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Twinkie Moon

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I absolutely hate them.

I hate sending them, and I hate getting notifications when someone replies, especially if it's a person of authority I'm writing to. :dead:

When I finally muster the courage to actually write that darn e-mail (which already takes me a day or two), I'm always checking for any errors 8+ times, saving drafts after drafts, searching for the correct way to say this or that. Shortening the email out of fear I might be wasting their time or repeating myself. Looking for the right words so as to not sound like a fool. And after all that I'm still very hesitant of sending them. Sometimes I end up not hitting that "send" button.

I don't even send "thank you" or follow-up emails either (even if they allude to it) for the same reason even if they only need to be two words long. I feel like they'll also clog up the other person's feed!

Notifications are the worst, they appear and I go into a frenzy. I don't wanna click it and see the other person's reply out of fear of what they have to say but I need to.

100% of the time the replies aren't bad natured at all and are actually really helpful, but I still can't shake the feeling. :banghead:
 
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Twinkie Moon said:
I absolutely hate them.

I hate sending them, and I hate getting notifications when someone replies, especially if it's a person of authority I'm writing to. :dead:

When I finally muster the courage to actually write that darn e-mail (which already takes me a day or two), I'm always checking for any errors 8+ times, saving drafts after drafts, searching for the correct way to say this or that. Shortening the email out of fear I might be wasting their time or repeating myself. Looking for the right words so as to not sound like a fool. And after all that I'm still very hesitant of sending them. Sometimes I end up not hitting that "send" button.

I don't even send "thank you" or follow-up emails either (even if they allude to it) for the same reason even if they only need to be two words long. I feel like they'll also clog up the other person's feed!

Notifications are the worst, they appear and I go into a frenzy. I don't wanna click it and see the other person's reply out of fear of what they have to say but I need to.

100% of the time the replies aren't bad natured at all and are actually really helpful, but I still can't shake the feeling. :banghead:
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I know what you mean Twinkie. I'm the same but that is why I like writing. Because speaking face to face I normally say the wrong thing because I'm a nervous talker. At least writing you get time to think about it first.

I don't think you really have much to be anxious about with this. Your posts are very well written and well structured on here so I presume your emails would be of the same quality!;)
 
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janemariesayed said:
I know what you mean Twinkie. I'm the same but that is why I like writing. Because speaking face to face I normally say the wrong thing because I'm a nervous talker. At least writing you get time to think about it first.

I don't think you really have much to be anxious about with this. Your posts are very well written and well structured on here so I presume your emails would be of the same quality!;)
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Oh, yes, writing is definitely better! Usually in writing I'm much better expressing myself in a comprehensive way; however, when speaking... that's a completely different story. Sometimes I can't even formulate a sentence more complex than what a 6 year old would say!

But thank you, I'm flattered! :happy:
 
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For me, it is more the dread of the answer of knowing they want my answer to something. When I am starting it I am usually better at it. Anyone older or higher in the ladder tends to make me nervous so I can relate to that about the figure of authority bit.

As for the answer, it really teases me to know I have an unread message and I am very nervous to the point of procrastination. I have to wrestle myself to answer instead of keep on dwelling on it. Especially when I don't know exactly what I am going to say because then I just ramble and I don't want it to feel like I am giving excuses for the sake of it.

I agree it is easier to tpe than to speak in person, which is why I like forums so much.
 
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Sometimes I can't even formulate a sentence more complex than what a 6 year old would say!
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Sorry for that and it can be so embarrassing can't it? I lose sentences halfway through as well and forget completely what the subject was. The doctors call it brain fog as well as when someone asks me a question, my mind just goes totally blank. God knows what some people must think of me. I ramble on as well @Kaynil and I think that some people probably can't wait to get away from me! lol
 
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