give yourself time out so to speak when you feel like that.