19 year old guy struggling to talk to girls

[Elias]

I don't know where to meet girls or how to talk to them I work full time at a car dealership with mostly guys so I don't socialize regularly with girls that often. I also have Asperger's which makes it really hard to talk or make eye contact with girls although you wouldn't be able to tell anything is off when talking to me at work because when I'm selling you a car I have an exact word track that I use although this far different talking to a girl on the go outside of work when it comes to trying to get to know her or even just be friends with her. I'm going to be honest I've never had a real relationship with a girl and I'm very embarrassed by this. I want to work towards changing this. Any thoughts?

 

[Rinka]

I don't know where to meet girls or how to talk to them I work full time at a car dealership with mostly guys so I don't socialize regularly with girls that often. I also have Asperger's which makes it really hard to talk or make eye contact with girls although you wouldn't be able to tell anything is off when talking to me at work because when I'm selling you a car I have an exact word track that I use although this far different talking to a girl on the go outside of work when it comes to trying to get to know her or even just be friends with her. I'm going to be honest I've never had a real relationship with a girl and I'm very embarrassed by this. I want to work towards changing this. Any thoughts?

First of all, please don’t be embarrassed about your “lack” of relationships.
Relationships are not something that one has to master or collect.
They are build over time. Some people have a lot of superficial relationships and then others only have one or two meaningful long terms ones, and then again some people have everything in between.
I myself had my first partner with 28. We have met through a “meet up” group for people with social anxiety.
So we had common grounds. We are still together over three years on.
Maybe you could have a look if there are “meet up” or clubs in your region, where you could meet people?
I always think, that it is important to follow ones interests. So if you are for example interested in board games and enjoy playing them, maybe have a look if you find a club or so where people meet and play.
Or if you are interested in anything else, check if there is a club or meet up group and join.
This takes away the first barriers, the “what do we talk about” barriers. Because you are already part of a club or group for a specific interest, you just talk with people about this. Then later when you get to know the people better, you will find that it gets much easier to talk to them and establish a relationship.
There should also be some groups for high functioning people with Aspergers.

 

[janemariesayed]

I don't know where to meet girls or how to talk to them I work full time at a car dealership with mostly guys so I don't socialize regularly with girls that often. I also have Asperger's which makes it really hard to talk or make eye contact with girls although you wouldn't be able to tell anything is off when talking to me at work because when I'm selling you a car I have an exact word track that I use although this far different talking to a girl on the go outside of work when it comes to trying to get to know her or even just be friends with her. I'm going to be honest I've never had a real relationship with a girl and I'm very embarrassed by this. I want to work towards changing this. Any thoughts?

Hi Elias. I think that Rinka has it all wrapped up to be honest! The thing to do is relax. Get yourself involved with an activity that you enjoy. You will meet women there and get to know them over time. But firstly, relax in your activity so you don't come across as needy. Smile often and don't worry about meeting someone. You will meet someone soon enough if you really want to. Have fun and enjoy your life as women like a man who is happy.

 

[ChrisLeJune]

I don't know where to meet girls or how to talk to them I work full time at a car dealership with mostly guys so I don't socialize regularly with girls that often. I also have Asperger's which makes it really hard to talk or make eye contact with girls although you wouldn't be able to tell anything is off when talking to me at work because when I'm selling you a car I have an exact word track that I use although this far different talking to a girl on the go outside of work when it comes to trying to get to know her or even just be friends with her. I'm going to be honest I've never had a real relationship with a girl and I'm very embarrassed by this. I want to work towards changing this. Any thoughts?

Are you looking for help in this matter? Because I have overcame this and can now pick up girls anywhere. But please don't come at me with no bs about how you can't do it because you can.