bin_tenn
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Good evening! I'll try to keep this relatively short, but I can't make any promises. 
Some of you may know that my dad passed away in 2014 from esophageal cancer. While it was rough for a while, things finally smoothed out. Going through it in that moment was not nearly as intense as one would expect it to be, at least not what those of us with anxiety would imagine.
Anyhow, mom got remarried a handful of years ago (2017 or 2018 I think). He's alright. Not necessarily my favorite person for some reasons, but I can at least say that he really loves mom and really shows it. Very handy around the house, fixes the cars, etc. Good guy overall.
He was confirmed today to have cancer. The discovery started a couple weeks ago, but symptoms had been around for a while. But, like my dad, he's stubborn and never went to the doctor. If I had the symptoms he started having often, I would've been in a doc office so quickly. Haha. But to each their own.
He had gone to the ER a couple weeks ago, and subsequent testing found lesions on his liver. More testing suggested that they were likely metastatic rather than primary lesions, though there was still a possibility that they were benign (e.g. cysts). So he saw a different doctor today - a gastroenterologist, I believe - whose testing confirmed colon cancer.
I generally wouldn't think too terribly of colon cancer from the jump, but my concern at this point is that it's possibly far too late to effectively treat it (re: the liver metastasis). I'm no doctor and I accept that I'm merely making assumptions and speculating, but I'm also trying to be realistic. At the end of the day, it is what it is, and I (we) just have to accept it.
This sucks. I hate it for him, of course, but I also hate it for my mom. If things go the worst route, that will make twice that she's experienced such a situation with someone so close to her. Mom already suffers from depression and has had a major cardiac event in 2016. I worry a bit for her health due to the stress of this.
That's basically it in a nutshell. It's rather reminiscent of my dad's short (about a year and a half) cancer battle. The worst part for me, which I've been able to manage well so far, is the fact that some of those feelings from dad's passing come back now and then. But it'll be okay, I'll be just fine.
Thanks for reading. I hope you're doing well.
Some of you may know that my dad passed away in 2014 from esophageal cancer. While it was rough for a while, things finally smoothed out. Going through it in that moment was not nearly as intense as one would expect it to be, at least not what those of us with anxiety would imagine.
Anyhow, mom got remarried a handful of years ago (2017 or 2018 I think). He's alright. Not necessarily my favorite person for some reasons, but I can at least say that he really loves mom and really shows it. Very handy around the house, fixes the cars, etc. Good guy overall.
He was confirmed today to have cancer. The discovery started a couple weeks ago, but symptoms had been around for a while. But, like my dad, he's stubborn and never went to the doctor. If I had the symptoms he started having often, I would've been in a doc office so quickly. Haha. But to each their own.
He had gone to the ER a couple weeks ago, and subsequent testing found lesions on his liver. More testing suggested that they were likely metastatic rather than primary lesions, though there was still a possibility that they were benign (e.g. cysts). So he saw a different doctor today - a gastroenterologist, I believe - whose testing confirmed colon cancer.
I generally wouldn't think too terribly of colon cancer from the jump, but my concern at this point is that it's possibly far too late to effectively treat it (re: the liver metastasis). I'm no doctor and I accept that I'm merely making assumptions and speculating, but I'm also trying to be realistic. At the end of the day, it is what it is, and I (we) just have to accept it.
This sucks. I hate it for him, of course, but I also hate it for my mom. If things go the worst route, that will make twice that she's experienced such a situation with someone so close to her. Mom already suffers from depression and has had a major cardiac event in 2016. I worry a bit for her health due to the stress of this.
That's basically it in a nutshell. It's rather reminiscent of my dad's short (about a year and a half) cancer battle. The worst part for me, which I've been able to manage well so far, is the fact that some of those feelings from dad's passing come back now and then. But it'll be okay, I'll be just fine.
Thanks for reading. I hope you're doing well.
