Going to the doctor.

[Laneorexorcist]

Hello! 


So, luckily I am a somewhat healthy person and it's actually weird when I'm feeling that bad that I need to go to the doctor, it has been about two years now, I guess. But I'm feeling really bad lately, the weather changes is crazy on my country and it's getting on me already. But I have always been kind of scared? To going to the doctor... The doctor that I have now likes to spend his time telling me how bad I physically look and what I need to change about me in order to be more attractive, or at least that's what he did last time... I'm actually afraid to getting worse because I really don't want to see him, but he's the only "good" doctor that has my insurance, so there's not other option I guess. 


I'm not sure if this has been posted before but it would be nice to hear your experiences. 


Thanks for reading!

 

[Ashley0323]

For this reason, due to my anxiety, I do not even go to the doctor. I go maybe once a year, and thats to the ER due to not being able to stand the pain anymore. I suffer from PID and when I have a bad flare up, sometimes I just cant control it myself. I have a huge issue just casually visiting a doctors office. 

 

[Aree Wongwanlee]

Going to the doctor is something which I had avoided for the most part of my life. I simply don't feel that I have to see a doctor unless it's totally necessary. A few months ago, I was struck down by a viral infection. Spent a few days in hospital and realized that I am not as young as I wish to be. So now, I visit the doctor every month. Actually, I don't have a regular doctor because I go to the government clinic. I just see whoever is on duty. It's quite amusing to get different diagnoses from different doctors.

 

[misszerable]

I was relatively healthy when I was a child and never had to go to doctors except for immunizations. Coughs and colds were always treated at home and I only had check ups for low blood count when I reached the puberty stage and started menstruating. I am anxious to go to doctors because I feel that I have to always steel myself for bad news. I think I'd die out of anxiety of hearing unpleasant health news rather than from the sickness itself. I hate invasive procedures and prenatal check ups were one of the most stressful parts of my pregnancy. I had to gather all powers that I can muster from the universe then. Haha! I never want to go through that again, at least that's what I'm thinking right now. This anxiety has also motivated me to seek preventive and alternative medicine.  

 

[Alex]

I would change your doctor by the sounds of things. I had one doctor who told me to snap out of things, and I made a point to never see him and told the receptionists to make a note to never give him to me. I don't need to go to the doctor any longer, but when I did I dreaded it. Often I would just want to get out as soon as possible. On the other hand I had a friend who wanted to go all of the time.


Maybe ask the receptionist about the different doctors? They usually are good at telling you who is popular or who is easier to speak to.

 

[fuzyon]

I always have doctor anxiety simply because something might come up and that would totally turn my life around, but your situation is much worse and if I were you I would just change doctors. A doctor is supposed to comfort you through tough times instead of criticizing your physical aspects. Going to a new one will save you a lot of headache, you don't need to deal with people that are negative and judging about everything.

 

[mauricioq]

I can understand why you're feeling that way, but going to the doctor is essential to you. It's something you can't just "escape", you need to go at least 1 time every year so you should go immediately. Trust me, you're going to regret it completely if you have something right now that you don't know about. It's his job, don't worry about him.

 

[Pat]

I am healthy mostly and have only had to go to the doctor for a checkup or when something has happened that need to be looked at like a blood infection from a bad tooth in my mouth caused my face to swell up. Your health is important a once a year check up is a very good idea.

 

[sidney]

The last time that I went to a doctor was last year, and I never felt any anxiety at all. I think if your doctor tells you that you should do something about your health then you should listen to him. I remember I was seeing an internist, but he noticed something weird about my eyes and pulled them downwards. The next thing I knew, he ordered me to get a blood test, and it turns out I have some sort of mild anemia. So if your doctor tells you that you don't look that good, he might mean that you have a health problem that you should take steps to resolve it.

 

[x0xLikeMex0x]

I changed my doctor a year after I moved away from home. It was weird, because my previous doctor really sucked. I mean, if I go see her for my cold or knee problems, she will either say: "You should lose some weight" or "Have you googled it yet?" I got used to self-diagnosing. When I first went to my new doctor, while I'd self-diagnosed an otitis (because the previous doctor had managed to programme my brain to work this way), she surprised me by actually looking into my symptoms and she ended up diagnosing me with angina. So if I'd had my previous doctor, I would've been mistreated. 


Maybe there is another doctor available. Don't go to a doctor just because they are "good". I've been to some "good" doctors that did not leave a good impression to me. Don't be afraid to switch doctors.

 

[Ania]

Hello! 


So, luckily I am a somewhat healthy person and it's actually weird when I'm feeling that bad that I need to go to the doctor, it has been about two years now, I guess. But I'm feeling really bad lately, the weather changes is crazy on my country and it's getting on me already. But I have always been kind of scared? To going to the doctor... The doctor that I have now likes to spend his time telling me how bad I physically look and what I need to change about me in order to be more attractive, or at least that's what he did last time... I'm actually afraid to getting worse because I really don't want to see him, but he's the only "good" doctor that has my insurance, so there's not other option I guess. 


I'm not sure if this has been posted before but it would be nice to hear your experiences. 


Thanks for reading!

I'm so sorry to hear you have a jerk  as a doctor   I totally feel your pain, I've been insulted and humiliated by doctors in the past, and that's is why I now get anxious when I get an appointment with the doctor.  It's awful, specially when you are young and have a lot self-esteem already.  It happened several times with a very rude doctor, looking back I wish I had spoken up instead of staying silent.  Thankfully I had the option to switch doctors, but now if someone dares to try to do something similar to me... they won't see the end of it! 


My advice?  Tell him to stop, tell him he is just your doctor he is supposed to treat you and not be your image counselor (at best).  Don't be afraid to speak up, if you don't this will never stop... that doctor is obviously a bully who preys on the weak.  Show him you know what he is doing is wrong, that you are not going to stand it anymore. 

 

[Laneorexorcist]

I'm so sorry to hear you have a jerk  as a doctor   I totally feel your pain, I've been insulted and humiliated by doctors in the past, and that's is why I now get anxious when I get an appointment with the doctor.  It's awful, specially when you are young and have a lot self-esteem already.  It happened several times with a very rude doctor, looking back I wish I had spoken up instead of staying silent.  Thankfully I had the option to switch doctors, but now if someone dares to try to do something similar to me... they won't see the end of it! 


My advice?  Tell him to stop, tell him he is just your doctor he is supposed to treat you and not be your image counselor (at best).  Don't be afraid to speak up, if you don't this will never stop... that doctor is obviously a bully who preys on the weak.  Show him you know what he is doing is wrong, that you are not going to stand it anymore. 

Thank you so much for the advice! I've actually tried to bully him back and make fun of him in front of his face but I feel like I end up trapped on the game that he created, and that makes everything worse because I end up more mad than its actually necessary.


The next time I'm just calmly going to tell him that he needs to stop, someone has to do it! 

 

[Jasmin Cottontail]

Hello! 


So, luckily I am a somewhat healthy person and it's actually weird when I'm feeling that bad that I need to go to the doctor, it has been about two years now, I guess. But I'm feeling really bad lately, the weather changes is crazy on my country and it's getting on me already. But I have always been kind of scared? To going to the doctor... The doctor that I have now likes to spend his time telling me how bad I physically look and what I need to change about me in order to be more attractive, or at least that's what he did last time... I'm actually afraid to getting worse because I really don't want to see him, but he's the only "good" doctor that has my insurance, so there's not other option I guess. 


I'm not sure if this has been posted before but it would be nice to hear your experiences. 


Thanks for reading!

Thank God that you are healthy! If you feel bad or you feel you have some kind of illness, you can try using home remedies or other alternative medications first before going to the doctor. I myself do that and it helps though they are just minor pain like stomach pain or migraine. Anyway, if your doctor treats you that way then I advice you to look for another doctor. In my opinion, not only we seek professional help to determine what kind of illness do we have but also to make us feel better. In any case that my doctor does not make me feel comfortable then I won't think twice to switch to another one. I mean there's no reason being there when you that person does not make you feel right.   

 

[tomorrow]

Nowadays I very rarely go to a doctor.  I better try a home remedy or something like that in case of small flue or cold.  The first thing is that I want to avoid antibiotics and all these doctors have a tendency to prescribe antibiotics even for common flu or cold.  They get a commission out of this from the drug mafia and we end up having losing our  immunity.  Luckily I have never been through a critical situation till now and I am active.


In your case I think the doctor doesn’t know how to deal a patient or never pay attention to psychological aspects of a patient.  I think it is better to approach a new doctor if it is adversely affecting you.  May be the new doctor come up with new findings that you are perfectly healthy.  A second opinion is always good. 

 

[pwarbi]

It might seem a bit simple, but I think that many people have a fear of going to see the doctor because we are afraid what we might hear. Luckily for me I've always been pretty healthy and have only seen my doctor a couple of times and I've pretty much known what was wrong, but if a person is just sick and they don't know why, going to the doctor can be a harrowing experience.


Getting anxious about things like this though are pretty common and aren't something to worry about I wouldn't have thought. In fact it would be more worrying if we DIDN'T feel apprehensive in situations like that.

 

[Natasha0717]

I was seeing a regular M.D. for years.  He mostly treated elderly patients, so you can imagine me sitting there all by myself in the waiting room with all these older married couples, asking me questions like, "What's wrong, dear?  What are you doing here at your age?"


Well, what was wrong was this:  I ALWAYS believed I had some terrible illness because of a symptom that just popped up.  And there I was, once again, sitting at the doctor's office, in a waiting room filled with elderly patients, eagerly awaiting my turn.


I was always fine, and the doc finally started hinting around at the idea of me seeing a psychiatrist.  He began doing it more and more, until I finally went ahead and scheduled my first appointment with an actual psychiatrist.  But it truly was the best move I had ever made in my life.  That first doctor was right, there really wasn't much more he could do for me.  My problems were in my head, not actual medical problems.  My mind was creating them.


My psychiatrist does have me on anti-anxiety meds that I take whenever I feel like I'm dying of some scary illness.  They simply shut my brain down for a while and stop me from Googling symptoms and trying to compare them to my own.  More importantly, they remind me that I am NOT a doctor, and have no right trying to diagnose myself.


I do feel fear before a doctor's appointment, even just when I see the psychiatrist.  My biggest fear is that I won't sleep enough, or not sleep at all, the night before.  Again, that's when I take my meds.  They throw all those thoughts out of my head and I can get to sleep and drive to the appointment with no worries.  My best advice for any type of fear of doctors, dentists, or even appointments in general:  Get a psychiatrist, talk about these exact fears, and do not be afraid to go on a suggested medication to help you live a normal life.  I was hesitant myself at first too, but now I am so thankful for my doctor and what he prescribed to me.  It's the first time I am actually seeing some improvement in my symptoms...and a chance at finally living normally.  And I will always be thankful for that first doc (the regular M.D.) who put up with me for so many years before I started seeing a psychiatrist to really get to the heart of the issue. He was a true Saint, just not the doctor I really needed.  He knew it, too.  But I didn't.  Not at the time.

 

[Alexandoy]

My anxiety in seeing a doctor is caused by many things. First is the expenses because I have no medical insurance. Aside from the doctor's fee, there's also the prescribed medicine. Another is the capability of the doctor to diagnose. I have experienced several times that a doctor had to change my medication because it is not effective or it has side effect. This changing of the prescription gives me the idea that the doctor is just guessing. My latest doctor has a clinic in our town so going there is not a problem. However, the patients are so many that one time I was number 40 in line. You can imagine the quick diagnosis that the doctor makes so he could attend to all the patients who started in line as early as 3pm and his clinic hours ends at 8pm. And what if I get a wrong diagnosis? I have spent for medicines that did not do me any good. 

 

[tomorrow]

I also have this anxiety to some extent.  Mostly because of the capability of the doctor.  Nowadays doctors are least bothered about the well-being of patients (exceptions are there).  They usually prescribe strong antibiotics even for small diseases.  It is a known fact that doctors and drug mafias operate hands and gloves and money is the master everywhere.  In fact the actual duty of a doctor is to prevent diseases and what they are doing now is to create diseases so that they can earn more.  Indiscriminate use of antibiotics started showing frightening results these days.  Even world nations are quite concerned about this dangerous situation. So I am more worried on these grounds while approaching a doctor. 

 

[TheKnight]

I fear consulting a doctor too and especially imagining the doctor telling me there is something seriously wrong with my body. I refuse to go no matter how bad I feel. I fear discovering I have an incurable disease that I can't pay to keep under control anyway. I prefer to live ignorant of that knowledge because I don't want to live the rest of my life in fear or I don't want to be a burden to someone else if they find out.