My Son Gives Me Strength

listener1987 · Aug 26, 2016

Hello everyone! :smile:
I have a lot of mental and emotional issues within me that overwhelm and make me want to give up at times, but whenever those moments take the best off of me there's always someone who gives me the strength ans will to fight. My son is my major source of hope and consolation that I would always find my way back to my senses because of him.

I remember a time when I just burst out into tears because of all the pent up emotions that bothered me; without any questions or hesitations, he just approached and hugged me. At such a very young age of 6, he knows how to understand and give me comfort. I had never felt so loved and comforted until that moment. That's when I realized how much I was wasting my time and my life with all my pains and worries, never seeing that someone has always been there giving me his unconditional love.

My son is my inspiration and my strength, and I'm so thankful for having been blessed with someone like him. :smile:

Oh wow, he's only 6 and he is sensitive enough to come and give you a hug when you're overwhelmed! That's huge for a little boy!

What a blessing he is to you. I hope that you find long term healing with the mental and emotional struggles you are dealing with.

Thanks for sharing about your sweet little boy! <3

Alex · Aug 26, 2016

I'm glad you have each other and from your other post I can see why you are both so close. While I think his support is great, don't forget he is still reliant on you for things and if you need to make changes he would understand and support you. Dedicating your time to care for someone is great, but are you using him as a crutch? You are being a good mother, but you also need to be happy and have your own life too.

I have a friend who dedicated her life to her son, and he is now 25 years old and she is still clinging to him even though he has a girlfriend. He comes around and answers the phone out of guilt and responsibility and that isn't how it should be. You do need to care about yourself, because your son will see that, and you don't want him to grow up feeling 'guilty'?

kelden · Aug 26, 2016

Your son shall become into someone special, nowadays our society needs more empathetic human beings that finally overcome the madness of prejudice, bigotry and hatred. We have been dealing for centuries with the dark side of humanity, is time to make several step forward and raise a better generation. Probably a better humanity will be less prone to anxiety and depression issues too, since some of them are usually side effects from coping with all our modern society issues: failure, frustration over not being wealthy, body image and appearance culture, paranoia, discrimination, envy, drug abuse etc.

Pijuy · Sep 2, 2016

That's very sweet! I'm glad your son has a sensitive nature. Men don't always have the advantage of nurturing or developing that side of them, so as a mother you've done a great thing! I'm also glad that he is your inspiration for digging yourself out of the whole that mental illness can be. And I'm glad that you have a source of unconditional love by your side. Best of luck to you and your boy!

Aree Wongwanlee · Sep 2, 2016

Good to know that you have a son who gives you strength. I have many sons. All of them are very supportive. All, except one, are married and have their own families. A few months ago, I was incapacitated by a virus. My only son who is not married yet took care of me. He took care of everything. I fell sick while in a neighboring country. When he got my SOS phone call, he immediately drove all the way from his office a few hundred kilometers away to fetch me home. Then he took care of all the medical bills. Now he is supporting me financially. I am recovering and hope to be back on my feet, financially and otherwise, by next year.

Ashley0323 · Sep 2, 2016

I can totally relate to this! Ever since I was young, maybe 14, 15, I have struggled with not only severe anxiety, but depression too. Since having my babies, my depression is almost non-existant and they have brought so much joy and happiness to my life, and I love them more than life itself. On the other hand, my anxiety is much worse since having kids. I always think about all the what-ifs, and "what if I fail them", etc and it takes its toll.

aprilperez123 · Sep 8, 2016

So good to know that whenever we feel like we are almost giving up, there's still someone that we hold on to. I can totally relate to this. When I got pregnant with my first child, it seemed like everything was wrong. We were struggling, my husband. It continues up until today. There was one time that I felt like I am all weak and tore up, my son then was 8 months old, I covered my face and suddenly cried in froont of him. I cant believed what he did. He was trying to remove my hands out of my face and when he was not able to do it, he went near to me and suddenly touched my arms and cried silently. I was so touched. I hugged my son and I said that I will be super strong for him and for his father for I love them so much.

Sue · Sep 9, 2016

Children just have that way of giving you comfort and motivation. They inspire to be the best that you can be. They only be little but they quickly understand what is going on and they picked up on those days when you are not doing so well. You are blessed to have him and as he grows the bond between the two of you will grow stronger too. I am glad that you have him there with you. He maybe only be 6 but he is a smart little guy.

Surrender · Sep 9, 2016

@gracer isn't that so beautiful. I feel the same way, I am always so touched by the affection and just somehow "knowing" what I am going through.

It sounds like you have a close bond and that is such a blessing :smile:

Aree Wongwanlee · Oct 7, 2016

gracer said:
Thank you @Aree Wongwanlee. :smile: Indeed, having my son beside me gives me enough reason to keep on fighting and get through each day. You have such a wonderful son too and I'm happy for you because you have him there by your side at a time when you're really in need. Hearing stories like yours really touches my heart and inspires me a lot. I wish you a speedy recovery. :smile:

Thank you for your kind wishes. I certainly feel blessed to have such a good son. It's not that my other sons are less good. I understand that they have their own families to take care of. I am sure that if I asked any of my sons would be glad to have me live with them. I just don't want to impose. Even with this son, whom I am staying with, I want to get back on my own feet, physically and financially, as soon as possible. It's always good, as my grandmother used to say, to put your hand in your pocket and find your own money there.

djanx · Oct 9, 2016

Well, this is a very positive discussion and I love it. Children are always a source of strength for their parents. And the above posts just prove that point once again. While I don't have an experience as a parent with an adult child yet, I know that I played an important role as a source of support for my mother after my father passed away. And me and my dog basically kept her so busy and happy that she didn't even realize that a year had passed! After that she gained strength because she realized that she survived a year and she can go on.

TheKnight · Dec 2, 2016

Children can be a cure for many things. They make your mind stronger, they make you more responsible, and more prepared for life. The thought of being a parent can either make or break you. When it makes you, instincts kick in and most of the attention and care go for the child. In many occasions, I've experienced some of my family members getting over depression as soon as they have a child to care for. It's a pretty magical experience.

bunmmybukky · Dec 17, 2016

I loved that, God has created another counselor like Jesus for you. I will say that God in His wonderful power will protect and reserve your children for you.
God uses the children as an Angle on many occasion.

Robert Turner · May 14, 2017

Our children are truly the only worthwhile investment we will make in our lives. We have three sons, all out of school now and I have been separated from my wife and boys for work reasons now for over six months. My wife struggles with anxiety and is easily overwhelmed. I have always been with her to help her through the bad times and was immensely concerned about leaving her alone.

I soon realized that she wasn't alone. She has raised three incredibly sensitive caring boys and they have been there for her in my absence 100%. Sometimes we forget that the little people we have comforted over the years are an unconditional source of love and support. Not asking for their help is selfish amd dshonest. The act of caring and helping people you love is in itself one of the most satisfying experiences we can have. Don't ever deny your children the opportunity.

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