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I love my children very much but they act like I do not exsists,They did promise me about 8 years ago when they got me to move out of my house,which by the way I did not want to do but I had unfortunately no say in the matter still am very angry at that,anyway they promised me that they would help me out ha,if I asks for help i either don't get an answer or they are to busy,hey i was never to busy for them...I do not understand why my grandchildren get to see there great grandma all the time I am lucky if I see them three times a year sad I know since I only live about ten minutes away from them,I have asked them to come by always to busy.Of course I am upset it would be nice to see them when I get to see my daughter once a year how pathetic is that?? Always to f busy.I do not know if it is because of my mental illness or not .but don't go and treat me like an outcast in my own home or a loser.Does anyone else have issues with your kids as well?I have a friend who has the same probem.What the hell is wrong with the kids I have mentioned many a times how i want to see my grandchildren my mom gets them every weekend Ugh why not me,I mean i felt so left out last night, they made some lasagna and brought it over to my moms good grief it would be nice to have them come and visit me once in awhile and i could order a pizza or have them pick up something of course I would pay for it,I get lonely too,many of times my kids have made me cry because I feel so unloved... enough said ps i could use s huh
 
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Oh, @XmasCarol52 Hugs and love to you. I wish I were there or you're here.

Have you tried expressing to them your need of their help, presence and company? Sometimes our children need our gentle touch of letting them know that we, their parents, are still alive and are capable of loving, receiving some consideration and friendship from them. You used to be that kind of person to them when they were young. Now that you do not have that strength to do things for them, it's their turn now. No obligation, but they must think that for themselves.

You seem a strong woman of good character with so much love built in there. They ought to see and understand that in you, their mother. I hope you are okay now as of this writing? A little bit?
 
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I did tell my son before I needed help all I ever get is to busy same thing for my daughter,I feel like I did something wrong,I know years ago I was pretty bad with mood swings and would hurt them some then but I didn't realize that i was sick until I had a nervous breakdown and landed in the hospital every once in awhile my son will bring up the fact i threw his toys in the pool and I keep apologizing about that to.It was not my fault I was really sick come to find out i had a very bad mood disorder,my mood could be laughing one minute then the next crying or yelling,I am kind of glad I had that nervous breakdown because if I hadn't who know i may never had gone to a doctor,my son tells m to try to stop my bad temper and I told him it is part of my illness bipolar is bad enough but when u have other depression anxieties,etc,it just makes it worse,he says that because my land lady threaten to evict me for my yelling,even though i have told her numerous time it is my illness,people need to stop judging mental illness and realize that it is very real not something we made up.Sometimes when i do asks for there help they won't even answer me ,my mother even said that my son doesn't want to do anything,she has no cause to complain about him because he visits her every single weekend and if she needs help as far as i know he will help her ,if he is there that is.I just am so upset because I was promised a lot of help before I moved into my new apt.I love them why cant they just see that.I feel like i am being punished for being sick.
 
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Oh I forgot i feel a little bit better but not a lot. When your kids live close by and cannot come to see you that is awful and how is a party more important to go to then coming to see there mom? sometimes i think I could be dying and they could care less..
 
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There you go, Carol. Here you are upset because of your family and children and the way that they treat you. I think this is maybe what has made you feel depressed the last couple of days. Chin up Hun, the feeling will pass. The sun will come back and you will feel like sitting out there again. Sending you hugs, don't feel lonely, we are all here to love and support you.
 
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I feel like am nothing to them thanks for the hugs I could really use them
 
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I feel like am nothing to them thanks for the hugs I could really use them
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I feel like I mean nothing to my family as well. For example my mother. We have only been in touch for the last two years and I would have thought that she would want to get to know me. But I was wrong. I don't understand why she dosent seem to want to even speak on the phone. Instead all I get is a message on Facebook. It's made me hate Facebook. When she calles me it's only for about 5 minutes so we never get to have a conversation.

When she visits me, she wants to go out and do things the whole time so we don't get to sit and talk. I appreciate the help they give me, but my illness needs something from her that would cost nothing at all. Just time to talk. The fact that she doesn't, makes me feel very sad and lonely. I feel rejected by my mum and my family.

When I came back from Egypt, I noticed my mum and aunt were following me on Facebook so I friended them. Other members of my family friended me as well and started following me. I got a few likes on my posts from them, but I noticed that stopped rather suddenly and quickly. I looked and found that they had all stopped following me on Facebook. I haven't a clue why they all did that. It seems strange to me, so I went on and unfollowed all of them too. Now I don't bother to click like on their posts so I do with them as they do with me. It makes me very sad though. I wish I lived in the days when family mattered. It doesn't help with my illness at all. Thank God my brother calls me for a chat sometimes.
 
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that is so sad that your mother doesn't want to take the time to know u,that is just plan rude and awful.My mother and I am sure you know this buy now thinks my mental illness is all my fault.As if i decided one day to give myself anxieties and depression.Not.I feel for you I really do I wish your mom would realize how great of a person u are.I can see it and I am sure everyone else can too.I am surprised my grandchildren even know that I am there grandmother.What is wrong with people nowadays a little bit of love and kindness would never hurt anyone, hugs for u my friend
 
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Damn them they did this again they went to my mothers house only yesterday and now they ordered a pizza they do this all the time,did it ever occur to them that i may like to have a pizza or someone come here and have a meal with me NO???? My feelings are hurt why must my mother get everything and i dont get the time of day???Then they go and complain to me you try staying with my mom for five straight hours every Sunday,so it makes no sense to me why they even go there then .
 
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that is so sad that your mother doesn't want to take the time to know u,that is just plan rude and awful.My mother and I am sure you know this buy now thinks my mental illness is all my fault.As if i decided one day to give myself anxieties and depression.Not.I feel for you I really do I wish your mom would realize how great of a person u are.I can see it and I am sure everyone else can too.I am surprised my grandchildren even know that I am there grandmother.What is wrong with people nowadays a little bit of love and kindness would never hurt anyone, hugs for u my friend
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Your fault? Yeah right! I bet if you go way back to when it all started, you will find that it is probably down to something she has done that has given you this illness.

My bio-family will never truly love me. I was born out of incest and they are all against me for it. Or at least it feels like they are all against me for it. It is probably that they don't want to be reminded of it. But that has left me alone and without a family and it makes me very sad.

Thank you for your hugs, Carol. I need them, and lots too. So hugs back at ya, from me and the dogs! Group hug!:happy:
 
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Well I just had it out with my mother I got a rather disturbing thing in the mail today it said i didn' qualify for energy assistance because i never did the energy assistance thing of cousre tat is bs so when i tred to tell my mother about it she got all excited and yelled at me i told her don't cop that nasty attitude with me again she didnt like it and hung up on me,this is my mother for you ,you can yell at you but dont you dare yell at her ,so she called me back i refuse to answer the phone ,nobody slams the phone down on me so i will not be talking to her for awhile i do not need her f crap.i am so angry right now they just screwed me big time,
 
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