Accepting New Responsibilities

[Kaynil]

I know to a certain degree is natural to feel nervous about doing something new, like gaining a promotion. Still, this used to wreck me really bad. I used to feel like I was not as good as they thought and I was going to mess up and then they would all be angry or disappointed in me. That kind of thought would be circling in my head and shooting my anxiety really badly to the point of inadvertently taking actions that would sabotage myself and ultimately fulfilling my own prophecy.

To be honest, I used to avoid accepting new responsibilities if I could help it. People would nudge online and I would decline invitations to be an administrator, help with web pages and basically anything outside my zone of comfort. When I got unemployed, applying for a job, even if I thought it was something I liked it was though. Just reading the requirements and responsibilities, my brain was already trying to cling in any excuse to say it was too hard and even if I got hired I'd just flunk it in not time.

I feel I can cope better now and I have tried to throw myself in if an opportunity comes but it is an uphill battle where all my instinct still wants me to run back and take refuge inside the cave. Haha.

I recently got new responsibilities on two different webs and I am covering for a co-worker in a job I have just barely finished my probation period. Part of me is like "no idiot, what are you doing?" and I am trying to just take it one day at the time. Anyway, I ranted enough.

how are you guys accepting new responsibility? Does it comes easy or do you try to avoid it?
What about promotions? Do you deal well with them?

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[Alex]

Responsibility is something that we learn to accept as we grow up, but I'll be honest I will try to avoid unnecessary responsibility if I can these days. As the eldest, I have always had an element of responsibility, looking after my little brother who was always up to something including crossing roads without looking both ways.

In work, I've been in a position of responsibility for most jobs and it's never bothered me as people have always turned to me. There can be pressures and after a while it's drawing a line of what is within your remit and what isn't. I used to supervise airport staff and some would call me at 5.30 a.m. if they were lost. I would put my foot down then because I wasn't around, and they just wanted to call someone to sort things out for them.

I've also had job promotions without asking for them, which was a compliment, but with added responsibility also comes envy from co-workers, and that can cause stress and anxiety.

 

[AnxietyMuffins]

I always avoided greater responsibilities. I didn't want to apply for a promotion. But when the place I was working at displaced me because of a new system that was implemented. I ended up working in a place that was too much for me physically. So my only way out was to get a promotion. I had to take a class and pass a test. I mentally tortured myself till test day. I ended up passing it. I kept thinking about sabotaging myself. I have to move to a different
state for this promotion. I'm nervous about being new, my co workers, learning the job etc... I don't know how I get through each day, but I know I suffer doing it.

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[janemariesayed]

That is a fear for me too. That I will mess up and anyone would be angry or disappointed with me. I used to do so much and was very good at my job, but now my confidence has diminished to an almost zero. I have had responsibilities in work before now, but returning to the UK I just feel useless. Most jobs I have had have said that I have been one of the best workers that they have ever had yet I still am feeling useless and worthless.

 

[misszerable]

I would welcome new responsibilities with open arms if that would mean I'll be learning new skills, merits, and connections that I can use in my current or future jobs. A few years back, there was a vacancy in my previous company's HR department for the manager position. Because we have to maintain confidentiality in all HR information, I was assigned to do stuff like payroll and conducting preliminary interviews for the vacant positions. That actually meant I needed to stay later than usual at the office. It lasted for about three months but I learned a lot from that experience. I simply can't let self-doubt overtake me. I'd rather fail while trying than fail because I never tried at all.

 

[Decentlady]

Honestly I try to avoid leader's role. As I type this I still have an invite to be a CMO in some coperate however, I have been avoiding it with lame excuses.

Partly because I hate being answerable to someone and partly because that people working under you suddenly start looking at you with a different viewpoint.

So, I just want to be within my comfort zone.

 

[Ptinacloud]

That is a fear for me too. That I will mess up and anyone would be angry or disappointed with me. I used to do so much and was very good at my job, but now my confidence has diminished to an almost zero. I have had responsibilities in work before now, but returning to the UK I just feel useless. Most jobs I have had have said that I have been one of the best workers that they have ever had yet I still am feeling useless and worthless.

This is exactly how I feel. I had just posted about this. Ever since my first part time job as a teenager I would quit whenever I made mistakes even though I’ve always been told I do a great job in every job I’ve ever had! I have zero confidence and I basically anticipate the worst going into work everyday. Zero positivity in my head when it comes to work. I feel pathetic like I can’t keep a job because I wanna run away from all of them for stupid reasons. I’ve asked my fiancé why he even wants to marry me. I just feel ridiculous.

 

[Concernedgal]

This is exactly how I feel. I had just posted about this. Ever since my first part time job as a teenager I would quit whenever I made mistakes even though I’ve always been told I do a great job in every job I’ve ever had! I have zero confidence and I basically anticipate the worst going into work everyday. Zero positivity in my head when it comes to work. I feel pathetic like I can’t keep a job because I wanna run away from all of them for stupid reasons. I’ve asked my fiancé why he even wants to marry me. I just feel ridiculous.

Listen to others when you are praised and stop being so hard on yourself. You are not pathetic. I promise you. The simple fact that you have a fiancée should tell you that you have self worth. Someone wants to spend the rest of there life with you and you know what that means...? That means your not pathetic. Men are not stupid. ( well most aren't . Lol) so take the fact that your engaged as proof for self worth. Have a little self confidence and realize that everybody makes mistakes. You are only human.

 

[_Lukas]

I always ask my fiance why he wants to marry me too. He always has the same answer- "I wish you could see yourself the way I see you."
I struggled with keeping a job when I was younger, I probably had four different jobs in two years! It took me forever to find a job I liked but once I found the right one I stuck with it and I've been promoted a lot and I'm very well-respected there.
It can take a really long time to find the right job but there's something out there for everyone and once you find the right one it will just click.

 

[janemariesayed]

I’ve asked my fiancé why he even wants to marry me. I just feel ridiculous.

You should listen to your fiance, and you too @_Lukas. They love you and they are looking forward to spending the rest of their lives with you so they are really happy right now. And it is all because you are in their lives. Relax and know that you are loved and enjoy your times together.