Unecessary fear

[Alex]

At times I still fear silly things such as calling to confirm an appointment. I have to call an insurance broker tomorrow to confirm the policy I took out online, and they say it's to verify things. It's a pain, because while I know there is fraud around, it defeats the purpose of taking a policy online if I have to call anyhow.

Even though I have nothing to be afraid of, it's more of an inconvenience and just adds to the anxiety. I had hoped by just sorting things online it would be done, but it just creates more anxiety and pressure.

 

[janemariesayed]

This is me too down to a T. I think I may get my words jumbled up or not take in what they have said to me. Normally, I have a pad and pen beside me and scribble down what they are saying as we talk. It does add to the pressure and anxiety if I still have to talk with someone. At least it still gives someone a job, though. So many jobs have been lost because of technology so I try to remind myself of that when I have to take the plunge and speak with a human.

It looks like the problem is also a symptom/side effect of anxiety. When I have to make a phone call, usually I put it off for as long as necessary. Then when it becomes paramount that I make that call, I take a few deep breaths before hand. Get the pen and paper ready, get all the bits beside me that I need and go for it. I have to shut the dogs out of the room though as they make a noise sometimes which affects me taking in what they say. It's worse when they say 'tell us such and such' and I have to go and find out what they want. For example, sorting out my electric. When I was on the phone with them, they decided that they wanted me to go downstairs and get on my hands and knees after moving everything out of a cupboard to read a meter. I was vexed because it caused me anxiety. Not a problem for others, but for me, it did my head in!

 

[Decentlady]

Okay so I have this sort of anxiety too. It's the same when I have an upcoming viva or an interview. I feel quite nervous and have trouble sleeping.

Talking to someone over the phone gives me the same jittery feeling but after forming the words in my head or jotting them down I oftwn manage just fine.

 

[AnxietyMuffins]

I'm afraid of the other person on the end of the line, having an attitude and being very rude to me. Or talking down to me and having an aggressive deamenor. This is what happens most of the time when I have to make phone calls. I got lucky yesterday when I made a motel reservation, those are usually the worst. The receptionist was so kind to me. And did not get an attitude when I confirmed information. I appreciate those kinds of people.

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[MeowsePad]

I'm terribly afraid of having to make phone calls or walk up to people and ask questions. When I'm nervous or am not sure what I'm trying to say, I talk like I'm having a stroke. I have difficulty finishing sentences. It makes it very difficult to get information that I need sometimes...

 

[Alex]

I'm afraid of the other person on the end of the line, having an attitude and being very rude to me. Or talking down to me and having an aggressive deamenor. This is what happens most of the time when I have to make phone calls. I got lucky yesterday when I made a motel reservation, those are usually the worst. The receptionist was so kind to me. And did not get an attitude when I confirmed information. I appreciate those kinds of people.

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Perhaps this is a fault of how society has been evolving where it's 'acceptable' to be short and rude to people. I hate it when people say "You pay for what your get," because manners should exist regardless of how much you pay? I don't see why people should accept rudeness or a bad attitude and people try to excuse them, and while we all have off days, to allow it to fester is wrong.

The older generation in general have a higher bar and expect manners, and to them it must be hard to see people who lack them and where others see it as normal.

 

[Concernedgal]

Hello @MeowsePad . Some would say that it's is the fault of society itself of why good people like us hate and avoid any kind of confrontation. @Alex took the words right out of my mouth. How can we as a society except rudeness and hatefuless as an enevetability.

 

[Alex]

Today I was on the bus as I had to go to the rough town center and it was pretty horrid. People were rude everywhere and no one said anything, because they didn't want people to lash out at them. The problem is that it 'enables' them, and the police don't intervene either. This is why often I prefer to walk so I don't have to interact with people, plus when I do sit on the bus I wear my sunglasses whatever the weather.

I was walking through the retail park and someone was approaching people asking them to smile. I really hate that, because I want to just walk without having to speak to anyone. As it happens I was on my way to see my sick father in hospital so I didn't want to smile because a stranger yelled at me to do it. I do feel that there should be a bubble of privacy when one is out, and when that is violated it's hard. I didn't wish to be rude to him, but I had to ignore him because it was irritating as I had not opened up a channel of interaction. I do feel it's rude on his part, because I have the right to walk on a public area and not be heckled right?

 

[misszerable]

Stepping out in public exposes us to situations that may sometimes be totally unexpected and make us feel very vulnerable and lost. I'm commuting most of the time to and from work and I've had my share of rude passengers and drivers. While I have a higher level of tolerance for people who obviously have less in life and are uneducated, I'm bothered by the fact that some employees of service companies seem to forget that they're hired to provide service to their company's clients and that they're expected to behave in a professional, if not respectful, manner. A bus conductor, for instance, once forgot to give me a ticket when I paid for my fare as he hurried off to give toll money to the bus driver. When he came back and I asked him for it, he merely turned his back in an act of dismissal while shouting angrily and authoritatively 'I've already given you a ticket!'. End of conversation. I needed that ticket as proof for fare reimbursement, but I didn't want to confront the person and make a scene right there on the bus. It was one of those situations where I had to choose between teaching someone a lesson by reporting his negligence and manners to his company and living a quiet and peaceful existence.