Anyone else have an issue with people moving their things?

kelden · Jul 23, 2016

I think is pretty normal to get upset when people move your thing to a different place. OCD only will make you overreact to this nuisance. I've overreacted several times and yell like crazy when I can't find my stuff in their respective place. But I don't always react like that.

Shiori · Aug 5, 2016

I didn't know people were having such similar experiences before joining here. I had a lot of trouble with my mother moving my stuff around in my room. I've always asked her not to clean my room and just leave things as they are. It almost always end up in a fight. Curiously, I'm much more tolerant towards temporary guests or friends who stay over.

djordjem87 · Aug 7, 2016

I think I have an issue but it is more like a normal issue than an OCD issue or I am just used to have my family invading my privacy so I am just holding everything inside. I have OCD but I never cared about moving stuff. I need to touch things and I really cannot work if there is too much mess or at least things are in some kind of logic order. I don't like when people say we have a disorder. I do not see this as a disorder as much as I see their behaviour as an irrational and one without any logic whatsoever. I know I shouldn't be touching things because I really need to but this is nothing serious and it is only a problem when people judge my behaviour.

OutOfSpoons · Aug 12, 2016

I've always assumed most people would get irritated at moving their stuff, but I definitely do get irritated. My mother used to always move my furniture when I'd visit relatives, and it irritated the heck out of me. I also hate when people take any of my things, and I was almost constantly accused of being selfish, but it was mostly because I was worried about the item getting lost/stolen. I hate it when people see anything about my personal life, too.

misszerable · Sep 21, 2016

It does upset me. I feel violated whenever someone else touches my things and move them. My dad left me some books and I would always touch the covers and imagine how he held them. It felt like I was touching his hands. One day, a friend dropped by and tagged her friend along. I left them for a few seconds to get us some drinks. When I came back, I was shocked to see that they have taken the liberty to check my dad's books from the shelf. I held my temper but I was fuming mad at the intrusion. It took some time for me to get over what happened.

Hazwani · Jun 24, 2017

Jemina said:
I've suffered with OCD for years, but something I've noticed in particular that always gets to me is when other people move, or take, my things without my permission. I have to rearrange everything back to how it was before and clean it all thoroughly whenever anyone does that. I can handle it if they at least ask permission first and I know they're doing it. But when I just come back to my things to find it's all been moved is when it's worse. To me it feels like they've invaded my personal space and I really don't like that.

Does anyone else feel the same way? How do you combat people doing that and learn to cope with that happening?

Omg me too.. Today, I had to help my mom clean the house and we we're cleaning my room together and I arrange my books and stuffs like how I wanted and she just moves it and put things on the table and rearrange it without my permission and said it's better that way. URGH how I hated it. I told her to NOT move or touch anything belongs to me cuz if I did it to her she would blow up. I arranged it back but it's not how it was the last time. I felt so unsatisfied and angry. Plus, she did it more that twice and I told her more than twice too... And honestly I don't even know if I have OCD or others...

Rinka · Jun 24, 2017

Gosh I feel similar with my kitchen. Seems very stereotypical but I love cooking and have to have my kitchen organised the way I want it. I know where my knifes are and my spices. And it needs to stay that way!!!
The girlfriend of my house mate was once cooking and cleaning. She rearranged everything and I went berserk. In my head though. I was so pissed and just wanted to though her out.
I think in my case it's a territorial thing. How dare someone do things in my territory without requesting permission from the master (which is me)

janemariesayed · Jun 24, 2017

A maid worked for me when I lived in Egypt. One day, I rearranged my furniture in my lounge and dining area. When she came in to clean, she had changed it all back the way it was before!

I was sitting watching the TV one day, and she came and sat beside me, picked up the remote and changed the channel to something she wanted to watch without even saying a word to me - cheeky!

Rinka · Jun 24, 2017

janemariesayed said:
A maid worked for me when I lived in Egypt. One day, I rearranged my furniture in my lounge and dining area. When she came in to clean, she had changed it all back the way it was before!

I was sitting watching the TV one day, and she came and sat beside me, picked up the remote and changed the channel to something she wanted to watch without even saying a word to me - cheeky!

Uh that would make me so

How dare you claim my territory for your own. I'm the Alfa not you.
Makes me feel very animalistic, like a dog fighting for dominance and territory

janemariesayed · Jun 24, 2017

Rinka said:
Uh that would make me so
How dare you claim my territory for your own. I'm the Alfa not you.
Makes me feel very animalistic, like a dog fighting for dominance and territory

Ha ha, well, it did do something like that. It didn't make me a very happy bunny to say the least. Still, she didn't get the sack until I saw her rubbing her boobs all over my hubby!

Rinka · Jun 24, 2017

Gosh how terrible! And so primeval. She did the "I am the Alfa female" thing. Definitely.

janemariesayed · Jun 24, 2017

Ha ha, I remember it so well. What an experience that was. I put out a vote on a forum 'Should I sack my maid?' and over a hundred people said that I should.

So I did! And I told her that it was voted on as well. And I added that it was over a hundred people had voted her out! She found out who the Alpha was then, LOL!

Katie · Jul 28, 2017

I have a real thing about the order and position of things in my room. To the point where I can't have my parents in my room without me because they have been known to move things around. I was away this week and came back to one of my shelves being completely moved around and not in its place, even though i had been reassured they hadn't moved anything. I couldn't help but just to start uncontrollably crying and shaking, I couldn't stop. My hands were shaking like mad, my couldn't breath or get out my speech. My mam was able to calm me down. Just feel so silly for reacting that way but I can't help it. Haven't been diagnosed with OCD BTW.

janemariesayed · Jul 29, 2017

Katie said:
I have a real thing about the order and position of things in my room. To the point where I can't have my parents in my room without me because they have been known to move things around. I was away this week and came back to one of my shelves being completely moved around and not in its place, even though i had been reassured they hadn't moved anything. I couldn't help but just to start uncontrollably crying and shaking, I couldn't stop. My hands were shaking like mad, my couldn't breath or get out my speech. My mam was able to calm me down. Just feel so silly for reacting that way but I can't help it. Haven't been diagnosed with OCD BTW.

Hi @Katie it sounds very much like you do have OCD maybe you should go and see your doctor and tell him your symptoms. You should also have a chat with your family and tell them that you don't like them going into your room. Put a lock on it if you can so you can lock it when you have to go out. Tell them to knock on the door before entering too. It's your private space and they should respect that.

Purrple · Jan 4, 2018

Yes yes yes! Absolutely the same. At school, when someone touches my pens or sth like that I get something triggering feeling and grab my item to put It back where it was. Or even hide it somewhere so they won't touch it aGain. I know they are just playing with it or just want to hold something for no particular reason but it pisses me off. Also if my mum puts things in the wrong spot. : x and most importantly I think the bigger problem is when I see something put somewhere where it shouldn't be or doesn't look good I rearrange it xD for example the shelfs in the stores XD or at other people's houses..their shelfs.. I don't even tidy my own shelfs XD but it jiggles in me.... Also i have a problem when I take a shower ..if my products and rubber and soup aren't in the exact same order as usual I feel bad and feel that something bad might happen if I mess up something's place :/

Rinka · Jan 4, 2018

Purrple said:
Yes yes yes! Absolutely the same. At school, when someone touches my pens or sth like that I get something triggering feeling and grab my item to put It back where it was. Or even hide it somewhere so they won't touch it aGain. I know they are just playing with it or just want to hold something for no particular reason but it pisses me off. Also if my mum puts things in the wrong spot. : x and most importantly I think the bigger problem is when I see something put somewhere where it shouldn't be or doesn't look good I rearrange it xD for example the shelfs in the stores XD or at other people's houses..their shelfs.. I don't even tidy my own shelfs XD but it jiggles in me.... Also i have a problem when I take a shower ..if my products and rubbed and soup aren't the exact same order as usual I feel bad and feel that something bad might happen if I mess up some order. :/

Uh I know what you mean.
Every time I’m visiting my friend and look at his game shelf, I just want to get it all out, clean all the grime off of it and rearrange his games in genre and the alphabetically.

Sleepitoff · Feb 2, 2021

I don’t have ocd but I do have anxiety I never knew what was wrong with me but my mum has issues w not listening to me she goes in my room and cleans and things are wrong I freak out and I can’t breath I feel like everything is wrong even over the smallest things she made my bed today when I didn’t cause I was in a meeting it was wrong covers wrong way she moved my book and earplugs the wrong place and even the pillows were all wrong I had a panic attack as I got into bed as I felt I was suffocating as it was all wrong

ghanyrajah · May 30, 2021

lexinonomous said:
My boyfriend moves my things around the house on a day to day basis. It is one of the most annoying habits he has. I get incredibly angry when I can't find my things and they aren't exactly where I left them. I will get pretty upset, even if the thing I am looking for was left in a pile of junk. I know that my things can be left in awkward places, but I call it a disorganized mess. He will move my things and try to find proper spots for them prior to me organizing my items. I end up losing so many things because he doesn't remember where he put them. I don't see the point in moving something to a better place, unless you are going to remember where you put it. It gives me anxiety trying to find something that I need for the day, not even knowing where to begin.

YES, MY EXGIRL DID THE EXACT SAME THING.
It should be a crime to continuously do this to someone.
Now I live by myself what a pleasure

pwarbi said:
Many people, even those that haven't been diagnosed with OCD will hate it when their things have been either removed or rearranged as I think we are all possessive over our own personal belongings. If you do have OCD though it can make life almost unbearable as order and having everything in a set place where you know where it is, is one of the most important parts of your life.

I've never suffered from OCD but I know a person who has and they get upset when people tell them to just relax a little because for a person who doesn't know what it's like that's easier said than done. He even says himself that he knows what he feels about having certain things in a certain place is ridiculous and he sometimes wishes that he could simply relax as he knows how stupid he looks to others but his OCD is part of the way he is and so he has to accept that. Telling a person with OCD to relax is about as useful as telling a person with depression to cheer up.

For real thow,aint it the truth.

Silver · Dec 8, 2021

I think I have mild OCD. i'm okay with it being messy, but i hate it when its not in the way i like it to be. i don't like it when my things get moved without permission. my mom sometimes cleans my room and i know i should be appreciative, but i hate it when she moves my things. i told her not to do it, but she keeps on doing it.

FirstJack · Dec 8, 2021

I think most people, given certain conditions, would have a problem or issue with this. I know that if I need things organized in a certain way for work, and they get moved around, I will have issues with the person who did the moving. I also think that how personal the items are might pose problems. I have needed crutches in the past, and people moved them when they thdought they were getting in the way. For me, it was an issue of mobility and made me angry.

Anyone else have an issue with people moving their things?

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