Hоw саn yоu dеаl with rесurring dеprеssiоn thаt just dоеsn't wаnt tо gо аwаy?

You force yourself to live, I suppose. I know it's hard, and I've been there before, but sometimes what you have to do is to just force yourself to get out of bed and to shower. And after you shower, maybe it'll still be bad, and if it is, then you can go back to bed - at least you're clean now, right? At least you got out of bed. But maybe, after you shower, you feel better about yourself. Maybe, after your shower, you feel like you can do something else because you're clean. You feel like you can eat now, so you eat. And after you eat, you feel like you have energy, so you go out for a walk, or you read, or you turn on your television, or you talk to other people.


Whatever it is - it starts with one step. It's hard, especially when you've hit rock bottom. But once you've hit rock bottom, it can't get any worse than that, right? So each thing you do from that point on will take you a better place than you were in before. One step at a time, when it comes to recurring depression. You don't have to "cure" yourself or anything - you just have to learn to live with it, and you just have to realize, eventually, that you can still do whatever you want to do even with that demon hanging off your back.

I agree with Bea. For so many years, I have been dealing with depression that comes and goes but I force myself to live. Now I can say that my inspiration in forcing myself to keep on going is my family especially my son. When I feel like things are just not going right, I just stare at him and he gives me a reason to live for him. I remember one time when I just broke down to in tears and he was there playing beside me. He gave me this hug that made me feel everything is going to be alright. He just hugged me without asking why I was crying and I just felt more calm and loved. Maybe what I can advise you basing on my experience is for you to find that source of hope or inspiration and hold on to it because it's what's going to give you the will to keep going in times when you want to give up.

Identify your depression triggers and avoid them if you can. There are some people who use this mantra to help them deal with depression. No matter how bad things are they just assure themselves that, "this too shall pass." Nothing is permanent. As long as you are proactive about fighting by doing things that actually do make you happy, you eventually can overcome depression.

I think that if you are feeling overwhelmed and too depressed to do anything, you should consider seeing a therapist. If you can't cope with your depression by yourself or with the help of your friends, family and SO maybe you simply can't. Don't give up, there is always a way to recover from depression, life can be better, but you must accept your problem and even take hard decisions like going to a therapist and taking medications (if prescribed by a doctor).


I know that it's not easy, but if you can't deal with a recurring depression a therapist can help you. I agree with Bea who said that you need to "force yourself to live", and asking for help is the first and most important step.

There are always highs and lows in life. I think everyone at one point or another have been depressed with their lives. I know I have been depressed several times in my life. The way I dealt with it was to ask for help when I could not get myself out of my little hole.


I retreated to my sisters house where she basically held my hand and helped me get through the hard time. Eventually I had to stand on my own and take it from there.

I have come close before to being at my wits end and thinking strongly of ending it. Somehow whether it be my boyfriend or myself I can come out of it. As I am still here. Currently most of the time I am depressed its just an intense low feeling of sadness, hatred and self worth issues... In truth though we do need to push our self on I guess. Sometimes it helps to just try really hard and force yourself to do something if it takes away the depression, I know easier said then done.

It's hard to really sum up the solution in just one or two actions. You need to just remind yourself regularly of what you are grateful for, what you still want to experience, the things, even small like your favourite food or smell, that you want Then when you do have bout of depression and you feel low, hopefully you can at least recall these thoughts and know that on the other side of this bout you will again feel like there are things worth living for.

Goodman said:

Hоw саn yоu dеаl with rесurring dеprеssiоn thаt just dоеsn't wаnt tо gо аwаy?

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If your depression is recurring, like mine then I think the best thing is to get to the root of the problem. I've spoken to my doctor about this and he agrees. Although he told me that I would probably never heal completely he suggested counselling may help me to be able to cope better. Getting tot he root of a problem is supposed to give you an idea how to deal with something. If we know the cause then we can find a cure.

Sadly, though, my depression stems from childhood trauma and abuse where victims will suffer from the side effect all of their lives. You need to understand the root of your depression first and what triggers it, then you can look at how to deal with it.

Many people who suffer from depression will find that they will never find a cure, even if they do get to the root of the problem and it will affect them for the rest of their lives. That may sound a depressing situation in itself, but all is not lost and it is manageable and you just have to try and avoid the things that trigger your depression. Although that is obviously a lot less simple than it sounds, there IS hope and many millions of people live their everyday to day lives with underlying depression and it barely affects them.

A lot of people have said that we have to get to the root of the reason of the depression, and that is true, but sometimes even if we do then that doesn't mean that the actual depression itself will all of a sudden be gone. Finding the root of the depression is important if just for your on peace of mind, but don't fall into the trap of thinking that once you have found the reason, all of a sudden everything will be perfect because it unfortunately doesn't work like that.

It's a really hard question with many answers. For me, I get up every morning despite the fact that I don't want to, I work even though every bone in my body wants to stay in bed. I try so hard to just get by each and every day. The truth is. .. depression is hateful . It hates that you want to live. It all depends on why your depressed? For me.. it was inevitable. It was genetic. I can't get away from it. I suffer from bipolar depression. I have these waves of excitation, and waves of depression. The depression leaves me feeling suicidal sometimes. My only advice to you is to try to find the right therapy for you . Issues must be dealt with. Get your hormones checked, your sarotonin levels checked and also get your heart checked. You would be surprised to know that depression can be a symptom of a clogged artery sometimes. And remember this also, ssri aren't right for everyone. They aren't right for me. But, you may hit that jackpot and find a medication that works for you. I have yet to find it. All I can do is manage the anxiety that comes from the depression with a benzo. It was Givin to me at the emergency room 1 time when I had an uncontrollable panic attack . I have yet to find a doctor that will give it to me. That's not fair. Anyways, enough about me. No matter how we feel on the inside, each and everyone of us has the strength to carry on and get through our day. We are stronger than our depression.

Concernedgal said:

We are stronger than our depression.

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Thank you @Concernedgal and it is a true statement. I am stronger than my depression because I am seeking help. Despite having a panic attack in front of the therapist. She asked me if I wanted to finish and I said no. I didn't want to finish the session there and then. I wanted to go through with it. I want to face my demons. Not facing them means that they win. It means that they can continue to haunt me. Facing them head on means confrontation. The way I see it is that any confrontation between two parties will bring a result. I'm not going to give up confronting my demons until I've chased them long far away. I'm going to win.

Yes you are. I will too. We are fighting to live basically. That's what depression likes to do, take our life away. It's up to us to fight for what's rightfully ours.. our freedom to live and our peace of mind.

That is exactly what I am looking for in my life. A peace in my mind and in my soul. I don't want to come back into another life vibrating in the same negative frequency. If there is another life after this one, I want it to be better than this one. Thank God I believe in reincarnation as if I didn't I would probably end it altogether.

We will get there @Concernedgal by hook or by crook we will get there. One step at a time.