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I’m really scared can’t stop thinking about it and getting anxious help please
Just do some of the breathing exercises. Find a quiet place and do the breathing, reassure yourself that everything is ok and that you will be fine. Get your mind onto something else, don’t let it take over. I know you feel like you just want to escape but right now you need to stand and face it. Let that worry happen, just breathe through it. Do the exercises and calm yourself. You can’t escape the anxiety so you have to be stronger than it is. You have to take control of it and learn to calm yourself down.

You will be ok. If things get too bad go to the emergency room, they can help.
 
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Just do some of the breathing exercises. Find a quiet place and do the breathing, reassure yourself that everything is ok and that you will be fine. Get your mind onto something else, don’t let it take over. I know you feel like you just want to escape but right now you need to stand and face it. Let that worry happen, just breathe through it. Do the exercises and calm yourself. You can’t escape the anxiety so you have to be stronger than it is. You have to take control of it and learn to calm yourself down.

You will be ok. If things get too bad go to the emergency room, they can help.
I’m just finding it hard not to think about it I don’t want anything to be seriously wrong with me I just really hope I’m ok but I’m so scared you don’t think anything is seriously wrong do you I’m only young
 

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I’m just finding it hard not to think about it I don’t want anything to be seriously wrong with me I just really hope I’m ok but I’m so scared you don’t think anything is seriously wrong do you I’m only young
No, I don’t. I do understand though, that’s why those thoughts are called “obsessive” because they become the only thing you think about. It takes time and effort to overcome them but by doing the things I’ve been sharing with you, over time you will start to see results.
 

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I’m just finding it hard not to think about it I don’t want anything to be seriously wrong with me I just really hope I’m ok but I’m so scared you don’t think anything is seriously wrong do you I’m only young
you need to take ownership of your feelings. your anxiety is not your fault but it's your responsibility to manage. you're not intentionally thinking about this horrible stuff but you are allowing yourself to focus on these thoughts. this is where therapy would work wonders.

here is something i learned. it is very helpful:

the next time a health concern pops into your head, tell yourself "I'm not going to think about this right now." if the thought is still there, say it again. say it out loud if you have to. then, get up and do something different. it is a very effective tool for treating anxiety.
 
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No, I don’t. I do understand though, that’s why those thoughts are called “obsessive” because they become the only thing you think about. It takes time and effort to overcome them but by doing the things I’ve been sharing with you, over time you will start to see results.
It’s just I keep getting triggered by the pain in my stomach and back which makes me think about it I keep think there might something wrong with my bowls or my stomach and then get scared and panic if the pain wasn’t there I wouldn’t think about it as much I just want to get better I have been trying to do some of the things you recommend it’s just hard trying not to think thoughs thoughts
you need to take ownership of your feelings. your anxiety is not your fault but it's your responsibility to manage. you're not intentionally thinking about this horrible stuff but you are allowing yourself to focus on these thoughts. this is where therapy would work wonders.

here is something i learned. it is very helpful:

the next time a health concern pops into your head, tell yourself "I'm not going to think about this right now." if the thought is still there, say it again. say it out loud if you have to. then, get up and do something different. it is a very effective tool for treating anxiety.
I’ll try that it’s just I get the thoughts triggered by the pain
It’s just I keep getting triggered by the pain in my stomach and back which makes me think about it I keep think there might something wrong with my bowls or my stomach and then get scared and panic if the pain wasn’t there I wouldn’t think about it as much I just want to get better I have been trying to do some of the things you recommend it’s just hard trying not to think thoughs thoughts


I’ll try that it’s just I get the thoughts triggered by the pain
Like i said above
 

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It’s just I keep getting triggered by the pain in my stomach and back which makes me think about it I keep think there might something wrong with my bowls or my stomach and then get scared and panic if the pain wasn’t there I wouldn’t think about it as much I just want to get better I have been trying to do some of the things you recommend it’s just hard trying not to think thoughs thoughts


I’ll try that it’s just I get the thoughts triggered by the pain

Like i said above
your anxiety is very likely making your pain worse or creating it all together. reduce the anxiety, reduce the pain.
 
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your anxiety is very likely making your pain worse or creating it all together. reduce the anxiety, reduce the pain.
It’s just the stomach pain won’t go and the lower back pain can be sharp and constant bubbling feeling stomach like gas that won’t go what if there might be something seriously wrong with my bowls I’ve been two the therapist but only had one proper session with her I’m just stressed what if something might be wrong and I don’t know how do you get thoughs thoughts out your head
 

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It’s just the stomach pain won’t go and the lower back pain can be sharp and constant bubbling feeling stomach like gas that won’t go what if there might be something seriously wrong with my bowls I’ve been two the therapist but only had one proper session with her I’m just stressed what if something might be wrong and I don’t know how do you get thoughs thoughts out your head
in almost every response you talk about your physical health... even when the person you're responding to is talking about something totally different (like your anxiety.) you need to stop. you are allowing your brain to go back to that place just by responding with more statements about your health. this is when you should be telling your brain you're not going to think about this right now.
 
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in almost every response you talk about your physical health... even when the person you're responding to is talking about something totally different (like your anxiety.) you need to stop. you are allowing your brain to go back to that place just by responding with more statements about your health. this is when you should be telling your brain you're not going to think about this right now.
I know but how do I stop the thoughts when I get triggered that’s when I don’t know what to do when it takes me by surprise I don’t like getting triggered
 

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I know but how do I stop the thoughts when I get triggered that’s when I don’t know what to do when it takes me by surprise I don’t like getting triggered
That’s where you have to calm and reassure yourself. When you feel the anxiety coming because you’re triggered you have to tell yourself not to think about it right now, get your mind somewhere else. Then do some of the breathing to calm yourself.

You’ll find that once you are able to stop the anxiety from ramping up it will become less overall. When you can move your mind to something else the anxiety stops being an issue. As the anxiety level decreases the pain will go with it.
 
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That’s where you have to calm and reassure yourself. When you feel the anxiety coming because you’re triggered you have to tell yourself not to think about it right now, get your mind somewhere else. Then do some of the breathing to calm yourself.

You’ll find that once you are able to stop the anxiety from ramping up it will become less overall. When you can move your mind to something else the anxiety stops being an issue. As the anxiety level decreases the pain will go with it.
I just feel like I finally make progress and something triggers my anxiety it’s so frustrating I just want to get better will take long to get better or am i just really bad at coping
 

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I just feel like I finally make progress and something triggers my anxiety it’s so frustrating I just want to get better will take long to get better or am i just really bad at coping
It’s ok. Those are just minor set backs. They happen to all of us. What you have to do is just keep trying, don’t give up. If it comes up just do a breathing exercise or tell yourself that you’re not thinking about it right now. Do that as often as you need to, 1,000 times a day, it’s alright. Over time it gets easier but you have to just keep doing it.
 

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I know but how do I stop the thoughts when I get triggered that’s when I don’t know what to do when it takes me by surprise I don’t like getting triggered
I just feel like I finally make progress and something triggers my anxiety it’s so frustrating I just want to get better will take long to get better or am i just really bad at coping
you will always have triggers. you will always have anxiety... BUT... if you put in the time, effort and have a positive mindset, you can make them manageable to a point where it doesn't really impact your life anymore. these skills take time and practice to use effectively, though, and you just need to be patient and stay positive. i know this is tough when you're anxiety is at a heightened state, but the alternative is going mad and wasting your life worrying about death, which is probably the dumbest thing anyone could do.
 
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It’s ok. Those are just minor set backs. They happen to all of us. What you have to do is just keep trying, don’t give up. If it comes up just do a breathing exercise or tell yourself that you’re not thinking about it right now. Do that as often as you need to, 1,000 times a day, it’s alright. Over time it gets easier but you have to just keep doing it.
Thanks it’s just been so hard at the moment I just want to get both physically and mentally
you will always have triggers. you will always have anxiety... BUT... if you put in the time, effort and have a positive mindset, you can make them manageable to a point where it doesn't really impact your life anymore. these skills take time and practice to use effectively, though, and you just need to be patient and stay positive. i know this is tough when you're anxiety is at a heightened state, but the alternative is going mad and wasting your life worrying about death, which is probably the dumbest thing anyone could do.
I’m sorry I can’t control my anxiety anymore more I’m scared I might have stomach cancer or bowl cancer I’m sorry
 
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Thanks it’s just been so hard at the moment I just want to get both physically and mentally


I’m sorry I can’t control my anxiety anymore more I’m scared I might have stomach cancer or bowl cancer I’m sorry
Don’t take it as being attacked. We don’t mean that it’s your fault and we’re not blaming you. We are just saying that there is a 99.9% chance that everything you are experiencing is because of anxiety and that by constantly being worried about it and thinking about every little sensation it’s only making things worse. I know that the pain causes anxiety but anxiety causes pain. In order to get through it you have to handle the anxiety first. It isn’t easy but do the things we’ve mentioned, learn to calm yourself and get your mind off of the pain. With some time and effort I’m confident that you will come out of this absolutely fine.
 

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Don’t take it as being attacked. We don’t mean that it’s your fault and we’re not blaming you. We are just saying that there is a 99.9% chance that everything you are experiencing is because of anxiety and that by constantly being worried about it and thinking about every little sensation it’s only making things worse. I know that the pain causes anxiety but anxiety causes pain. In order to get through it you have to handle the anxiety first. It isn’t easy but do the things we’ve mentioned, learn to calm yourself and get your mind off of the pain. With some time and effort I’m confident that you will come out of this absolutely fine.
exactly. we've been where you are. i have been dealing with HA since I was five years old. I'll be 42 in January. in that time, I've learned a ton about it.

you seem to have the mindset that you can't control your anxiety, that you are powerless over it. as long as that's how you look at it, you're not going to get better.

it's clear you're struggling. we're on page 4 and it doesn't seem anything anyone has said has given you even the slightest relief. do you have a parent you can talk to? or a significant other? someone that can help you get some legitimate help?
 

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Thanks it’s just been so hard at the moment I just want to get both physically and mentally


I’m sorry I can’t control my anxiety anymore more I’m scared I might have stomach cancer or bowl cancer I’m sorry
Just and idea, but you sound just like me a few weeks ago (even still now) constantly worrying. It sounds like you’re really losing grip. Have you thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Whenever I get realllllly bad headaches to the point I start freaking out and thinking I have a brain aneurysm, I take a prescribed sedative and immediately feel relaxed. The anxiety induced pain goes away as well. Meaning it was all in my head. It really sounds like you’re having a hard time. Sedatives can be addicting but for people with actual anxiety, it can really help calm you down from an episode. After your tests, I would take Mat’s advice and start to focus on your mental health. Not saying you absolutely need medication but for episodes where you can’t calm down, it really can be useful.


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Don’t take it as being attacked. We don’t mean that it’s your fault and we’re not blaming you. We are just saying that there is a 99.9% chance that everything you are experiencing is because of anxiety and that by constantly being worried about it and thinking about every little sensation it’s only making things worse. I know that the pain causes anxiety but anxiety causes pain. In order to get through it you have to handle the anxiety first. It isn’t easy but do the things we’ve mentioned, learn to calm yourself and get your mind off of the pain. With some time and effort I’m confident that you will come out of this absolutely fine.
I know but it’s just hard I feel like I’m constantly on high alert and panicking I’m just struggling with the thoughts I really hope you are right and that things get better soon
exactly. we've been where you are. i have been dealing with HA since I was five years old. I'll be 42 in January. in that time, I've learned a ton about it.

you seem to have the mindset that you can't control your anxiety, that you are powerless over it. as long as that's how you look at it, you're not going to get better.

it's clear you're struggling. we're on page 4 and it doesn't seem anything anyone has said has given you even the slightest relief. do you have a parent you can talk to? or a significant other? someone that can help you get some legitimate help?
I just seem to get reassuranced over one thing and then panic about something else feels like the anxiety is never ending and yeah I do I’ve found a therapist but only one session so don’t really know how to deal with things correctly
Just and idea, but you sound just like me a few weeks ago (even still now) constantly worrying. It sounds like you’re really losing grip. Have you thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Whenever I get realllllly bad headaches to the point I start freaking out and thinking I have a brain aneurysm, I take a prescribed sedative and immediately feel relaxed. The anxiety induced pain goes away as well. Meaning it was all in my head. It really sounds like you’re having a hard time. Sedatives can be addicting but for people with actual anxiety, it can really help calm you down from an episode. After your tests, I would take Mat’s advice and start to focus on your mental health. Not saying you absolutely need medication but for episodes where you can’t calm down, it really can be useful.


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I did get given a sedative a few weeks ago and helped a bit with my other issue but they don’t really want to give me anymore because of it being addictive and I have had one session with a therapist so haven’t really had chance yet to know exactly how to deal with this
Just and idea, but you sound just like me a few weeks ago (even still now) constantly worrying. It sounds like you’re really losing grip. Have you thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Whenever I get realllllly bad headaches to the point I start freaking out and thinking I have a brain aneurysm, I take a prescribed sedative and immediately feel relaxed. The anxiety induced pain goes away as well. Meaning it was all in my head. It really sounds like you’re having a hard time. Sedatives can be addicting but for people with actual anxiety, it can really help calm you down from an episode. After your tests, I would take Mat’s advice and start to focus on your mental health. Not saying you absolutely need medication but for episodes where you can’t calm down, it really can be useful.


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They also are not keen on me having any meds for anxiety
 
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exactly. we've been where you are. i have been dealing with HA since I was five years old. I'll be 42 in January. in that time, I've learned a ton about it.

you seem to have the mindset that you can't control your anxiety, that you are powerless over it. as long as that's how you look at it, you're not going to get better.

it's clear you're struggling. we're on page 4 and it doesn't seem anything anyone has said has given you even the slightest relief. do you have a parent you can talk to? or a significant other? someone that can help you get some legitimate help?
I’m scared I might have stomach cancer because I saw the symptoms for and just really my stomach won’t stop making noise constantly making noises and full of gas I’m so scared because I just want to get better
 

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I’m scared I might have stomach cancer because I saw the symptoms for and just really my stomach won’t stop making noise constantly making noises and full of gas I’m so scared because I just want to get better
You’re doing it again. I completely understand how scary the pain is, I understand how real the thought of cancer feels, I get that it has absorbed you. You seem to spend most of your time worrying about this, I have been there.

It’s time to take your life back. I want you to stop looking up stomach cancer symptoms online. I want you to stop trying to convince yourself that it is or isn’t cancer. I want you to forget about cancer. What I want you to do is to go to google and type in “anxiety symptoms” and I can guarantee that every single sensation you’ve felt will be on the list. Stomach problems and back/neck pain are two of the most common symptoms of this disorder.

Again, what’s happening is that the anxiety is causing you pain, you think about the pain and become anxious about it, that, in turn causes more pain. This is called the anxiety cycle. It feeds itself on your fear and since it causes fear it has the ability to take over your life which is what has happened to you. You have got to do the things mentioned in this thread, postpone the worry, meditate, all of these things. Even if they don’t seem to be working keep doing them, they will eventually become very effective. They take practice and your body will take time to see the reduction in anxiety but you have to do these things daily, multiple times a day. I promise you, if you do them the worry and the pain will go away.

Please just don’t give up hope, this is a temporary situation and you will be back to you before you know it.
 
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