Are We The Guilty Ones?

[janemariesayed]

What is it all about? Why do we suffer and others don't? Is there a God, and if so, why has he picked on me inparticular to have a lifetime of suffering?

Did I do something in a previous life to aggravate him? If there was such a thing as a previous life! If there is such thing as a previous life, and lives, then I can understand. Well, I must have been one hell of a baddun repeatedly in numerous lives to have arrived at this awful life now.

What if there wasn't any previous lives, though? I don't know, but if that is the case, then God can't be very nice. Why make me suffer when I was pushed into life by my Mother. Wasn't I all innocence? How can a newborn child be guilty?

Who is this all merciful, forgiving God? After half a century I am still suffering because of my parents' mistake. What do I exist for? To carry my parents' guilt and be the scapegoat for the punishment they should have? How is this fair? Haven't I had enough years of pain and torment to satisfy this supreme being?

Are we real at all?

My question is, why? why me? why are we suffering and others are not?

 

[Alex]

I could get philosophical on this, but each person sees suffering in a different light. If you are spiritual you may believe in karma and past lives, (I do) but still it isn't something to be blamed.

Through difficult lessons in life where we may suffer, that's how one gains strength. I know that you have had a hard time from some of your other posts, and pain is hard to heal at times. but suffering is something we encounter, then we accept things, and put them behind us.

We should never try to compare our life with another (although with social media that's hard) and it's danger to think it's not fair. At times I do feel like that, but we all have choices and sometimes we don't make good ones and have to get through it somehow.

 

[Concernedgal]

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What is it all about? Why do we suffer and others don't? Is there a God, and if so, why has he picked on me inparticular to have a lifetime of suffering?

Did I do something in a previous life to aggravate him? If there was such a thing as a previous life! If there is such thing as a previous life, and lives, then I can understand. Well, I must have been one hell of a baddun repeatedly in numerous lives to have arrived at this awful life now.

What if there wasn't any previous lives, though? I don't know, but if that is the case, then God can't be very nice. Why make me suffer when I was pushed into life by my Mother. Wasn't I all innocence? How can a newborn child be guilty?

Who is this all merciful, forgiving God? After half a century I am still suffering because of my parents' mistake. What do I exist for? To carry my parents' guilt and be the scapegoat for the punishment they should have? How is this fair? Haven't I had enough years of pain and torment to satisfy this supreme being?

Are we real at all?

My question is, why? why me? why are we suffering and others are not?

We suffer because we have a special something within us to care about others more than ourselves. Unfortunately as a result we tend not to take very good care of ourselves. I live my life trying to make a man happy that's never happy , yet I keep trying. And as a result I don't k kw what it's like to be happy anymore. I haven't been happy in 15 years. I look at other people that can just get in a car and go or that can go through a day without a panic attack and I envy them. I can't understand the full reason either for our suffering. Try as we might , we may never fully understand. My heart goes out to you and this is a question that I have asked myself over and over. I honestly hate my life. It's sad because the truth is WE DID NOTHING TO DESERVE THIS and we were just born with an inability to handle stress. I'm so sorry that your hurting right now and I wish that I could wave a magic wand and end your suffering. ( if we could do that we would be rich. Lol) Please cheer up. All we can do is try our very best to live this life the best we can. You have been so good to us here providing g good advice. I mean heck I thought I knew everything about where anxiety symptoms could stem from but, you taught me about fluoride and the pineal gland. My life is the same everyday. I wake up, go to work , come back home and sleep. I have no life because I never want to do anything. I'm like.. what's the point? I know how you feel I honestly do. As far as your question of are we real at all. Yes. We are real, very real. The pain and suffering we go through everyday proves it. Some people have it better and some people have it worst. Just know though. Your not alone and I am always here for you.

 

[janemariesayed]

It is rather a philosophical subject I know @Alex but I have always been a believer in some kind of supreme intelligence. Believing in karma and reincarnation is a relatively new belief system for me and I don't know very much about it. I am glad I am starting to think that way though as it answers why this life has been so bad.

My problem is I don't know how to put it all behind me. It is said that we shouldn't care about what others think of us. But it is how others think of us that effect our day to day lives. Take my incest thing for example. I feel like I have a huge dirty secret. I have scoured the net and I can't find anything about the actual children born out of incest. It's all about the mothers and campaigns against abortion. The subject is still very taboo. Even my biological Mother, who I have met just two years ago, never mentions the fact that I am also her sister. My Aunties too, they never mention that they are my sisters. Sometimes I just wish they would acknowledge that I am a sibling too. I know what I am, and I feel that it is them who feel the shame of it. They talk about my Dad as if he is nothing to do with me. They talk about him as if he were my Grand-dad and not my Dad. It hurts like hell and makes me feel ashamed of what I am. It makes me feel that I should be ashamed of what I am, like it is something that is hush hush.

My problem is really the incest thing, it was the underlying cause of every hurtful event that happened to me and I just don't know what to do with it all. My biological Mother is amazing! How I have not a clue. She seems absolutely not bothered one iota what happened to her. Although I was told that she was the one who initiated the union, of course, she denies that.

Thanks for sharing how you feel in your relationship with your Husband @Concernedgal you have much more strength than I do. To keep trying for that long must have been extremely difficult. I have been happy, sometimes at least. But there has always been this underlying problem that I keep pushing down when it frequently bubbles to the surface. Remember that gaping wound? What is the miracle cream that we can smear on to make it all go away?

I don't mean this in a bad way, but, I actually can't wait to reach that point of 'goodnight world' and finally get to meet my maker. I have a million questions and one request. My request is to live a life again, but a full and happy one with a normal family. Yet I know that wont be the case, I would just have different problems to deal with. Or maybe not, my adopted family, for example, lived fulfilled rich lives. I want to be like them. Have the get up and go, to not be depressed, to deal with situations and challenges with ease and without losing my mental strength along the way. I want to do things properly and complete tasks. I want to enjoy going out and meeting people.

I'm sorry that you hate your life @Concernedgal so do I. I'm glad we have met on this forum at least. Your life is worth something to me, I have really cherished the support that I have received on this forum.