Starting new job on Monday. First “real” job in a long time. Just need some support.

brtmdo · Aug 23, 2018

MasterRoshi said:
Hi all. Anxiety is intense most days when presented with social events (even as small as getting a haircut). But with CBT it seems to be getting lightly better.

The problem with the Internet job hunt, is I was totally able to submit job applications, email the company, follow up etc... because internet is so fR removed from actual human contact, I was able to line up job a interview with little to no anxiety.

Then I freaked out about the interviews (3 of them) and must have done well because they offered me the job.

I went down to them yesterday to sign the offer letter, which wS really scary once again, and my anxiety was high, and I was so nervous while there I can’t remember anyone’s names and couldn’t hold a conversations.

My first day is in Monday, and I want to do good, but for me I can’t function when anxious and my brain shuts off so I can’t thjnk of any questions to ask them to prepare for Monday. And ignoring it seems to calm the anxious thoughts (but doesn’t seem like the best thing to do).

I am already freaking out about Monday and playing all sorts of story lines in my head.

Any advice for work? How to handle work and anxiety? How to prepare?

Or just some support and your experience with work and anxiety???

Th als!

Congratulations on the new job. these are things i learned from cbt. any time a negative thought about work pops up say "this is not helpful for my goal of success" and block the thought. or when a negative work thought starts immediately replace it with positive self talk like "what a great opportunity to get my life back on track. and when you start to think how anxious you might be on your first day, remind yourself that anxiety is the main emotion felt by all new employees. the regular staff will expect you to be nervous

triceps · Aug 23, 2018

Thank God I just retired. I'd be going through everything you are if I was starting a new job. The great thing is that you made it through those anxiety-riddled interviews and got the job! And what's the deal with haircuts? Just got one today and I thought I was going to have to leave in the middle of it. My advice for the first day is to try to ask as many questions as possible to the person who will be giving you the orientation tour and not worry about the other co-workers on that first day. It might keep you focused and less concerned about others noticing your anxiety. So many unknowns that first day and so many fewer with each workday thereafter.

Chris · Aug 23, 2018

Anxiety can be bad when you’re sleepy don’t worry about it, I’ve had anxiety like that as well.

Regarding be job, what you’re feeling is completely normal. Everyone has anxiety about the first day at work. You overcame the hard part getting the job, and perhaps the anxiety you had during the interview didn’t cloud your thinking as much as you thought, and I’m sure it will be the same Monday. There might be some awkward moments but don’t worry this is normal! you’ll get through this!!

Chris · Aug 24, 2018

MasterRoshi said:
Thanks. I had to get a tb test today for the job and get my passport. Getting out of the house helped.
I’ll try to stay as active as possible the next few days so I can be as positive as possible.

Yes good idea! Getting out of the house will definitely help. I always overthink stuff too when I’m at home because I have nothing else to focus on other than all my worries.

Rinka · Aug 25, 2018

MasterRoshi said:
Went to therapy today. Learning how to accept the situation and not care so much. But it’s now back just a few hours later. Obsessing about my day. And freaking out. I guess it’s a process, which I’m aware it is. And in time it will get easier.

But for now I’ll go to bed and get up early. Hope to feel better tomorrow.

I wish you all the best. Starting your schedule early is s good idea. It settles your body clock to the new habit. The first few days are always hard really. They know this and will be more forgiving. What kind of job will you do? Maybe doing some research about the role might help you as well.

Talgin · Aug 25, 2018

You are going to do great! Anxiety makes me tired all the time! I do find that I have anxiety about having anxiety....very annoying! Sounds like what you have. Just remember to not give up. Yell at the anxiety and tell it you don't care. It will eventually fade.

Rinka · Aug 26, 2018

MasterRoshi said:
I am working for a non profit that helps homeless people get employment

I just woke up for day two of early morning schedule.

Had thoughts that life is too hard. Why do I have to spend my entire life inconvenienced and tired doing work? Why is all my time being spent working. This makes no sense! I won’t ever see friends and family. This is lame! Life is lame...I’m so tired!

After about 10 minutes of being awake I feel a bit better but am really tired still and feel like I didn’t get enough sleep...

I feel similar about working. For me its like slavery just with extra steps. Or prostitution, I’m selling my time and body to an organisation and can’t do what I want with MY time of MY life!

triceps · Aug 26, 2018

Well Master, how did your morning go today? I have every expectation that things will go much better than you've been dreading tomorrow. Best of luck that you can be at relative peace today and that you'll get pumped about helping those folks out tomorrow.

Chris · Aug 27, 2018

Let us know how you get on today. Wish you all the best.

Talgin · Aug 27, 2018

Good luck today! Remember that it is okay to be anxious. They are only feelings. Move through it and accept it and it will ease up!

Starting new job on Monday. First “real” job in a long time. Just need some support.

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