Weekend Stress?

[DDNatureLover]

I have a pretty limited social life by choice, but before I did that, I can recall feeling stressed out as the weekend approached, because everyone would start discussing their weekend plans and asking about mine. I guess maybe I've always been a little reticent to share my personal details, because talking about weekend plans probably doesn't stress out most people, but my plans were often different than the plans of those around me, and they never seemed satisfied that I was o.k. with having a slow weekend and not stuffing it with activities. I see the same thing on social media these days, where it seems people are in competition to have the most activity packed and exciting weekend. I don't mind seeing people discussing their weekend plans, and I can see how they enjoy some of what they're planning to do or have done, but a lot of it just sounds like work to me. Personally, I just want to be left alone and not have to feel as if I'm on stage performing, which is how I feel much of the time I'm around other people. 

 

[Alex]

I look forward to the weekend as I feel there is less pressure. I stopped looking at social media because it was more annoying to see people bragging. I used to travel  a lot, but never posted my plans.


I don't  see the need to share everything, then you see people going somewhers and wonder why you weren't  invited, and that can create more unnecessary  tension or anxiety. 

 

[misszerable]

Weekends were never stressful to me. Now that I am back to work and all stressed out during weekdays, I look forward to a weekend of rest and relaxation. I really have no time nor interest to find out what everyone else is up to on weekends. I just want to spend it with my son and my sibling's family and we all just enjoy having home-cooked meals together. I don't feel comfortable about sharing my weekend plans on social media at all. I know that FB has become a bragging community and it will really be stressful if I compare myself to other people so I don't. I am happy enough with what I have at the moment. 

 

[kgord]

Well since I don't have a regular job, I find the weekends more stressful, with time to fill. They always seem to be kind of boring. I prefer weekdays where more things happen, and my time is a bit more structured. However, I do enjoy Football in the Fall so that makes weekends a bit more fun. I enjoy those days. I look at FB but most of the time, there is nothing too worthwhile on there.

 

[mauricioq]

I'm the opposite, I find the weekends really cool because I can do whatever I want. If you like being alone you should spend your weekend like that. But be careful, being too alone can be bad for you, try to plan things with your family or friends sometimes too.

 

[WorkAtHomeGal]

Honestly to me the weekend is just another day... At every previous job I held outside of online work I did not go out of my way to make friends and if people did ask about my weekend I would tell them what I did even though it never seemed exciting compared to their plans. I start at my new job on Monday so I may learn to appreciate free times on weekends more because of that.

 

[Zeesi]

I have a pretty limited social life by choice, but before I did that, I can recall feeling stressed out as the weekend approached, because everyone would start discussing their weekend plans and asking about mine. I guess maybe I've always been a little reticent to share my personal details, because talking about weekend plans probably doesn't stress out most people, but my plans were often different than the plans of those around me, and they never seemed satisfied that I was o.k. with having a slow weekend and not stuffing it with activities. I see the same thing on social media these days, where it seems people are in competition to have the most activity packed and exciting weekend. I don't mind seeing people discussing their weekend plans, and I can see how they enjoy some of what they're planning to do or have done, but a lot of it just sounds like work to me. Personally, I just want to be left alone and not have to feel as if I'm on stage performing, which is how I feel much of the time I'm around other people. 

I agree with you about feeling like you're on stage performing when around other people.  In my particular case, I like to just chill and relax, whereas others seem like they have to put on a show instead of just relaxing and enjoying the day.  I like my own company, and I feel very protective, even stingy, about giving away my time to other people. 


These days, among certain groups, there is almost a contest to see who can do the "best" stuff over the weekend, and then post about it on facebook, like you said, a competition.  Even though 'they' argued the whole entire weekend, they post pictures, and try to make the post look like they had the fun-est(!), most best-est(!!), most interesting time than any one else on the face of the Earth.  I can't be bothered. I like to enjoy my weekends and relax. Relax with my son. A good movie, or a movie marathon of some sort, a nice book, coffee, some good food, peace and quiet.

 

[Zeesi]

I look forward to the weekend as I feel there is less pressure. I stopped looking at social media because it was more annoying to see people bragging. I used to travel  a lot, but never posted my plans.


I don't  see the need to share everything, then you see people going somewhers and wonder why you weren't  invited, and that can create more unnecessary  tension or anxiety. 

I totally agree with you, the bragging on facebook is just out of control.  I know people who fight, argue, cheat, beat their kids, lie constantly, and yet... you'd never know it to look at their facebook posts :dry: .  They are so happy! (Really? No.) Having such a great time! (Really??! NO.)  Doing this, doing that, going here, going there!  Ugh.  It can get to be a bit much, especially when you know the truth about certain people.


I like my weekends calm and peaceful.  No bragging needed .

 

[Alex]

A few years back, I used to freelance and I never had weekends as those were the bust days of doing roadshows and events. It was hard watching others have a good time and me to work very long hours, so I never really had many weekends. Now I do relish them, but I know it's not forever. As a writer, I write as much as I can when my mind has the ideas and momentum, so I don't really have traditional weekends, but I feel less pressure on a Sunday, and also there are less distractions.

 

[Panic57]

The weekends are just another day for me.  I don't feel particularly stressed unlesss I'm trying to complete work or a project.   When people ask me about my plans for the weekend, I just tell them something boring.  I get not wanting to share your private life.  I personally rarely plan my weekends so there is never anything to say.  Personally, I get more stressed out at the thought of holidays and having people ask me why I'm not going home this year.  

 

[amy88]

It's funny because I used to feel this way a bit - even when having social anxiety - when people would discuss their plans. I guess I felt like "why can't I just be at ease and comfortable with socializing?" and it would have a way of getting me down.


These days, having a family has made that different, because staying in is much more normal (and cherished!)...I don't feel that same awkwardness with hating going out like I did in my younger years.

 

[Laneorexorcist]

I thought I was the only one thinking this way about people posting things like that on social media, it's like, okay, we get it, you do have a life, move on. I think that I look up for weekends as an opportunityto complete all the homework that I have for the week, maybe going out to the movies or for a coffee with some friends and if it's not like that I just take a moment for myself and watch Netflix all weekend, lol. And yes... a lot of the time I feel pressure when it comes to other people talking about their weekends, because they make my plans look really boring. and that's notsomething that I appreciate, I guess. 

 

[Jasmin Cottontail]

I am really not a social media person so I don't usually check other people's post and don't post stuffs as well. So I guess it does not affect my weekends after all I normally enjoy my weekends, especially Sundays since it's my only day off and I can do other tasks within that day. I don't actually have other plans than going to church and cooking food or eating out on Sundays, and even so, I never get really bored. No postings and no social media life is absolutely fine for me and I don't really see the need to brag things that you already have and post it on social media

 

[fuzyon]

I'm definitely a loner, I don't go out much on weekends except when there's something special going on. Social media surely stresses me out, but you have to understand that people are different and their lives aren't similar to yours. Just because you choose to relax by yourself doesn't mean you should be ashamed, it's the way you express yourself after all.

 

[TheKnight]

I rarely go out for fun and most of my family knows that. When people ask me what I did for the weekend, I usually joke around with them like ''I didn't do anything and it's all your fault because you didn't invite me.'' It's a joke but they usually get the hint that I don't want to talk about it so they start to talk about theirs. I avoid being awkward and they avoid looking rude. It's a harmless joke, I think. Make sure you make the joke obvious too.

 

[Alexandoy]

When I was younger, I used to have a hectic weekend most of the time. But now I have noticed that my weekend is always reserved at home and I turn down most of the social invitations. My wife even told me that I sometimes need to go out with friends but I seldom do for fear of spending too much. Don't get me wrong about finances but lately I look at weekends as a means of spending money. I feel good when I just stay at home to clean the house, tend the garden and do some other chores just to be productive. And when I go out on weekends, nothing is done in the house.