Anxiety over baby and job

Concernedgal · Nov 22, 2017

If people in this world waited for the right time to have a baby.... 80% of children in this world wouldn't be born. My nephew's are all overy 10 years old and I can't have children and i'm kinda in the same boat because if by some miracle I do have children one day... he or she won't have any of my nephews to play with because of the age difference. So u understand what your going through .

Rinka · Nov 22, 2017

FullOfWorries said:
Sorry if this is in the wrong place..

I've posted a similar topic before however a new job opportunity has brought it to the surface again.

I'm so scared that 1) I can't have children. There is no reason for me to have this fear but myself and partner aren't careful yet I've not gotten pregnant once.

2) in scared that by the time we do have children, his nephews (my future children's cousins) will be too old and not bond or play with them. His youngest will be 3 next year. I fear if we wait much longer he'll be too old.

This new job will mean I have to wait longer to try for a family as ideally I would want to get to know my future colleagues etc before announcing I'm pregnant.

I've always been so sensible and careful my whole life. I know a baby is a big accident to have but I just for once want to be a little careless..is that crazy?!

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Don’t worry it’s not the wrong place.

I have been in a similar situation to you in regards to being scared if I could get pregnant at all, because my partner and I have unprotected sex and I don’t take any contraception’s. the only contraception we have is me checking my cycle. I have an ovulation calculator, that calculates the fertile days in my cycle. it’s not 100% but I have not become pregnant, which made me worry and I had some tests done. All fine and good with me nd my eggs and his swimmers.
Just because you have unprotected sex doesn’t mean that you can get pregnant all the time. Sperm can survive for 3-5 days in the womb, a woman is only fertile for 12-24 hours of the ovulation. It’s quite a short time even with surviving sperm in the womb. So don’t worry too much about that.

In regards to the job, I can totally relate to that. You don’t want to start and then get pregnant in your probation period. They might even find a reason to dismiss you.
I’m in search of a new job and hopefully will get notice for interviews soon. My partner and I have agreed that we will start trying after about 6 month in the job, after the probation period is over.
Just because you are trying doesn’t mean that it works right away (did for my sis though

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Of course “accidents” happen, but for me personally i want to be settled in order to give my future children a stable home.
In regards to the cousins, well try not to pressure yourself in regards to this, if you stress yourself if might not happen at all. Stress is the main factor for an unfulfilled baby wish.

janemariesayed · Nov 23, 2017

You don't say your age or if you have been to see the doctor about getting pregnant. If you do want to have children, focus first on getting things ready for it's arrival. That means getting your body really healthy first of all so that it can carry full term.

Sort your diet out and go and see your doctor. It would help if your partner was getting his body fit too. If you are both fit then you will more than likely have a healthy baby. Talk to your partner about how you feel. Children cost a lot of money.

I would not worry about the job. Just go and get what job you want and don't say anything about having children until it happens.

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