Anxiety really bad need help and advice

chiliphil1 said:

Just do some of the breathing exercises. Find a quiet place and do the breathing, reassure yourself that everything is ok and that you will be fine. Get your mind onto something else, don’t let it take over. I know you feel like you just want to escape but right now you need to stand and face it. Let that worry happen, just breathe through it. Do the exercises and calm yourself. You can’t escape the anxiety so you have to be stronger than it is. You have to take control of it and learn to calm yourself down.

You will be ok. If things get too bad go to the emergency room, they can help.

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chiliphil1 said:

No, I don’t. I do understand though, that’s why those thoughts are called “obsessive” because they become the only thing you think about. It takes time and effort to overcome them but by doing the things I’ve been sharing with you, over time you will start to see results.

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matisworried said:

you need to take ownership of your feelings. your anxiety is not your fault but it's your responsibility to manage. you're not intentionally thinking about this horrible stuff but you are allowing yourself to focus on these thoughts. this is where therapy would work wonders.

here is something i learned. it is very helpful:

the next time a health concern pops into your head, tell yourself "I'm not going to think about this right now." if the thought is still there, say it again. say it out loud if you have to. then, get up and do something different. it is a very effective tool for treating anxiety.

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Grey dolphin333 said:

It’s just I keep getting triggered by the pain in my stomach and back which makes me think about it I keep think there might something wrong with my bowls or my stomach and then get scared and panic if the pain wasn’t there I wouldn’t think about it as much I just want to get better I have been trying to do some of the things you recommend it’s just hard trying not to think thoughs thoughts


I’ll try that it’s just I get the thoughts triggered by the pain

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matisworried said:

your anxiety is very likely making your pain worse or creating it all together. reduce the anxiety, reduce the pain.

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matisworried said:

in almost every response you talk about your physical health... even when the person you're responding to is talking about something totally different (like your anxiety.) you need to stop. you are allowing your brain to go back to that place just by responding with more statements about your health. this is when you should be telling your brain you're not going to think about this right now.

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chiliphil1 said:

That’s where you have to calm and reassure yourself. When you feel the anxiety coming because you’re triggered you have to tell yourself not to think about it right now, get your mind somewhere else. Then do some of the breathing to calm yourself.

You’ll find that once you are able to stop the anxiety from ramping up it will become less overall. When you can move your mind to something else the anxiety stops being an issue. As the anxiety level decreases the pain will go with it.

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chiliphil1 said:

It’s ok. Those are just minor set backs. They happen to all of us. What you have to do is just keep trying, don’t give up. If it comes up just do a breathing exercise or tell yourself that you’re not thinking about it right now. Do that as often as you need to, 1,000 times a day, it’s alright. Over time it gets easier but you have to just keep doing it.

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matisworried said:

you will always have triggers. you will always have anxiety... BUT... if you put in the time, effort and have a positive mindset, you can make them manageable to a point where it doesn't really impact your life anymore. these skills take time and practice to use effectively, though, and you just need to be patient and stay positive. i know this is tough when you're anxiety is at a heightened state, but the alternative is going mad and wasting your life worrying about death, which is probably the dumbest thing anyone could do.

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chiliphil1 said:

Don’t take it as being attacked. We don’t mean that it’s your fault and we’re not blaming you. We are just saying that there is a 99.9% chance that everything you are experiencing is because of anxiety and that by constantly being worried about it and thinking about every little sensation it’s only making things worse. I know that the pain causes anxiety but anxiety causes pain. In order to get through it you have to handle the anxiety first. It isn’t easy but do the things we’ve mentioned, learn to calm yourself and get your mind off of the pain. With some time and effort I’m confident that you will come out of this absolutely fine.

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matisworried said:

exactly. we've been where you are. i have been dealing with HA since I was five years old. I'll be 42 in January. in that time, I've learned a ton about it.

you seem to have the mindset that you can't control your anxiety, that you are powerless over it. as long as that's how you look at it, you're not going to get better.

it's clear you're struggling. we're on page 4 and it doesn't seem anything anyone has said has given you even the slightest relief. do you have a parent you can talk to? or a significant other? someone that can help you get some legitimate help?

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Jennycard said:

Just and idea, but you sound just like me a few weeks ago (even still now) constantly worrying. It sounds like you’re really losing grip. Have you thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Whenever I get realllllly bad headaches to the point I start freaking out and thinking I have a brain aneurysm, I take a prescribed sedative and immediately feel relaxed. The anxiety induced pain goes away as well. Meaning it was all in my head. It really sounds like you’re having a hard time. Sedatives can be addicting but for people with actual anxiety, it can really help calm you down from an episode. After your tests, I would take Mat’s advice and start to focus on your mental health. Not saying you absolutely need medication but for episodes where you can’t calm down, it really can be useful.


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Jennycard said:

Just and idea, but you sound just like me a few weeks ago (even still now) constantly worrying. It sounds like you’re really losing grip. Have you thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Whenever I get realllllly bad headaches to the point I start freaking out and thinking I have a brain aneurysm, I take a prescribed sedative and immediately feel relaxed. The anxiety induced pain goes away as well. Meaning it was all in my head. It really sounds like you’re having a hard time. Sedatives can be addicting but for people with actual anxiety, it can really help calm you down from an episode. After your tests, I would take Mat’s advice and start to focus on your mental health. Not saying you absolutely need medication but for episodes where you can’t calm down, it really can be useful.


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matisworried said:

exactly. we've been where you are. i have been dealing with HA since I was five years old. I'll be 42 in January. in that time, I've learned a ton about it.

you seem to have the mindset that you can't control your anxiety, that you are powerless over it. as long as that's how you look at it, you're not going to get better.

it's clear you're struggling. we're on page 4 and it doesn't seem anything anyone has said has given you even the slightest relief. do you have a parent you can talk to? or a significant other? someone that can help you get some legitimate help?

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