In the company of braggarts

[Alexandoy]

I am not sure if braggart is the right term but what I mean is a person with a feeling of superiority such that he brags what he has. I really feel aloof when in the company of such people especially when we are in a group. Some friends tell me to just ride on because those braggarts are good company but I find them offending sometimes as if telling me that I am inferior. And when I couldn't handle myself in the situation, I leave the group with a good alibi though. With my close friends, I have no problem even if they brag because I feel at ease with them. But new acquaintances really get to my nerves when they brag of what they have like achievements or assets. 

 

[janemariesayed]

This is so true to me as well. I have just left a group where a certain someone was very rude to me. He thinks of himself as superior, and as I don't have the same university degree as him, picked about everything I had said because he didn't agree with me. He was rude and brash and insisted that I speak to scholars before speaking on any subject. He absolutely offended me and so I left that group. He picked on me because he disagreed with what I said instead of coming back with a constructive argument he insulted my intelligence without knowing what my level of education was.


I don't care about people like that and quickly put it out of my mind. He can think he is the greatest because he has a university degree but it doesn't necessarily make him any good as a man. I think this kind of arrogance in people just shows how weak they really are.

 

[Nakitakona]

I am a kind of a person who dislikes braggart as if he knows everything. He has the superpower to do a lot of things. He has forgotten that he is a human, frail, weak, and inferior. He has the inferiority within himself. I don't want to join with the company of boastful, full of pride, etc.

 

[pwarbi]

I'm also the kind of person that can't get along with those who brag or are full of themselves. While I do understand the need for all of us to be confident in our on abilities and try and promote ourselves in certain ways, the people I like the least are those that take things to far and over confident to the extent that they end up putting others around them down.


Being humble and having humility doesn't cost anything and even though those who brag and try and show off to people may think they are making a long lasting impression, all they are really doing is making fools of themselves and while people may not say anything to their faces, when they aren't around you will often find that they are the kind of people that aren't welcome because people don't enjoy being around them.

 

[Alex]

Many of my friends are actors and in that field and many are like that, bit often they lose a part or don't get it and they aren't so cocky any longer. I tolerate them for short periods of time, but I would rather not be in their company either in real life or online.


I was on a forum where everyone was like that and in the end I decided there was too much ego. Perhaps if they are like that and young it's their age, but older people who behave like that are a turn off. Many people do this to make themselves feel more superior, and in my book if you are truly good at what you do then it will be recognized without a declaration.

 

[jy76]

Note, sometimes people who seem to be bragging are only winning or doing something spectacular and different.  However, such people are often the object of scorn by jealous peers.  In other cases, people are bragging, but it's more of a healthy type of bragging which is mistaken for arrogance.


Nonetheless, there is a type of loudmouth who is always bragging and bullying other people.  Those types can make life miserable for many people.  Normally the best way to deal with such people is to ignore them.  Does anyone have other ideas?

 

[Natasha0717]

I have found that many braggers are really just doing their best to convince themselves and others that their lives are perfect and great.

People who are truly successful and happy, don't feel the need to advertise it. Ever notice that? Usually they just walk around with a very natural smile on their face, and that pretty much says it all. When I hear somebody bragging, I always can see right through it....in fact, I see insecurity behind it.

 

[Holmes22]

That is not somewhere where I would like to be. There are just some people that I cannot stand, and I am pretty sure that most of them have this little quality in common. I guess it is just human nature though, at least for some people.

 

[Zeesi]

People who brag are boring, and tedious to be around.

It's such an arrogant state of mind to even think for a second that I want to spend even a minute of my time listening to you talk about how great you are. Seriously? Like, no. Just stop it.

The bottom line is though, a person has the right to brag if they want to. But, just like they have the right to brag,
I have the right to: walk away; always be leaving as soon as they walk up; never answer the phone if they call; excuse myself from a group as soon as I see them make their appearance; and even if we've just met, get up and leave as soon as I hear the conversation take "that" turn.

What's extra tedious about a braggart is that they always need someone to brag to. This isn't a conversation, you just need me to sit here and listen to you go on and on like I'm your psychiatrist or something. So, here's this braggart, who reeeeally thinks he is 'something on a stick', yet the whole time he needs people to sit there and listen to him in order for his whole spiel to work. It's like, get over yourself already.

 

[MeowsePad]

I already feel inferior to pretty much everyone else, so being with someone who is arrogant and loves to brag is even worse. I try to stay away from people like that because they just make me feel horrible about myself and what I have accomplished in life. I just try to remember that people like that are usually that way because they are insecure as well, and acting arrogant helps them feel less insecure.

 

[misszerable]

I'd stay away from people who brag mainly because they have nothing real to offer or brag about. If they did, they wouldn't have to tell people what they have and what they have accomplished. The real rich people don't tell others that they're rich. They just look and smell rich and live a lifestyle that speak about it. People who have accomplished great things in life are humble enough to acknowledge that they're still learning. Like what @MeowsePad said, bragging is a way of masking insecurities.

 

[DanStelter]

No one enjoys braggarts (that I know anyway). I used to be quite arrogant myself. These days I attempt to maintain a modest attitude, so I've been on both sides of the coin.

I guess I've learned that today, I can choose my friends and social circles. If a braggart happens to be in one, which seems to be rare these days, I have to learn how to interact with him.

That could mean setting boundaries. Perhaps, walking away when you can't stand what that person's doing.

Some gentle confrontation may be appropriate. Like,"Are you sure about that?"

You won't get the braggart to notice their own error. But you will expose their error to everyone else.

People are imperfect. So I work on being forgiving and part of the solution, rather than part of the problem (picking an argument or openly trying to point out their flaws, for example).

Frustrating. But, braggarts are everywhere.