Anxiety all day everyday

[maddison]

i started with Anxiety 4 months ago it has been coming on slowly over the summer but has now reached it's peak i started medication 2 weeks ago but it hasn't kicked in yet i know people are having a hard time during the lockdowns and staying indoors but i know it's not that that is the problem Anxiety is a terrible thing to have and live with, my married children know i am going through this but never ask how i am they just tell me about what they have been doing i suppose it's because they have never known me to be ill and always been independent i hate getting out of bed on a morning because i hate my house due to the road outside becoming busier and noisier this past 2 years i have no appetite have lost wight and don't look myself and my husband is getting stressed because he doesn't know what to say to me to make it better thanks for reading, any help would be appreciated i just feel so alone

 

[Cirqueme]

Do you mind if I ask what your anxiety is over?

 

[EMJ]

If you are here on this forum .... you are not alone. We all share the difficult challenge of dealing with anxiety and depression. Do you feel that any thing in particular triggered this anxiety? Is it due to life changes ... retirement? Kids gone from home? Being unable to go and do things you used to do because of pandemic rules and practices?
Please keep in mind that things will get better .... I know personally how difficult it is to climb out of the terrible anxiety hole we can fall into .... but there is a way out .... never give up

 

[maddison]

Do you mind if I ask what your anxiety is over?

It has slowly come on this year to due a high level of traffic outside our house due to food delivery vans other delivery vans and more cars passing on what used to be a quiet side road it's supposed to be 20MPH but no one stays at that ans a local water sewage works has opened a new plant and we hear the noise from 9 at night untill the morning and i wish we hadn't moved here now

If you are here on this forum .... you are not alone. We all share the difficult challenge of dealing with anxiety and depression. Do you feel that any thing in particular triggered this anxiety? Is it due to life changes ... retirement? Kids gone from home? Being unable to go and do things you used to do because of pandemic rules and practices?
Please keep in mind that things will get better .... I know personally how difficult it is to climb out of the terrible anxiety hole we can fall into .... but there is a way out .... never give up

Hi thank you it's been triggered by high volumes of traffic outside a night hum that we have from a local sewage works and not liking the home we have got we moved from a house to our last home a bungalow i hate my home and hate the house of traffic and it will always be here i have lost my appetite and have lost weight my husband is older than me and i hate that i am worrying him i feel so guilty
the night times are really bad as awful thoughts go through my mind i wouldn't do anything to myself i wouldn't do that to my family but the night times are really bad and i don't want to wake up i feel like my chest is going to explode all the time i have never had anything like this before although i have been through beravements and this really feels like this i always come out of them but this just will not go away it's ruining my life my grown married kids know what i am going through but they seem to just think i'll get over it they are too wrapped up in their lives which i understand and i wouldn't want to upset them i haven't seen them for a while because i don't want them to see the weight i have lost and i don't look the same and don't want to get upset in front of them i just would like some advice on how to cope i won't go to a therapist but i am taking the medication

 

[EMJ]

It must feel terrible to be stuck or feel stuck in a situation you hate. Medication can help.... and therapy can too ....many people wonder how talking with a stranger can really help make things better but truly the objective viewpoint, the listening ear and the tools these therapists have to help us help ourselves can ease the difficulty of anxiety and depression so very much. I have spent many hours working with a therapist ... and also I AM a licensed therapist .... I worked for over 40 years in a university setting helping people to get past their own personal struggles with emotional health..... there are always better days .... and when we feel our most hopeless .... take a deep breath ... take several ... and know there are many people who care and can help.

 

[maddison]

It must feel terrible to be stuck or feel stuck in a situation you hate. Medication can help.... and therapy can too ....many people wonder how talking with a stranger can really help make things better but truly the objective viewpoint, the listening ear and the tools these therapists have to help us help ourselves can ease the difficulty of anxiety and depression so very much. I have spent many hours working with a therapist ... and also I AM a licensed therapist .... I worked for over 40 years in a university setting helping people to get past their own personal struggles with emotional health..... there are always better days .... and when we feel our most hopeless .... take a deep breath ... take several ... and know there are many people who care and can help.

Thank you so much i will speak to my doctor again and ask her about therapy thank you for your kind words

 

[Jonathan123]

As an ex counsellor I believe there is no substitute for good counselling. I say good, because it is still not illegal in the UK to set yourself up as a counsellor with no real credentials. Having said that it is perfectly possible to get help from someone's old mum or a person who has been there and knows. But whatever advice you take there has to be trust. This is so important. If you feel uncomfortably with your advisor then find another one. We need someone who can be objective. Objectivity in anxiety is very difficult for a sufferer if not downright impossible. We become self centred and so caught up in ourselves that seeing anything outside our immediate problem is difficult. A counsellor with years of experience has heard it all and, like a doctor, can never be shocked. Opening up is so important because it relieves the pressure of 'going it alone'. You can share feelings and emotions, Blocked emotions must be released, and in the company of someone competent. A catharsis, a pouring out of emotions, is one way of relieving anxiety. Never be ashamed to express emotions when in the company of someone who understands.

 

[Doug97]

I'm very sensitive to noise so I understand. I've found wearing foam earplugs at night, and even sometimes during the day, to be a really big help.

 

[maddison]

I'm very sensitive to noise so I understand. I've found wearing foam earplugs at night, and even sometimes during the day, to be a really big help.

it''s awful being sensitive to noise i have very good hearing i will try the ear plugs thank you

 

[EMJ]

I use meditating music to help guide me through really tough spots .... I have earbuds that block out other sounds and allow me to be in a sound environment that can be very soothing .... thinking of you this Sunday... and hoping that this day bring positive steps into digging out of that damn anxiety hole

 

[maddison]

I use meditating music to help guide me through really tough spots .... I have earbuds that block out other sounds and allow me to be in a sound environment that can be very soothing .... thinking of you this Sunday... and hoping that this day bring positive steps into digging out of that damn anxiety hole

Thank you for thinking of me We went for a long walk today felt a bit better but as we approached home i started to get the palpitations and shaking bad as i knew i had to go indoors and see the traffic pass by it's strange i think i need to get out of the house more as i feel better away from it i will look into getting some earbuds tomorrow hope you are having a good day and thank you x

 

[Lanchparty7]

As an ex counsellor I believe there is no substitute for good counselling. I say good, because it is still not illegal in the UK to set yourself up as a counsellor with no real credentials. Having said that it is perfectly possible to get help from someone's old mum or a person who has been there and knows. But whatever advice you take there has to be trust. This is so important. If you feel uncomfortably with your advisor then find another one. We need someone who can be objective. Objectivity in anxiety is very difficult for a sufferer if not downright impossible. We become self centred and so caught up in ourselves that seeing anything outside our immediate problem is difficult. A counsellor with years of experience has heard it all and, like a doctor, can never be shocked. Opening up is so important because it relieves the pressure of 'going it alone'. You can share feelings and emotions, Blocked emotions must be released, and in the company of someone competent. A catharsis, a pouring out of emotions, is one way of relieving anxiety. Never be ashamed to express emotions when in the company of someone who understands.

Well said! Speaking from my own experience, therapy is what is keeping me going at the moment. My once a week session is my only real outlet to speak my mind and not be judged or ridiculed for it. My therapist is very laid back and most importantly, not at all judgemental.

 

[Doug97]

Did the earplugs help at all?

 

[maddison]

Hi yes i got them and tried them they were okay but can't sleep in them and can't hear my partner talking so they were in and out so in the not to distant future we are selling up and moving away because if i get better here it might happen again the only forward for me is to get away from the noise not buy near a busy road!!

 

[Doug97]

Aw that's a shame, why couldn't you sleep this with them in? That's when I find them most helpful. I also wear an eyemask to block out the light too!

 

[maddison]

Hi, i kept taking them out because i have to listen out in case my partner who isn't well needs me i kept thinking i could hear him iv'e had a horrible day today wish i could switch off my thoughts can't believe i have been happy in this house for years and now hate everything about it because of the outside noises and are looking at moving because i associate the house with the noise so will never settle here my old house was quieter hind site is a good thing wish i had had it back then iv'e put music on during the day but it's the night time that is really noisy due to a new company opening a new recycling plant the noise is on every night now starting early evening and it's worn me down over the summer

 

[Doug97]

I'm very sorry to hear that. You seem very certain that no matter what you do, you cannot be happy in your new house. But is that really true? I feel that for as long as you hold this certainty, things cannot get better for you.

 

[maddison]

hi yes that's really true i cannot settle here and the only way forward for me is to move out of the area start a fresh and hopefully get it right this time now we have made the decision i feel a bit more brighter about the future hopefully i can get well again

 

[Doug97]

Well that's good news, you have something hopeful to work towards. Just make sure your new place is quiet! Take a walk round the area at different times of the day to be certain.

 

[maddison]

i will do massive research on the area i will even stand outside at different times of the day and night