After an argument...

[Guest]

I don't want to go into much detail about what happened with me personally, but I hate the anxiety that is caused by having an argument with somebody you like, or anybody for that matter. For days after it causes me to over think and regret everything I said.. And contemplate over and over again if I was out of order to them or not. It's annoying feeling like this, I wish I could not care about it.

 

[Costello]

I think this is normal for those of us with a want for social acceptance. It's just that some of us feel too much......we want that acceptance so much that we question our actions and words when we try to get it through other people. Especially people who are like us

 

[Guest]

For me its the feeling of being redicules and stupid I get after or during an argument. I fastly regret even to start or go into an argument and wish that I would just have shut my mouth, to spare me the embarrassment of my stupidity.

 

[morgoodie]

I am the same way. I keep thinking about what I said and whether it was justified or if I am just over reacting to the situation. I ask myself if I have the right to be upset or mad at whatever the other person has done. I often will have conversations in my mind with a person who I have an issue with versus having a real conversation with them. I do not like confrontation and I am usually very bad of letting my feelings being known. I bottle things up until the last straw and then will blow up. Then I feel guilty and anxious over it. I hate feeling like this but do not see it changing in the future.

 

[Alex]

When it's personal it can be hard to let go of something, especially when you feel there was no resolution or that you had no control. I know some people say walking away doesn't solve things, but it depends on the situation. Some people don't realize the effect an argument can have on another mentally, and that can be longer lasting.


I try to avoid the situations if I can, or discuss rather than argue and do it when I want to and not when others want to.

 

[mauricioq]

I hate when that happens too, it's super hard on me because I start thinking on how maybe it was all my fault and that's way worse. An argument is made by two or more people so it's not only your fault, don't forget it.

 

[SirJoe]

An argument can be something that can affect you very strongly emotionally. Normally there are things said that aren't meant form either side. There are people that can deal with the repercussions of it better then others but both sides normally will be equally affected. The main problem is it can build on itself and if this happens it will take a lot of time for it to get out of your head. The ideal is to try to speak to the person again but in an calm setting.

 

[vegito12]

I think that when an argument occurs you may say something you regret and later think about what you should have done and it is easy to just blame the other person and see their mistakes but not our own ones and when someone does point our ones we may tend to ignore that or try and not listen to the other person in the process, it can make the mind stressed as the person may not want to see what the problem is. When an argument is occurring it is sometimes best to leave each other and move away for some time so that you don't start it again and it can take time to solve problems, as both you and the other person may have differences and should give things a rest and when you are calm and relaxed and the other person as well then talk about what occurred and try and fix it. It is nice to try and sort things out when the mood is calmer and also the consequences of an argument can affect others as well so when the problem is starting then try and sort it out or get help from others so that it does not lead to a big issue which can have negative consequences for everyone.

 

[justsayyes]

I understand and in my case, i always put the blame on myself and internally berating myself for how badly i overreacted. When I'm in an argument, i deliberately say the most hateful things that i know could hurt them, that's just how i defend myself and in the end i always regret my words and wish i could take them back because i know i went too far. It's even hard for me to apologize most times. It's frustrating really.

 

[joshposh]

It's obvious to see that your anxiety is triggered by your confrontations and the emotional responses you have when dealing with this situation. The best thing to do is avoid the situation completely and not talk about it when you are heated. Instead wait for a better time when you are level headed and at a better place mentally. It is not constructive to face the problem with vengeance and attitude. Just relax and talk about it some other time when you are at peace and maybe have a mediator there to help the process along.

 

[cecejailer]

I don't have anxiety specially because of this, but it does trigger an episode, and it sucks. It's that kind of anxiety attack that's not only about you and your feelings, but also hating yourself because of what the person you argued with might be thinking about you... When I have an argument with someone, I always end up apologizing, even if it's not my fault, just so I can get a relief from that terrible feeling...

 

[janemariesayed]

When I argue with someone it stays in my head for a few weeks afterwards. It goes around and around and I just can't seem to get it out of my head. It makes me anxious too and annoyed. Eventually, though the thoughts subside and I forget about it.