Anxiety-fueled anger?

[AbeLinkedIn]

It's not often I post on this particular subforum but I want to know if there is a decent correlation with high anxiety and anger. I've suffered with both for as long as I can remember but I think the anger came first. It particularly sucks because any time I try to take control of one of them it feels like I take one step forward and two back. I can't say I'm not making progress but every so often I have an outburst and I feel guilty and terrible not long afterwards. I'm writing this because I feel anxious and on the verge of losing my temper at the moment and I have no other place to really express how I feel without judgment but I digress.

I guess my question is this: Does anxiety manifest as rage or expressed as rage or am I trying to fit a triangle through a square hole?

 

[Joeyp3021]

I have noticed that on days that my anxiety is elevated I lose my temper very quickly. It usually takes alot for me to lose it when i feel normal

 

[AbeLinkedIn]

That's how I feel right now. When I don't have anything worrying me I'm more at ease but when under pressure or anxious I have a shorter fuse, which sucks because my temper is my other Achilles heel paired with GAD.

 

[matisworried]

i definitely have a much shorter fuse when my anxiety is bad. i tend to get pretty withdrawn during these periods because i feel like saying nothing is better then being super crabby. only problem is being withdrawn isn't exactly something people like being around either.

part of the anger, too, stems from frustration over being anxious which is very... er... frustrating.

 

[AbeLinkedIn]

That's what I'm having to deal with right now. Me and my mom had a scrap earlier (Which actually inspired this thread TBH) and I'm doing my best to reconcile but I'm getting a silent treatment. Mind you she has anxiety like me but she's also an epileptic and while undiagnosed I think she might have narcissistic personality disorder too.

The stress is coming from a divorce she's going through and I'm having to put my personal life on hold to tend to the house so she doesn't have a seizure, bump her head and die. Add to that my biological father being a no good adultering bastard and I get little respect for all I do is it any wonder why I'm as f**ked up as I am? It's like God's the only one who's got my back, everyone else is out to get me

 

[AbeLinkedIn]

Update: Feeling much worse, nowhere else to turn. I'm trying to find a distraction

 

[Mandyhiero]

I notice the same thing. The least little things my girls do set me off when any other day it wouldn’t bother me. I try to pray through the feeling because I never want to take things out on them. Praying you feel better soon. I hate anxiety!

 

[Trying123]

I am definitely short tempered when I feel anxious. Which leads me to feel guilt and shame and more anxious in a cycle. I try to break this cycle by taking a time out and deep breaths, determine my choices, say a prayer before saying or doing something I will regret. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Years ago, if someone was rude to me and I felt too much anxiety to express my anger and stand up for myself, it would make my anger worse, as I hated to be walked all over by a rude person.

 

[AbeLinkedIn]

So I've been doing well not posting here but tonight was the chicken in the soup. A bit of context here: 2019 for me has been a mess, mostly because my folks are in the middle of a nasty divorce and I've had to take care of my mother (Who's epileptic) for the better part of 8 months while she's been seeing lawyers and the like. My dad cheated on my mom with another old flame and had been going at it for 20 years behind our backs and we only caught wind last Christmas on Facebook. The majority of 2019 has been this bullshit and it's been negatively affecting my mental health but I go through it because my mom has no one else to turn to. This means having to put my life on hold and have to deal with litigation and division which has been doing a number on my depression.

Now Halloween is my favorite holiday. A day where you can eat candy and let my spooky hair down? Sign me up. Every year the church I work at puts on a trunk or treat where I usually do a bomb-ass display and put a lot of blood sweat tears and money into it. This year would be no different, in fact I focused more on it this year as a distraction from the divorce bs. Well tonight I was informed it's cancelled due to bad weather.
I'm devastated. The one thing I was looking forward to this year taken from me, all the while the divorce isn't over yet. My Halloween is ruined and because of the **** going on Thanksgiving and Christmas are shot too. I have nothing more to look forward to and at the risk of sounding dramatic I feel no one understands how I feel. I thought for one night I could let loose and have a good time, something I spent a good chunk of my free time and money on which I'll never get back. All this pain and torture would have been worth it, but evidently I can't catch a break.
Let me put it this way: I'm not a drinker. As a matter of fact I can't drink on my medication because it make the effects stronger, but I've never been more tempted to get **** faced than tonight alone. I think it might be time to pop-off, no one's been of any help.

 

[PRguru_cfj]

Since collage I'm getting use to more grown thing and I'm starting to get my te.pwe problems back. I haven't had thease problema for the past 15 years until now. When I get anxious it turns into frustration and I end up with sloppy job at the end and I get angery at my self and do somthing stupid. Becuase imy anxiety I am starting to care less about alot of things and even debate on living at one point. My full nihilist persona came back in 2018 when 43of my close family members died. Two of the funerals I cried, the last one I felt nothing. I font have I'll will towards others. Now I just feel like all the hard work I doo is for nothing and I am going to die with nothing. Can't do anything write without breaking things

 

[Izthewiz]

If your anxiety causes you these issues
Join a mma or jujitsu academy like I do.
Got anger out and felt positive

 

[Guitarist41]

Yes, I 100% was HIGHLY explosive before. I broke my hand twice because of it, and several cell phones, a tv, etc.
I started depakote, and though I lowered the dose, it does seem to help with the rage. Depakote does help with mood stabilization. I also know that Effexor made me REALLY on edge.

 

[PRguru_cfj]

If your anxiety causes you these issues
Join a mma or jujitsu academy like I do.
Got anger out and felt positive

I have been thinking of that for a couple of years. But college and other things like money problems had always got in the way. Plus wouldn't getting punching the face or choked out get me more angry and I dont like to lose. Also I never threw a punch or fought in my life. I practically ran away from fights and stressful situations . It's the whole reason I started to talk about it. Pluse the thought of fighting and combat speaks to me in a way on the other hand. But I'm on the fence in general.