Disgusted by the people around me

You have to let it go.
At the end of the day its their choice where one spends their hard earned cash.
I know its sad to see people living on the streets but I believe a lot of homeless people are homeless because 2 reasons
Mental instability and choice.
I have been homeless myself and got myself out of it.
But if you want to hold people accountable
It starts with you.
Invite those less fortunate into your home.

Hero, I'm curious (because we have posters spread across the English speaking world in here).. what country are you in (?)

I'm at a point now where I somewhat despise humans in general. I mean, I absolutely cherish life, and I respect everyone's opinions, belief systems, way of life, etc, because it is ultimately their decision. If it's not bringing me down in my own life, I couldn't care less. But I still have quite a negative perception of people overall.

It's difficult sometimes to not speak up about it, because I'm a very blunt person. However, I know I need to, because it's just my take on things, and I don't intentionally upset anyone. It's just not who I am.

I definitely get where you're coming from. All the greed, hatred, jealousy, violence, carelessness - it all gets to me at times. But again, it's not my place to pass judgement, so I choose not to.

Life is what you make of it. Some people make a choice not to see certain things going on around them. Is that wrong or is that right? You see it all and you carry what you see with you. It makes you angry. Makes you hate people. Thus it is bringing you down. Effecting your life. I see the same things that you do. But what can I do about it? One person is not going to change the World and solve all its problems. Like others I have enough to be dealing with already. Without taken on the problems of others. Is sad to see people living on the streets. Dying on the streets too. Whilst others simply walk right by them. But that is not something I can change. We always hear of groups who live to protest the fact that these people are not getting enough help. The second any shelters are opened in their home areas, these same people are out protesting about a homeless shelter opening in their home area. Is a case of help them. Give them a place to live. But not in my home area. Put them in another area. Is two faced form of protesting. In the end, because they protested about the shelter, that is not opened. They act like they want to help them. Is those sort of people that annoy me the most. Or those idiots who have to film themselves helping the homeless. Just to get likes on social media. Is the in thing to be seen helping these people. But it always has to video taped. Which is a load of rubbish. Do good because you want to do good. Not because you want likes on social media. These people are worse than the people you see out spending all their money in the shops. At least the people spending the money in the shops are not degrading the homeless on a camera / video just to be popular.

heroiceroica said:

I‘m in the US... the nonsense on the news doesn’t really help me either

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Same here...and it just gets worse by the day and will be far worse with the coming election this year. I don’t watch any local or cable news but I still read stuff online. Trying to do that less though.
I am basically fed up with everyone and everything right now...I’m annoyed and miserable basically from the time I get out of bed in the morning and thru the whole day. I really don’t like the city and state I live in...bad weather, bad economy, miserable and unfriendly people. I lean one way...and the state I live in is 100% the opposite way.

bin_tenn said:

I'm at a point now where I somewhat despise humans in general. I mean, I absolutely cherish life, and I respect everyone's opinions, belief systems, way of life, etc, because it is ultimately their decision. If it's not bringing me down in my own life, I couldn't care less. But I still have quite a negative perception of people overall.

It's difficult sometimes to not speak up about it, because I'm a very blunt person. However, I know I need to, because it's just my take on things, and I don't intentionally upset anyone. It's just not who I am.

I definitely get where you're coming from. All the greed, hatred, jealousy, violence, carelessness - it all gets to me at times. But again, it's not my place to pass judgement, so I choose not to.

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I used to not be concerned with others but since my downward spiral of depression began a few months back, I now have become a complete grouch and I most definitely do judge others. I also harbor large amounts of jealousy, bitterness and anger toward people I know personally (co-workers, ex co-workers, family, former acquaintances) and even those I don’t know...like famous people or random strangers you see out in public. Very unhealthy to harbor these feelings and just one of many issues I am dealing with right now.

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Same here...and it just gets worse by the day and will be far worse with the coming election this year. I don’t watch any local or cable news but I still read stuff online. Trying to do that less though.
I am basically fed up with everyone and everything right now...I’m annoyed and miserable basically from the time I get out of bed in the morning and thru the whole day. I really don’t like the city and state I live in...bad weather, bad economy, miserable and unfriendly people. I lean one way...and the state I live in is 100% the opposite way.

I used to not be concerned with others but since my downward spiral of depression began a few months back, I now have become a complete grouch and I most definitely do judge others. I also harbor large amounts of jealousy, bitterness and anger toward people I know personally (co-workers, ex co-workers, family, former acquaintances) and even those I don’t know...like famous people or random strangers you see out in public. Very unhealthy to harbor these feelings and just one of many issues I am dealing with right now.

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Sorry you're dealing with those things. I can't fully relate, in that I don't have depression and I don't have those other feelings about it. But I'm sure you're still not alone. This sounds like it's possible for many with depression. I hope you feel better soon.

I would talk to a therapist about this. They can help you cope with it and redirect your thinking. For as long as there have been people, there has been materialism. Just because you see these people spending money on frivolous things doesn't mean that they aren't without their own problems. We all have problems and hardships, some are seen and some aren't seen. Maybe the person buying shoes for their dog is upset over the death of a loved one and the distraction helps them feel better for a little while for example. Maybe it's a gift to cheer up a loved one who's having a hard time. You never know what someone else is going through. Life is complex and we can't make snap decisions based on just what we see a person doing in a moment of time (unless of course they're hurting someone or something like that). Running with how something appears to the point of bringing yourself down to this point only hurts you. I get what you're saying about consumerism. It bothers me in a broader way when I think of the state of our planet, etc. But, I just change what I can by not buying a whole bunch of junk that I don't need and shopping secondhand when possible. That's something that I can control.

I usually don't spend my money on useless things because I have always been tight with my money.

For me ever since I was young I tried to make alot of friends as possible. But as I got older I began to loath people little by little. Now that I'm collage talking to people seems so irritating to me for some reason. Granted I have some bias to this because I got jumped and lied to so called friends. I can see most of you can hate humanity as a whole. But one day you meet that one diamond in the rough that changes you. Until the next rusted rock comes your way them you have to start over
Giving the covid situation dealing with people seems irrelevant now
For me now of days the concepts of friends and relationships seems forgone to me. Now it's just If I have to work with people I'll do it. Hell I can't stand my family sometimes. This is wired for me to admit considering college is where you go out most of the time but the thought of conveying my feeling to another being seems disgusting now. I tried to be anything and do anything. But people kept saying I'm annoying or creepy. I went to prom wit no real reason and I danced with my self the entire night.
I hate people as much as the next guy and I guess I hate myself for not trying to understand the world around. But the more I think about it I just don't really care about much nowadays. Which scares me considering that what I do and act is completely opposite of what I feel honestly. Maybe I given up and scary enough I don't really care if have it really cared in the first place

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i just get so absolutely DISGUSTED with people sometimes. I can’t even go to malls anymore because they’re full of people, most of which are probably wasting their money on useless things they don’t need whatsoever and it’s so nauseating. I know I shouldn’t judge people like that but I can’t stand it. When did people get so shallow that they basically get high off spending money? And on top of that there are people living on the streets that have no place to sleep while at the same time there are people buying ******* fancy little shoes for their pet dogs online. It not only makes me disgusted with other people but with myself too. I get so upset sometimes wishing that these things didn’t bother me and that I was young again and unaware. How can I get over this?

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Ultimately, it’s none of your business. It’s not any of my business, no one’s, but those who are spending their own money. Yes, there are a lot of people on the street, however... you should also get disgusted that many of them are there because they selfishly decided to use drugs, or be a drunk, etc. THAT is why many of them are there.
We’re just as guilty as judging those consumers, as the people on the streets. Each make decisions, and each will reap what they have sown.