Why can't people understand are illness???

[XmasCarol52]

I do not know about anyone here but don't you just get so sick and tired of having to explain your illness all of the time?? I cannot count the number of times I had to tell my doctor I am agoraphobic and can't always come in when they want me to.Even my own family doesn't get it. I mean why does a mental illness always seem to take a back seat,and if it is even mentioned at all they make it sound like we are crazy.You know how life is nobody questions a physical illness but a mental illness you just have to keep repeating yourself over and over again.Just a couple of years ago I was taken ill called 911 and they took me to the hospital what is the first question the doctor asked me just right after I told him I was scared to come in and I have agoraphobia he wanted to know why I would call at 2am to come into the hospital.Some doctors can be so rude.oh excuse me did I wake him up?? Then I had to go to a walk in clinic cause I have swollen legs and bad dry skin,what does that sob of a doctor say to me the second he walks into the room this isnt going to go away on his own and when i told him I do elevate my legs everyday guess what that b--turd said to me I dont believe you he was calling me a liar.There was no reasoning with this guy,He never even told me his name he just walks into the room and starts yelling at me.Hey I do elevate my legs everyday,I cannot help it if the swollen doesn't go down but no doctor has the right to call a patient a liar.Needless to say I couldnt wait for him to leave I was just about in tears when i left at least the nurse was nice and she understand my illness,Thank God I didn't have to explain myself to her more then once.Doctors just don't listen they don't care if you have anxieties and cannot go out.Actually nobody cares my mom says she gets it but again I had to explain to her just last night I am anxious and when u r that way you fear more she told me not to think about it,Easy for her to say,I am so tempted to write a book and then make copies of it give it to everyone i know who just doesn't get it and make them read it.My mom told me last night my problem is I think about things to much yet she is a huge worrier herself and no not Xena lol Seriously though this woman will yell at me for the stupidest things.Just because she can go out I should be able to. she says well I am not going to sit here worrying about things when in fact she worries all the time I suspect I got my yelling from her. She needs to get a life and stop treating me like a kid she thinks I am incapable of doing anything my son says she still thinks I am two.She has illnesses and I never put her down why must she put me down all the time she has to find fault with everything I do ,last night i finally let her have it because I have to see my doctor this Tuesday however we are suppose to get a NorEaster snow and there is now way I am about to go anywhere when it snows,I use a walker and walking in the snow is making me nervous just to think about it,she got mad and yells at me don't think about it.Again easy for her to say,she always has to get her way because if she doesn't she tries to lay a guilt trip on you or her favorite saying is you go and do what the hell you want then calls u by name i finally let her have it .If she cannot dominate you she has a fit,I use to hold things back not anymore i can not afford to.Holding things in makes one feel more sick inside.Why can't people just get it .why do we have to explain ourselves all the time and if i hear a person was a mentally ill after a murder was committed I am going to scream not everyone is or has a mental illness is a murderer but they make us look bad.Mental illness gets a very bad rap.Like I said earlier we don't question a physical illness why do they have to guestion a mental illness.We are not crazy we just have problems,My mailman says our minds have been damaged that is so true,

 

[Concernedgal]

Questions , questions, questions. It means in my opinion that a misunderstanding of what we go through. It is rude though. What makes you think that I want to explain my mental illness . What makes you think that I even understand it myself? I sought medical treatment for a panic attack not too long ago and of course they judgedme because I wasn't having a heart attack or a stroke. I'm thinking" sorry that my emergency doesn't meet your standards. What do you expect me to do when I can't breathe or my hands and feet feel funny and tingly, and my chest hurts. They say that having a panic attack and a heart attack have the exact same symptoms, so what do you want me to do? When I havean actual heart attack, you want me to stayhome just in case it's not? What sense does thatmake? None. So , I die at home because you think it's an anxiety attack instead? What do they want from us? We can't just snap our fingers and boom we are normal again. People think they understand but, they don't. Only those that experience what we have to , can they understand it. Realistically. .. i'm not quite sure why people do what they do but, it's not right either.

 

[XmasCarol52]

You got that right always questioning our illness.Yes and it isn't right.We never asked for this.I wish sometimes I was dead only today I was thinking of possible ways I could do myself in,but I wont because I am to chicken. Bad day today,all week it has been bad with the yelling.i hope nobody goes and complains about me.They cannot possible hear me with the windows closed and my tv on.It is about time mental illness is taken seriously not just something we just dreamed up in our heads,You don't know how many times I had to hear do not think about it,If it was only that easy huh...I am so sick of being called crazy not me just mental illness in general a loony,nuts we are not none of those we just happen to have a problem which is in our head and what people don't seem to realize that a mental illness is also a physical illness because it effects the brain.Now in my case what brain?? Lol

 

[Concernedgal]

I often think about it too. You can see in my previous post that I often talk about it. I just have those times in my life where I feel so low and horrible, that living just seems a waste. But, then the feeling goes away but, that "cloud is always hovering over me. We are not crazy or nuts and I don't understand what make them so special. Everybody has their problems but, because ours just happen to be mental illness. .. we are looked down upon. Maybe we should look down on them because of they're inability to feel compassion and empathy. I mean isn't being heartless a problem? Pardon me but, what gives you the right to judge me ? That's my question to them. Maybe we are not normal but, is that a bad thing? We are suffering because of a trauma and/or we just care about others more then ourselves. There's a reason for the way we feel everyday. You have built up aggression and you are just sick and tired of being the punching bag . That's my opinion anyway. I've about reached that point myself. You ask "what brain?" Well, studies have shown that mentally ill people are very intelligent. I guess we are freaking geniuses. Lol

 

[XmasCarol52]

I agree with you on everything ,they treat us like we are a danger to society when we are not.They want to cut down on mental health care and I dont see why One time I was watching a life newscast about how if the mentally ill don't get there meds they could end up in jail or a mental institution well I have no plains on doing any of those.I did hear the same thing we are smart ,sometimes I think we are smarter then the normal people because we know what is right and what is wrong.It is true the mentally ill which i found out to be are the most compassionate people around.Maybe it is because we know how it is to be treated so badly and we had the trauma. I just wish they would get it ,how many times does a mentally ill person but down or make fun of a physical illness ? NONe They why do they have to make fun of us?It just isnt fair.

 

[XmasCarol52]

I had to cancel my doctors appointment they say 8-12 inches of snow very windy and I am not about to go out in that and I do not want my son driving in that anyway he was glad I did cancel he said it works for him,I am sure my two little grandchildren will be happy there will be no school,I am sure the doctors wont like it to much but like I told them if you had any brains you would close anyway,sometimes they do if it gets very bad out,now of course I am nervous they may call tomorrow and may not like it .but to bad I am not about to take chances with my son and me falling again.I just told them to give me another appointment if there is a problem with that then i will call back and let them know and I do not need to speak to anyone,It is going to be very bad Tuesday and today is the first day of spring.Could have fooled me. I feel better I cancelled but if my mom says anything my son and i will just say they closed down,I do not need to have my mother yelling at me.That is all I would need to go outside and fall.I hope the doctors understand if she doesnt to bad. This is my life here.Hopefully when they reschedule it will be nice out.TOday has been a very bad day I have been so depressed thinking of my late husband a lot.It is so hard being alone.i know people are next door but still u are alone.At night it gets to be the worse. However I just move on...