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I have an affection towards a man who doesn't like me back

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1imaan1

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Hello!
About 2 months ago, i joined an islamic forum. To be precise, i am a muslim. There I asked for an advice and a man replied. Although other gave advice as well, but i liked his reply so much. He appeared very polite. Then i began to read his other posts and realized he is really a very pious, kimd person. So from then, i am having affection towards him. I deleted the app so i don't come across him, but all in vain. I just downloaded it again after some time. I am just not able to get over it. There isn't any relationship and all in islam,and I don't even want it. I just want him in a right way, according to islam, through marriage. I am very religious and he as well is same. That's why i want him. I have been so anxious since then. At first, i started praying to get him as a spouse but then i stopped thinking God will give me whatever is best for me. Nowadays, i am finding it very hard to concentrate on anything.
Another issue, is he is 24 and i am 16. And he is very much desperate for marriage. And i think that it will take a long time for me to get at that age, he would have married till then. I am losing hope. I am so much stressed. Please help me.

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All he done was answer you message. Nothing more. He never said or done anything else? How do you even know he is single? Just one to careful about. That you are not reading too much into his answering your post.

Plus we have the age gap. Is a bit big,. You are still young. No need to dive straight into something like this. I am just curious, if somebody else had of been nice to you in the way they answered your post, would you be thinking the same way about them? Or is just that you even saw a picture of this bloke and liked what you saw?

My whole point is the one answer, to one post does not mean a person really likes you. It takes a lot more than that. Just be safe. See if he talks you some more. Then you will know if he likes you. To be thinking of marriage after one post, to me, is a bit to quick with your thinking.
 
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Cuchculan said:
My whole point is the one answer, to one post does not mean a person really likes you. It takes a lot more than that. Just be safe. See if he talks you some more. Then you will know if he likes you. To be thinking of marriage after one post, to me, is a bit to quick with your thinking.
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Yes, i am sure he doesn't like me. I don't get attached to everyone who answers but it's just that it was a first time i joined a forum and he was the first who was kind to me. But the affection didn't start until i checked his other posts and found out he was pious.



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So what you really fell for was his words. Not him as a person. As you did not really know him. You liked the words he wrote. How do you know he does not like you? He probably doesn't even know you. That is just you been too hard on yourself. I am sure you are a nice person. The idea of having a such a person such as him in your life was what you liked. Again based only on his words in other posts. There is a lot more to love and romance than just that. I am sure you will meet someone, some day, just as nice. And be happy with that person.
 
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1imaan1 said:
Another issue, is he is 24 and i am 16. And he is very much desperate for marriage. And i think that it will take a long time for me to get at that age, he would have married till then. I am losing hope. I am so much stressed. Please help me.
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I say you should not be in a relationship with him, as the age ranges are too wide. It doesnt seem that bad when young, but as you get older it will not be so good because he is 8 years older. If he was 19/20, or 21 max, then go ahead, but as you are 16 and he is 24, both of your personalities and needs will clash as you grow older. He is just too old to even be your friend.
 
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