Anxiety

I've been married 35 years and have always had anxiety, but it has gotten worse over the last years. He gets very frustrated with it and I know it's hard for him to deal with because it's hard to have a normal life. I told him I would understand if he ever wanted to leave - that way I wouldn't have to feel guilty all the time and he could have a more normal life. He said he would never leave because of that. He has his own issues that I have dealt with in the past. I am curious too though if that is a common thing for someone to leave because of their spouses anxiety.

I've never been married before.

However, I've come a long way in overcoming my issues with my anxiety.

So if I do get married someday, my anxieties shouldn't be an issue with my spouse.

PositiveVibes said:

Has anyone spouse left them due to anxiety like it was just too much for them?

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We should always fight for each other, the world is a cold place. If someone cannot stay with someone because they have mental issues, what about more horrible circumstances. Such as bills and kids, and communication.

My last girlfriend left me because of my anxiety, but she also sort of left because of her own mental health issues as well. However my last relationship was essentially two people who didn’t understand the depth of their own issues and decided to bring someone equally broken into the chaos of each other’s lives. It was unhealthy and unfair to us both.

It’s important for anyone with a mental health problem to have control over it before entering a new relationship or at the very least not use your partner as a way to fix or forget your problems. This will always lead to heartbreak. I went into my relationship with a lot of repressed and I acknowledged issues and then rather than using my partner for support I used her for therapy.


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More than once I have ended relationships because my anxiety was too bad to be involved with anybody else. My thinking was, it was bad enough for me, it would be worse for them. I didn't expect them to have to even deal with anything I was going through. Or even think about it. never blamed the anxiety for the break up. Always used some other excuse. Others might have different opinions. That a partner can help you deal with things. That sort of stuff. Hard for them to understand things fully. You have to go through it to understand it. Now if it was a wife / husband who upped and left I might question it a bit more. I would assume they were aware of the condition before they ever married the person. Thus knew it was there and it might lead to some issues. That is a whole new ball game.