Can a land lord do this or is it illegal.

[XmasCarol52]

I hope my doctor will give me that note they should for crying out loud i aint asking for gold lol how could it hurt i wrote a letter who works for the seniors and the last time i wrote to him he went and showed everyone my note even the land lady she thought it was nasty all of them did first of all I didnt appreciate him showing everyone my letter .it was not nasty all i told the guy is she comes into my apt asking me about my illness physical and mental which is illegal and i amsick and tired of it.That she needs to stay away from me also I told him i have a illness which causes me to yell sometimes,he did nothing and he is suppose to be the head or helping hand for the seniors around here.i was dam mad.He had no business showing that letter to everyone they even told my friend the meals on wheels person i was kind of harsh oh really how is telling someone thye need to stay away from me be harsh,the land lady got upset she claims she has to come inside i told her i know my rights.

 

[janemariesayed]

That man had no right to show your letter to all and sundry. It really seems like you are being bullied and I really despise bullies.I'm sure if you ask your doctor he will write you a letter that you can show. One that does actually explain your illness properly. What is happening about the locks on your main door? Is your son going to change it for you?

 

[XmasCarol52]

We cannot touch anything here,otherwise we could be evicted,so no my son c annot change the locks,if I could I would.I have been bullied all of my life and it is hurts and that is part of the reason I am the way I am.Useless

 

[janemariesayed]

Oh, I don't know! I don't know @XmasCarol52 surely it must be your right to change the locks! Your legal basic human right! Surely must be?

Please give me a little bit of time and I am going to look this up. What state are you living in? I know there are different rules for different states. I used to be a landlady for a house in Rochester USA and as far as I was aware my tenants were allowed to change the locks for their own security purposes. Hopefully, this is not useless. Give me a little while and I will try to find what the law is on that.

 

[janemariesayed]

I've been putting in so many searches in google for the laws on changing locks in the USA and all that is coming up for me is the UK law! How frustrating! I think the best thing to do will be to ask a lawyer and see what they say. Could your son do that for you? there must be a law preventing your landlady from keep entering your property uninvited. It is harassment and surely she could get into trouble for that. Maybe you could see a lawyer and ask about what is the best thing to do and where you stand. It would put your mind at rest, but for sure this woman is in the wrong.

 

[XmasCarol52]

If need be my son has a lawyer but i don t know if i can even afford one,hey i pay my rent and she even made a comment once well at least u r good when it comes to your rent..They can kick me out if I am not paying my rent and destroying things which i am not doing i never heard of anyone getting evicted just for yelling unless it is a domestic thing. She knows I am not yelling aT ANything in fact one time she even said she knows I get frustrated which causes me to yell.I have known people getting kicked out because the guy was living there next door and he was not suppose to they were smoking pot he had a gun oh by the way he took his gun out and started waving it around it is only a bb gun but they can hurt someone to i immediately told him to put it back in his pocket, yes i told my land lady only because it was getting out of hand every single day they needed food i use to give them food all the time but then i started to realize that they were only using me,because then they started hinting around they needed money i did hear them yell once but that is because the door was opened even they told me they couldn't hear me yell.Can you believe that bitch wanted me to spy on them and report them to her i did not if she wanted to know if he was living there let her goons to it but i will not go spying on my neighbor and i think she had one hell of a nerve to ask.How is it my business on what they do. it isnt. I am not that kind of person i just dont like gossip and to spy on someone that is nonsense,

 

[XmasCarol52]

Oh, I don't know! I don't know @XmasCarol52 surely it must be your right to change the locks! Your legal basic human right! Surely must be?

Please give me a little bit of time and I am going to look this up. What state are you living in? I know there are different rules for different states. I used to be a landlady for a house in Rochester USA and as far as I was aware my tenants were allowed to change the locks for their own security purposes. Hopefully, this is not useless. Give me a little while and I will try to find what the law is on that.

i live in Ct

 

[XmasCarol52]

I got a letter from my land lady today they are coming either Thursday or Friday to put filters in our furnaces so i guess that could be good news for me that i am not going to be kicked out,I would think they wouldnt care but who knows it was signed by her so,maybe that is good news. I mean why bother to replace the filter if I wasnt going to be here,I hope.i am so damn nervous about this between tomorrow and sat ,ugh,I cannot eat,even though i need too, ugh why can't things be so easy for us.why

 

[janemariesayed]

If you eat it will help to relax you. Best to have something in your stomach if you are feeling anxious. I have had more of a look online to see if there is anything about changing locks but to no avail. I think the best thing is for your son to talk to his lawyer.

I found this link which you might find useful.

https://ctlawhelp.org/self-help-guides/housing/eviction-lockouts-laws-connecticut#

It says on there that the law says some people must not be evicted. There is a special law called 'good cause' and it can protect you from eviction in some cases.I think it may be that you are protected by the 'good cause' law.

It seems that you would qualify for that cause because of your disability.

To qualify for good cause, you must

· live in a rental unit that has at least 5 units in all, and

· have a physical or mental disability or be a senior (62 or over).

It says on that site that the disability must be physical or mental and it must be expected to last at least 12 months.

I still think its best for your son to have a chat with his lawyer and tell his lawyer how your landlady is harassing you. She could be adding to your anxious mental state by doing what she does. If your son wants to opt out of paying for the lawyer, the trick is to call the lawyer and ask him on the telephone. He could just call his office and speak with his legal secretary and she would know the answer.

Good luck @XmasCarol52 and keep your chin up! You are going to be okay and I think you are safe.

 

[XmasCarol52]

Well i sure do qualify for those things u listed there are 20 units,i do have a mental and physical disability oh my illness is certainly more then 12 months.

 

[XmasCarol52]

Well first of all my doctor would not write me a letter just because she doesn't know me however i get the feeling she never will.What the hell is wrong with doctors these days they do not want to do anything for us but they expect us to do everything they want,I have to go back in a month,She didn't do any physic evaulation just asked me the same damn questions like all the other doctors did why she seems to be very nice,the only med she increased was my depakote she wouldn't give me something to help me sleep wouldn't increase my requipt she told me to go and see my regular doctor to hell i will i am not that brave and ready to be going t o a bunch of doctors,My bp was high at first then it went down it is always high when i have to see the doctor,Back to basics she told me they would have a hard time with evicting me because of my mental illness and physical illness she seems to think I am safe,For crying out loud how hard can it be to write Carol has a mental illness and sometimes it causes her to yell,you would think i would have asked her for $1,000 or something,I do not get these doctors,around here all they seem to care about is there money not how we feel,She said we cannot use klonopin anymore because people misuse it ,but i am still taking it,i have to have something for my anxieties i think she was upset because I wasnt taken my meds right well excuse me do they want to pay 500-700 dollars a month for meds ? No they cant wish these doctors would think before they open there mouth.She even said I dont need to be yelling duh what the heck does she think i am there for.Doctors make me sick I cannot stand or trust them.I cannot see another doctor right now it is to much for me as it is i got to go back on may 11 ugh and this time i have to ride the van,Not to crazy about ti but what can i do.. The nicest part was my prize a large dunkin donuts coffee but i mean extra large and chocolate donut my mother sent offer some peanut butter cookies,I think I was pretty calm today before i had to go out ,thanks for all your prayers,now i need more to help me not get evicted th good news it i haven t yelled in over a week now, Good little girl Carol,they don't seem to realize like with me when i yell i feel like that little girl inside of me is trying to get out,maybe that is why I don't sound like me demonic ouch..

 

[janemariesayed]

Then that is the best thing to do. Go and visit your regular doctor and ask him to write you a small note to say that your yelling is due to your mental disability. When I was first going on the sick some months ago, I ended up seeing a doctor that wasn't my regular doctor and she gave me pills but I wasn't 100% happy. I would have had to wait four weeks to see my own regular doctor so then I decided to go and see my own doctor. He was much better and now I just wait until I can see him. Especially with my mental disability, I need him to know and understand and that won't happen if it is someone else that I see each time.

Your own doctor will understand more about you as he knows you better. He has seen you more and dealt with your physical and mental health for how long?

Before I was on the sick, I was on unemployment welfare and the jobcentre sent me to a charity to help me find work. Although my heart was in it, I attended a workshop there and they ended up triggering off my problems and I ended up losing my rag. I was totally embarrassed and when I got home I started looking up about the triggers online. I prepared a word doc by cutting and pasting everything I could find about my mental state and sent it to everyone at the charity and at the jobcentre. I felt I had to explain why I had had an outburst and apologised. I found that they were really understanding and nice. Even though I am not with them all now, they all told me that if I need to talk that all I have to do is get in touch with them and they would be there for me. So it does help to explain your woes sometimes. Don't concern yourself with this doctor that you saw yesterday. Make an appointment with your regular doctor and I think you will find him much more understanding.

 

[XmasCarol52]

she wouldnt give me a note because she says she doesnt know me that is bs she has all my information right in front of her on the computer so dont tell me u do not know me,

 

[Concernedgal]

If she knows her job... then she should know you. What she meant to say was you haven't paid her enough yet. She probably thinks your going to ditch her as your therapist after you get the note. She doesnt want that. That's why she said no .

 

[XmasCarol52]

Well i got some good news I had to ask the senior cordinator sounds like for a ride to my next doctor visit which is May so i guess I am safe after all he would have been the first to know if i was getting the boot.Yet my stomach is still in knots,at least I know the woman who will be driving me she is so nice..So true on the pay thing.I wouldn't ditch her because i need the help. She told me by skipping my pills it has made a complete mess of my body,some of them i took all the time but don't you just love it when you tell the doctor the medication isnt working and they give it to you anyway. I got four pills to take i so wanted a sleeping pill,She was very nice,like i said my file on me was right in front of her nose so how could she not know me? IN any case I am so glad my friend is coming we can watch a horror movie together.I am so anxious today i feel like jumping out of my own skin,do u ever get that feeling?? Believe me the meds are not working today for my anxieties.I hope they come soon with them ,i get them delivered.. To be honest when i asked her for the note she looked at me kind of strange like a smirk i do not like when people smirk it is rude.It makes me feel like they are laughing at me.Geez I didn't asks her to write it in gold lol. .out of topic do u know of any good survey sites the free ones that is.