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My Dad has Died.

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When a black cloud becomes a memory
It's time to put the brollies away.

I heard yesterday that my Dad has died. I've not shed a tear. Not one. It was difficult to fall asleep last night but I feel so blank. Like it's someone else's Dad that has died, not mine. Is this the effects of the Prozac?
 
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It might be. But, then again...it might not be ,it's hard to say. From what you have told us about your dad....he wasn't much of dad. You simply might not look at him as your father is all. You are entitled to feel the way you want to feel . On the other hand .... you could also be in shock. It's hard to be emotional during shock and it may hit you soon ...just not right now. If if it does. ... you come on back here and you talk to us. Do go through this at all. No matter how you feel about it though. .we are here for you and we love you. I'mean sorry to hear about your dad.
 
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janemariesayed said:
When a black cloud becomes a memory
It's time to put the brollies away.

I heard yesterday that my Dad has died. I've not shed a tear. Not one. It was difficult to fall asleep last night but I feel so blank. Like it's someone else's Dad that has died, not mine. Is this the effects of the Prozac?
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It does not have to be to do with meds, but maybe the way you or your unconsciousness deals with the loss.
Sometimes our mind is shutting down unwanted feelings and releases them bit by bit.
I felt similar, when my grandmother died. I always felt quite close to her, but i was not able to cry or feel the loss.
Only bit by bit the realisation sinks in and the feelings appear.
There might be more then just the feeling of loss that is taking its time. You might have felt a lot of frustration, fear and very conflicted feelings in regards to him and your mind is trying to protect you from becoming overwhelmed.
 
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Thank you @Rinka & @Concernedgal You could be right and I have yet to start feeling the emotions. We were somewhat close but after meeting my mum again learned of all the lies that he had told. So it might also be like you say and because he was a real bar-steward!

Still no tears this morning either. No lump in the throat or anything. It's really weird. Now if that was one of my furry babes..... Oh, Golly! Now that would be a different story altogether.

Thank you for your support. If and when I do start bubbling I will come on here for sure.

I thought I would be overwhelmed when this happened but there just isn't anything there.
 
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I'm so sorry for your loss. There is no wrong way to feel, so I think it is okay to just focus on yourself and allow feelings to come if they come, and not come if they don't decide to. Emotions are complicated, and sometimes I just... allow them to come through, no matter weird or unexpected.
 
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