Making Friends

Making friends has been hard, I try my best to be friendly. But I think I may not be very approachable, I get nervous and end up blending in the background. It gets very lonely, especially when you see other people around you that make it look very easy. And it's harder to meet new people, I don't know where to start. I agree though, I too rather have at least one close friend. I can live with that, but I would like to improve over time and meet more people.

Rinka said:

It's a itself fulfilling prophecy.
And it's so hard to get out of this vicious circle.
Hmmm I think that when I was studying social work we had this in our psychology course. Need to read up on it again.

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Oh really?!? Wow!! Then I am going to bring this up in my therapy. We may not get to deal with it yet because I am just going through screening. This is a good time to tell them my symptoms. I wonder how to deal with it?

Meow2907 said:

I have no idea how to make friends. Have not had any friends for about 10 years. All the friends I ever had always befriended me so I guess I have never learnt how to make a friend.

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So you're saying that no one has tried to
make friends with you for the last 10 years
I find that hard to believe. Just try to talk to someone one day. Act like your posting
And just started talking.

ursellb said:

So you're saying that no one has tried to
make friends with you for the last 10 years
I find that hard to believe. Just try to talk to someone one day. Act like your posting
And just started talking.

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It isn't so easy as that though. When we are posting, we are mostly replying to what someone else has said. Or if we post and no-one replies, they haven't seen our face or reaction. It can be fearful to actually speak to a stranger face to face and start a conversation. When we are in front of people, myself for example, if I am in front of two others then I have no problem. But any more than that and I clam up. I go silent and words escape me. How to get beyond that any ideas would be welcome!

for me.. it's not that I cant make friends it's that I can't keep them. And it's lonely. I have this thought in my mind that eventually I will lose them and to just go ahead and push them away. I havr a hard time telling the people that I love and care about just what it does mean to me when they just spend time with me during my depressive times. I want to say"thank you" but, I just can't find the words. Why would I drag my freinds in my sucky life? I found an article that knows what i'm talking about.. heres a piece of it.