Amaxophobia

[Concernedgal]

As many of you guys already know ,I suffer from amaxaphobia the fear of being a passenger in a car. Today, I woke up and just decided to do it. I woke my husband up and told him I felt like getting out. To his delight... he got up and said . Ok. So I spent 4 hour s in a car today. I went to the grocery store, and shopped at a local supercenter (and as you all know that of itself is a nightmare. Lol. ) what seems normal to others .. is a major achievement for me. I'm so proud of myself. I told myself all day that nothing is wrong your brain is tricking you . And it worked. It worked. I had such great day.

 

[janemariesayed]

Doesn't it make you feel good and lighten the mood when you get to go out. Even something as simple as shopping for groceries. I'm glad that your hubby was there for you and ready to take you out at the moment you were ready to. I have problems going out as well. When I make it out the door, when I can actually get my outdoor clothes on, my shoes on, and actually leave the house. Then actually walk through that front door, I give myself a really good pat on the back. It is an achievement. I just wish I could do it all the time.

 

[Concernedgal]

I know. It really is half the battle to get your clothes on and make it out the door. You have a list of "what ifs " in your head. What if I panic in public? What if my panic doesn't subside fast enough? My husband thinks that I don't trust his driving and that'd not it at all because I do. My fear is of being in an enclosed space while that enclosed space is moving. I suppose that's why I don't like carnival rides either huh? Lol. Or elevators.

 

[janemariesayed]

I'm not sure if it because 'will I panic in public' in my mind. For some reason, I think I don't want people to see me. I'm also afraid of getting blown up or something. I am islamophobic. Is that islamophobic? Is that the correct word? I'm not sure, but I'm scared of them. I've been told what their plans are and I see that they can come here without checks. If they can't check out an English woman, born and bred here in London, who has handed over all her documents, and who worked liaising with the British Embassy on a daily basis while I lived in Egypt, then how on earth are they checking out those that are coming into this country? I've been told what the plans are so I am greatly concerned. My agoraphobia goes deeper than that, though. So much so, that I can't put my finger on it. I know I don't want anyone to see me. I know that before I leave the house, I get nauseous and panicky, especially if it is an appointment where I will have to speak with someone. I'm sure that therapy will root it out and deal with it ultimately but in the meantime, my dogs get walked at the crack of dawn when no one is out and the rest of my outdoor activities are done in my back garden.

I am okay though if people visit me in my own home. I'm okay with strangers coming to my house just not outside. Is it because of a feeling of vulnerability? I wonder? Agoraphobia seems to be just a complex a subject as all other mental issues.

Shame that your Hubby thinks it's because of his driving. Perhaps sit down with him and explain one day when you are nice and quiet together. He has come across before as very understanding and patient of your plight. Perhaps thank him for his patience and understanding and assure him that it isn't him at all. When I say thank him, I mean, make a point of it. Get him a little thank you card for example, and a bottle of beer as a thank you gift. Making a point of it puts it across to people more than just words sometimes. You are really lucky to have him beside you. He is probably more understanding than you realise. It is probably you feeling guilty more than him thinking that you don't trust his driving.

So it seems you are a little claustrophobic as well. Being afraid of enclosed spaces would only be made worse if it was moving at the same time. Maybe it makes you feel vulnerable, not in control. You are at the whim of the machinery driving you. How are you on buses and trains? Or escalators?

 

[Concernedgal]

Well to answer your question @janemariesayed . Buses are crowded so that's a no.lol. And I seem to be fine with escalators. I suppose it's because escalators are just moving stairs. My husband also owns a motorcycle so when I ride that... I feel the same anxiety, so maybe the helmet makes me feel claustrophobic too? I suppose some of the reason that I feel more anxiety is because i'm not in " control " LIke you mentioned before. If i'm in a car and I have a panic attack, I just can't jump out and "burn" off the agitation or nervous energy. Whatever the reason though, i'm just Going to keep looking at my symptoms for what they are and try to have a sub-par normal life.

 

[janemariesayed]

It seems that you have a problem with trusting others with your life. Others may not take care of you or consider that you are there. Yes, there are a lot of people who are selfish and don't care about or think about others. Sometimes I have been pillion on a bike and they have ridden at 100mph. I didn't ask them to. They didn't ask if I minded either. I won't go on any bike now because I ended up[ coming off and hurting my leg. If someone is a crazy driver or has a bad reputation for driving, I won't get in their car. I use buses but feel they are safer because they are bigger and hence more stable.

I am more concerned now to be in a crowded place, such as a bus station for fear of what could happen. Do you drive at all? Do you trust your own driving? Or getting yourself from A - B without having to be reliant on someone else?

 

[AnxietyMuffins]

That was so nice of your husband to just say ok and take you.

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[Concernedgal]

Hello @AnxietyMuffins. Nice to meet you.yes it was nice of him. I love him so much for what he has to deal with everyday. Sometimes I think I should leave him just to make his life easier. He deserves better.

 

[AnxietyMuffins]

I feel the same way. In every relationship I had, I always felt that person deserved better. We need to love ourselves more!