Anxiety about past mistakes

[Sclem]

Hi everyone. I fear for the future because of mistakes I have made in the past. I feel like I am not capable of doing anything in life now. My mind is always fearful with the “what if” and I cannot shake it. I want to let go of the fear and just enjoy the present, but I can’t find a way. My mind always go back to the past and how it’s going to ruin my future. Anyone else ever feel this way?

 

[triceps]

Hi and welcome Sclem. I made some crucial mistakes in my career that have really cost me in terms of my current retirement. I understand how difficult it is to not rehash and beat yourself up over things that can't be changed now. I'm still learning to have to accept my present state, an anxiety-ridden retiree that could have had a financially rich retirement. The thing is, my anxiety makes it so that I can't enjoy traveling or have a extravagant lifestyle anyway. Like you, I still go through the "what ifs" but it's a futile exercise for both of us. Try to start anew and figure out what direction your maximum potential might be. Again, welcome.

 

[ladybj]

Hi everyone. I fear for the future because of mistakes I have made in the past. I feel like I am not capable of doing anything in life now. My mind is always fearful with the “what if” and I cannot shake it. I want to let go of the fear and just enjoy the present, but I can’t find a way. My mind always go back to the past and how it’s going to ruin my future. Anyone else ever feel this way?

Have you thought about counseling? It helped me a great deal but the key to counseling is to get a counselor that is a good fit for you. I was very blessed to find such an awesome counselor.